Kay so I am going on a date with a guy who hasn't dated in a couple years. (The reason's not important, nuf said that it is not because he's not cute/smart/nice, etc.) Anyways, he seems very shy and nervous. What should I know about guys who haven't dated for this long? How can I make him feel more comfortable?
2006-10-27 06:58:26 · 20 answers · asked by M K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the good advice!! Keep it coming. FYI I am not nervous about this, just looking for tips on how to make him relaaaaax. (And no guys a BJ on the way to dinner is not happening. Thanks for nothin.) :o)
2006-10-27 07:06:28 · update #1
juss chill out
2006-10-27 07:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of guys that go a couple of years without dating, because they serve a mission for a church. Some of them hop back into the dating scene with no problem, but others go through a transition period. Just take things slow and be comfortable yourself. I find that if you do something fun and get him laughing, then they relax and can get more comfortable quickly.
2006-10-27 14:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say don't harp on the fact that he hasn't dated, just treat him normally, and overlook any quirks like weirdness when the check comes, or opening doors. Since it sounds like you have plenty of experience, be the person to take care of the weird moments and make it a good date for both. I had to put up with a lot of inexperience dating from a boyfriend and now he's my husband, with all the skills of dating. It is possible to teach them, just be nice about it, and good luck!
2006-10-27 14:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to make a guy comfortable when he hasn't dated in a while... is to make him shoot a load early.
That's about the most relaxing thing than can happen for a guy.
So either make with the head a little early in your date, or give him a hand job on the way to the restaurant. Whatever.
But let him deploy the Casper Army and he'll be fine.
2006-10-27 14:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's a good question i haven't dated in over a year and i could imagine being shy and nervous you best bet is to probably be really open with him just show him that your not shy and talk to him about it also you should be the one that initiates any kind of contact don't think he wont like it because its been 2 years since hes had anything
2006-10-27 14:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by falsman14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and DO something fun with him. Go to the golf driving range, go do a batting cage with him, go play pool, etc. Guys tend to bond better when there is an activity involved. He'll also find that you're a great girl with lots of other talents! Just don't beat him too bad at pool...
2006-10-27 14:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he want to date you? He must be
interested in you, no? Well, why not lead things
and talk about yourself and then gently encourage
him to talk about himself. Why not treat the 'date' as
a meeting of two people who just want to get to
know each other a little bit better, rather than his
first date in years.
Take it easy; the second date will be much more
comfortable.
EF
2006-10-27 14:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by Ego Fatigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever I have dated anyone I have always just relaxed and been myself. There is either chemistry there or there isn't.
If you think he's uncomfortable, you can help him feel more at ease by being patient and a good listener. If you smile and show genuine interest, he should eventually relax and be himself.
2006-10-27 14:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go to public places with him,it'll just make him more nervous thinking everyone is staring at him in addition to trying to impress you
just do low key stuff, like go for a walk in the park (where it's relatively private)until he suggests going somewhere else
2006-10-27 14:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by XeRoX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that u should start the conversation: like you could say:' Ooh my gosh my mother made the best pizza last night and It was so good: then he could be like oh I like pizza or something>.... you should try yo make easy conversations about little stuff and then move on ...................but NEVER stay quiet!!! that will make him more nervous...good luck!
2006-10-27 14:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by Vanesa G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe someone burnt him bad;
You may be lucky and get all the good stuff that this guy has to offer from............and none of the guy crap.
2006-10-27 14:00:40 · answer #11 · answered by Amanda D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋