Potty Training my little girl.?

Question

I am having trouble getting my little girl to potty train. She is 3 1/2 years old, can use the potty, but will only use it when it suits her. I have tried everything from bribery, to letting her wear big girl panties, to begging her, and nothing has worked. She just will not give in and use the potty all of the time. Help!

Answer 1

Do not push it.Do not bribe or beg her.She will when she IS READY!!! Just be patient with her be positive.Use a sticker chart for each time she goes and reward her (PRAISE HER EVERY TIME!!) Also do not punish her!!

Answer 2

;My son is 3 1/2 and we are still working on potty training, at home he has very few accidents maybe 3-4 a week, but at preschool he has at least one or two a day. There has been 2 life changes in his life, and the daycare said that between those and when he is busy with an activity he doesn't want to leave it, they think he just doesn't think about it. Whatever you do do not get upset about it and make him feel bad for it. Praise him big time when he does go on the potty/toilet and she will get there when she is ready.

Answer 3

Set up a chart for her with a picture of the potty and every time she uses the potty praise her and let her put a sticker on the chart. Give each sticker either a point or cash value such as 10 points or cents per sticker. Everytime she has an accident put an 'x' throught a sticker and that counts as -5 or 10 points or cents. At the end of the week count up the stickers and award her money (10 cents a sticker w/ out an x) and let her buy a toy or give her points to go to Mcdonalds. You can also use the point system and just get a bunch of dollar toys ect and stick them in a treasure chest or box. Then she can see what she is saving her points or money for. Just mark each toy with a price tag of 50 cents or 1$. This also helps her with the concept of money and rewards her for good behavior.

Answer 4

My little girl is 3 1/2 also and she just got potty trained. I thought i would be changing her diapers for life. My main problem was that i was not consistent with her one week i would put her in diapers and the next would be under ware, i just got sick of trying so then i was consistent and when she would go in her paints i would spank her i know that sounds mean but for my child that was the only way i could get it through her head that she had to go on the potty. I also told her that she cant go to school until she goes on the potty everyday. That worked b/c she really wants to go to school. Iv also heard of parents taking away the child favorite toy. You also have to know that your child knows the feeling of when they have to go witch at 3 and 1/2 they should some kids just are not reedy especially when they have younger siblings.

Answer 5

It depends on your daughters personality. My oldest was 3 1/2 before he was potty trained. I never worked with him but literally overnight he was potty trained (pee, poop, overnight, never had to be reminded). My youngest is 3 1/2 now and we're not even close. I'll ask him if he want's to go potty but he says no. I strongly am a parent that doesn't push my children into learning milestones. They'll learn it when they want to. But also remember that she may not be learning because of a traumatic experience...moving, new baby in the house, etc...may make her regress. If it was me and I even had a daughter (I live with house full of boys!!) than everytime that I went potty I would ask if she wanted to try. Huggies.com has some good information. Parents.com has a great forum to ask potty training. Essentially remember what works for one child doesn't for another. BE POSITIVE. If she doesn't go potty in the toilet but she at least sat on the toilet and "tried" than congratulate and make a BIG deal about it. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 6

Oh my gosh! You and I must have the twin daughters seperated at birth! LOL I am have the SAME problem with my daughter. She has control and knows the feeling when she has to pee but will only go in the potty when she wants to... Drives me crazy!!! What has really worked for us is positive reinforcement. I found something she loves which is drawing a line on her arm with washable marker. We do this everytime she sits on the potty (even if she does not pee). At the end of the day she has several lines and is very proud so to show everyone. The next day I use quarters. A quarter each time she sits on potty and tries. At end of day we go to Big Lots and she can buy toy with her quarters. The next day we blew bubbles everytime she sat on the potty. Messy but very fun. I try to change it everyday so it is something she looks forward to. Good luck!

Answer 7

•Let your child practice sitting on the potty or the commode, with or without clothes, to help build familiarity with the new process.

•Be sure your child's clothing is easy to pull on and off.

Avoid buttons, snaps and belts during potty training.

•Praise, praise, praise, whenever the child is willing to sit and try to go.

Remember that sitting for more than 10 seconds is progress.

•Don't expect something to happen every time. If nothing happens, tell them ''That's OK, or ''Good try, we'll try again later.''

•Don't put too much pressure on them by just standing and watching. Be prepared to keep them company by reading aloud or singing a song to pass the time.

•Praise your child for every deposit in the potty chair, especially during early learning stages.

•Remember the toilet seat can seem awfully big to your child.

An adapter seat and a step-stool can make it feel more secure. If you don't have an adapter seat, let them sit facing sideways or even backward for a more secure position.

•Keep toilet paper where little hands can reach it.

•Never, never, NEVER punish your child for an accident. Clean up in a matter-of-fact way, no matter how hard that may be to do.

Remember, they're LEARNING. They won't get it right every time. A child anxious to please may agonize over what they think is shameful behavior because of your reaction.

•Always accompany your child into public restrooms.

Answer 8

My son is 12 now but when he was potting trainning I met a mother that told me that they way she got her little girl to potty train is she bought her pocahontas underware (Maybe not the right spelling) and her daughter didn't want to pee on pochontas so she learned to pee where she was supose to so that she would not do that. Maybe you could try buying her a favorite charcter of underware and helping her with that. They also have kids books on helping children potty train. Check your local bookstore. You can read to them while they are on the potty. Also being in some ones care who takes care of other children may do the trick. When I had to use a babysitter outside of the home she had children who were already potty trainned and my son would only come to her to get his pants zipped up.. I would send potty pants but he would come back with the pants I sent. But when he was at home he would use them up. She said that it was because he was around older kids that were already potty trained and he wanted to be just like them. They were children that weren't school age yet but past potty trainning. hope that this helps. Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

My kids all (5 of them)sort of potty trained themselves-anywhere from 15 months to 3 1/2 years of age. It seems the more we push, the more problems we create!

Answer 10

Go easy on her. Do not use bribery, do not beg. Just use positive reinforcement. I am assuming you are a woman. Get your husband in on the act and just cheer her on when she does use the potty. It is entirely normal for her to refuse the potty: it is part of her affirming her individuality...but if you and your husband don't put pressure on her and just support and encourage her when she does, she'll be trained in 3 months...guaranteed. I've seen this with my own two children. My son particularly was resistent, but when he started to fell proud of of himself, he just took to it like a fish to water.

Answer 11

I've definitely heard that and going by my experience with my son, its true. I've never had a girl so I can't really say but it was awfully hard to train him, particularly difficult for #2. He finally started going #2 on the potty consistently around his 3rd birthday. #1 was very easy though.