I recently got married. It just everything is so different, the way we walk, talk, do anything. My husband is from a family where they disciple everyone and very close family ties. My parents family is close as well but pretty much no rules in the house. The kids are free and fly like birds. It's good and bad at the same time. My point is, it's so difficult for me. It's causing problem between us. My husband doesn't want my brother's kids over to our house since they are not disciple kids. If i say no to them for kids, they get mad at me. If i say it's okay then my husband gets bad. Well recently my bro and i got into big fight over this. He has been helping us so much with helping us find a fixer up house, fixing it and has done a lot. Now my bro and we dont speak over this issue. I feel so bad, since my bro and i never had any issue before. He has been very helpful but he doesn't want anyone to say bad to his kids. He feels if his kids are not welcome then he isn't either.
2006-10-27 07:09:30 · 3 answers · asked by R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The other problem is that when ever they are over. My bro or his wife dont watch them. They dont stop them for anything they are doing. If my husband say anything. Then they dont like it, that he's yelling at their kids. I get stuck in the middle. My husband is a clean freak so it makes it even more difficult.
2006-10-27 07:39:03 · update #1
Your brothers children need to respect the rules in your home. Your husband need to understand this may take many times of telling the children, please don't do this or that, it will take time. Your brother also has the right to feel unwelcomed if his children are not allowed in your home. Any good parent would feel that way. Your husband needs to lighten up some, and understand that the kids won't be in your hous long, just enjoy them being there.
Oh, please talk these issues over before you have children of your own, this is very important to understand where each of you are coming from so there wont be conflict in the future.
2006-10-27 07:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explain to your brother that when the kids are at your house they need to follow your rules. Not everyone lives lives as adults as they were raised by there parents. You grow up and become your own person. Kids need dicipline and will respect you in the long run. Hopfully your brother will understand.
2006-10-27 14:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by jewellee79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set rules and stick to them, Before the kids come to your house tell them there are rules that you will have to go by and if you don't think you can go by our rules then you can't come to see us. But first you and your husband need to set down and discuss what rules will be set. Oh ya and explain to the kids that if your in our home and disrespect use and our home you will be taken home Kids will play you so be careful.and don't give in
2006-10-27 14:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by rainbow_66436 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋