2006-10-27 06:57:45 · 13 answers · asked by lil_missy06_10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are judging your current boyfriend by what other men have done to you then you are in the wrong, and you are aren't ready for a another serious relationship just yet. Not a bad thing, take you time and enjoy being single. When you feel ready to start with a clean slate and not carry over any emotional baggage then start looking for that "one." However, that is not saying that you can be stupid and fall for the same tricks those other guys pulled over you. You learn from your mistakes and are better for it.
In Conclusion:
Don't judge the man before he does anything, but learn to trust your instincts from hard earned experience.
2006-10-27 07:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by ctrfrink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping your guard up is not a bad thing but keeping you guard up should be because it is a new relationship and you don't know that person well yet. You should not bring baggage from the past into the new, cuz the mistakes made in the past whether it was you or him should be learned from. Do not harbor on those bad relationships because he as the new guy will be turned off and overwhelmed and may figure that this is more then he can handle. If he is a jerk then you will get your red flags in the door. It doesn't take long. you have to spend alot of time with someone to get to know them, all dirt evetually rolls out.
2006-10-27 14:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Charisma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you have not been careful with the other dudes. What do you think is the greatest possession that you have. You like a guy and you do not care being intimate with the guy without getting to know him well. You expose yourself to getting hurt. So every dude is different
2006-10-27 14:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just have have trust in ur realationship else if there's no trust then there's no point of having the realtionship cuz u dont want to be thinking all the time about whats happened in the past and thinki9ng maybe its gonna happen now else ur never gonna have a gr8 relationship wiv someone if ur gonna think they culd hurt u
ive been in a relationship where ive been hurt in relationships but now ive been wiv my fella for a year now well it will be a year in november
take care hunny
2006-10-27 14:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets hope that you have learned from your past mistakes and chose a different type of guy this time. He deserves the chance to earn your respect on HIS OWN merit and NOT be judged on YOUR past experiences. Its hard I know but you should give him the benefit of the doubt.
2006-10-27 14:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop blaming the new guy for the sins of the old one. Until the new guy actually does something bad, give the poor bastard a break.
2006-10-27 13:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know-- how can you trust yourself if you've made bad choices in dudes? He may or may not be trustworthy, but it's up to you to make smart choices when it comes to boyfriends.
2006-10-27 14:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame the new guys and think they'll be just like him.
In time you will see he may not be the bad dude.
:)
2006-10-27 14:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by Courtney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can trust him 100% if you want to but if you dont trust him 100% then why are you dating him?
2006-10-27 14:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant trust him 100%...not if you dont want to. If you don't open up to him you'll lose him for sure. I suggest you open up to him and in turn he'll continue to open up to you.
2006-10-27 14:04:12 · answer #10 · answered by blufiah_tam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋