i am very bossy, i want everything to be my way, how can i change myself?

Answer 1

LOL So am I so if you figure out the answer let me know. I sometimes think its all to do with being a Taurus. What Zodiac sign are you may I ask?

Answer 2

Maybe you're just bossy and want your way because you are afraid that if you don't look out for yourself then nobody else will look out for you. Most everyone feels like this to some degree. Maybe you could figure out what your motives are for being bossy and then find other ways besides being bossy to address things. Be patient with yourself and realize that everybody else has faults they need to change also.

Answer 3

Try to see the view of the others, there could be something that you are missing out. I speak from experience and what has helped me also is before I respond to anything I go through a thought process:

What if it's me being told the same thing, how would I feel?

What if I am wrong?

Do I gain respect in responding the way I am or do they sneer on my back...

I also deliberately allow people to make mistakes before I can correct them., this way, we are both addressing the same issue from the same side.

Realize that nobody has a monopoly of knowledge and there are several ways of doing the same thing.

Let your goal as you respond be to help somebody be better, a better student, child, manager and this can only be achieved when you are in the same team without one person beoing glorified and all the others are surbordinate:(
...without bossing or showing off, regardless of how much you genuinely know...that hurts but it works.

As you respond, ask yourself what am I saying? why am I saying it? Do I have a point here or should I pass? The wisest people are gentle speakers but radiant listners

Finally what really worked best for me was to get involved in mentoring programs where young people would ask general questions which required research...that slowed me down.

Don't give up in trying, you'll get there!

Answer 4

well at least u took the first step, which is acknowledging the problem :).

how bout u try to take a deep breath and calm down when things don't go your way....try to focus on how You act and react to situations, instead of thinking how others "should" do things, start thinking of ways for Yourself to change. for example, let's say ur with ur friends, and they want to go to mcdonald's, and u wanna go somewhere else. always try to Suggest, Cajole, Joke Around, Explain YOUR reasons why..but NEVER get upset if they don't agree. it's a stupid example, but the point is u need to work on how you COMMUNICATE your ideas and wants to others, and how to persuade or impress what Positive reasons WHY your ideas may be better use...for the good of the group. and in the end if ur ideas are not used, it's ok, as long as you were Trying something positive for everyone.. there's no reason to get mad. good luck, and try not to get upset. keep an open mind.. remember, when u want to do things your way and ignore others, they may be doing the SAME thing and there will be no compromise.

Answer 5

You've done the first step. Acknowledging the fact, now you have to honestly look inside and find out why you act that way. Why do you feel that's the only way you are in control of yourself? Usually those who have to dictate everything to everybody else don't like themselves very much and don't trust themselves. One step at a time...Make yourself not take over once and really look at the whole situation afterwards. Was it something that it really didn't matter if it was done YOUR WAY or not? Afterall..there's more ways than one to do things right.

Bottom line is STOP THINKING ABOUT YOU YOU YOU

Answer 6

You sound like a controlling person. If you do not change you will find yourself with out friends. I understand where your coming from, I have the same issues. You just have to bite your lip and try not to say anything, you have to let things go. It is difficult, but as soon as you do you will see a difference in the people you care about, they will be more open and friendly. Good luck.

Answer 7

I wouldn't change a thing. I met a girl who is very bossy and insists on having everything her way. I bought her a knockout diamond ring and we're engaged.

Answer 8

Why don't you seek counseling? Sometimes it's more difficult to change yourself without the help of someone else. I had the same problem years ago, and i thought that counseling was not going to help, but surprisingly it did! I realized letting someone know my frustrations about not changing or other things going on my life, was easier than trying to figue it out on my own.

Answer 9

Take two alligator clips and attach them to your nipples, when you feel yourself feeling a little too bossy, give them a little pull. If you don't straighten up then do it agin this time only twist them also. If that doesn't help I can't help.

Answer 10

Im the exact same way, i liie verying my way or no way. umm i would say the best thing to do is to always but others first and you were get so far instead of putting you first. God should come first then other ppl and you would or should always come last no matter what. Try it ppl will reaconize when you put other fist.