You have spent 4 years with a man that you love (but wouldn't say In love with) you never argue...you are basically best friends...you have fun together...but something is missing...that "spartk" "passion" etc...but you get along so well...it's probably the best relationship you have had and you have had the super passionaite ones...etc...but you now both agree to end it...but you both are very sad and it sucks....
Any oppinions? Anyone else have a reslationship like this?
2006-10-27 07:21:25 · 10 answers · asked by YourShopGirl.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him, you both deserve better the chance to have that happiness and "spark" with someone else and at the moment you're both just settling for comfortable.
You both have the world available to you if you just go out and find it.
A friend was in this situation and she now has the best boyfriend ever, she's still best mates with her former and the new boy is much better suited to her needs.
There is more than one person out there for each of us and maybe you and your current were only ever meant to be friends.
2006-10-27 07:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is crazy if you both enjoy each other, why end it?
It is so difficult in this world to have the kind of relationship you and your man have. I am married and I wish me and my husband could just get along. If you guys love each other stick together. There is nothing harder than to find a mate that can act as a best friend too. You guys need to wake up and see what a wonderful thing you both have!
2006-10-27 07:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sieanna K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two were probably long lost best friends. I haven't had a relationship exactly like that, but I have had a boyfriend who was kind, but there was no spark. I had to end it, I just knew he wasn't the love of my life, I had to move on. I think that you know when the person is your love. You could try and make it work, but you cannot force yourself to fall in love with him, but stay close, you guys probably know eachother well, and can support one another.
2006-10-27 07:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you'd end it. It sounds like real life to me. How silly to end something based on a "spark" when all relationships go through phases. The spark isn't found within the other person, it's something each partner brings. You find a zest for life, you do new things, you try new adventures... you don't dump a good, solid relationship because you've simply let yourselves be boring people.
2006-10-27 07:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you guys got too comfortable. If you used to have passion, maybe try mixing things up a bit. Do something you don't normally do. Surprise him! It sounds like you guys really do love each other. Good luck.
2006-10-27 07:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yes i have been in a relationship like this one and it was everything you described but it didn't work out i was with the man for 4 years and engaged with him......
but now i actually realized that it was for the best because after the break-up i found out he actually wasn't faithful to me...
my opinion is it probably for the best that you don't stay with him...
good luck
2006-10-27 07:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by SHORTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay friends, they are irreplaceable. One day the both of you will come across someone who will give you everything in life that you are dreaming about. Wish each other well!
2006-10-27 07:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just tease him relentlessly and be suggestive when you're talking to him, try to do something new because obviously you're just bored of doing the same old things. Try and act the way you did when you first started going out.
2006-10-27 07:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To stay would be to "settle"...best for both to move on (remain friends if you like) to meet someone with whom you do have spark/chemistry...for me, that is mandatory...
2006-10-27 07:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smack him with a brick please
2006-10-27 07:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋