I have always ending up dating losers...and now that i have found a great guy and I know he will pop the question any time now! Does it seem to soon to be planning your life with someone so soon?
2006-10-27 06:47:45 · 18 answers · asked by mslatin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think so.
We were together for a little over 9 months when we got engaged, although we were discussing marriage well before that.
By the time we get married will have been engaged for about 14 months.
I say if you're both feeling like youre ready for that commitment, go for it, but dont rush it.
I would suggest allowing the engagement itself to last for some time.
Best of luck to you!
2006-10-27 06:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by obsolete_allurement 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is too soon!
You feel that he is a great guy just because he's a little better than the guys you normaly date..and why should that make him pop the question?
Anyway, it will depends on how mature you both are and how much you have to lose!
If your under thirty, get to know the guys parents.
The way his Mother relates to his Dad and how he feels about his Mother will be a infallible technique for discovering what he will expect from you as a wife and his expectations in life, with FEW exceptions.
The way his Dad acts in general will be what he will turn into later.
Infact even if you don't hold up your parents up as an ideal that needs reapeating and you swear up and down that you aren't going to be like that, you WILL!
Some things CAN be changed, but your upbringing will have a lot to do with the way you bring up your family and the decisions you make!
The same will be true for him.
Atleast keep in mind, many of the things that we feel are good reasons to get married are forgotton or false after a time and what is left over is what's important!
It might seem silly now or unimportant, but do his parents eat at the same table? Do they relate when they are alone?
If they DON'T, chances are you WON'T, either!
If he is definitely a keeper ,what I say will have to effect on the outcome.
It's not possible to know everything and be 100% sure of a perfect match, but it doesn't hurt to do a little investigating before you make any decisions that can't be changed easily or will be life altering!
Unlike 'harry', getting married is not that easy. Instead of depending on luck to decide your fate, consider that, the length of time you spend with him before marrige will have a definite effect on how long you're together after!
2006-10-27 07:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Yes! Yes! He may be very well the man you are going to marry but I would definitly give it a minumum of 2 years together. You have to understand how it is to live with him and do your everyday plans with him. Would you care if he never closed the shower curtain? I know it sounds so small and stupid but those little things are what tears apart relationships. You'll be thinking in your head "it's so simple why can't he just close the shower curtain or do the dishes once in a while"...Then it will snowball into other things. After 2 years you will be able to see if all the little things are things you don't like but that you can look past and love him for who he is.
2006-10-27 07:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no perfect time for everyone. I would strongly suggest you guys go through pre-marital counseling. It's very helpful whether or not you're religious. It focuses on the main areas of marriage that are often problems, etc. and that way you can discuss with a mediator any issues you may not be compatible on. If you feel it's too soon, just be honest about that. Getting engaged or married to avoid disappointing someone is a sorry way to begin. However, if you are, go for it with both eyes wide open...then after marriage close one of them! ; ) Best of luck!
2006-10-27 07:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel except he was a first boyfriend and we knew it was God's wil for us to be together. After three months of being together he said I love fro the first time and at that point I knew he was the one for me but he wasn't at thet stage yet. As we dated we talked about what we wanted with our lives and how we would raise are kids. We were very open about everything. I know at times I brought up marriage to much and he would get annoyed. He told me that he knew we would get married after six months so having that feeling of being is okey at 8 months. He ended up proposing after a year and a half of being together. We got married 9 months later. I think it is great that you feel ready to move into that part of your life but please make sure you know and just wait him out he will ask you when he feels the time is right. Marriage is the most amazing thing ever but there is alot of things that will change and it is good to have a comforting spouse that understands. I wish you the best and just remember to give it time it will happen and it is way cooler when you have no idea it is coming. If you ever need to talk or have any other questions let me know I am still a Newlywed so I am learning too!
2006-10-27 06:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsay H 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it really all just depends on you! do you like this guy? would you wanna be with him in the future? i mean getting married is a big thing. make sure you give it a lot of thought and all before you decide to say the i do's. also you can say yes to the engagement and say but you would like to hold off on the wedding for a bit.
2006-10-27 06:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by Rally 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met and married my wife in exactly 9 months. We just knew that we were destined to be together. No she wasnt pregnant when we married, in fact we waited 6 years before we had our first. We are celebrating our 37th anniversary next March 21st, If you are sure.. go for it!!!
2006-10-27 06:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by hharry_m_uk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get engaed but do not rush the marriage. Take it from Senor Pig, you need to be with someone at least 12 months before you really know them.
2006-10-27 06:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea you should wait at leas until a year so you can get to know eachother a little more better. well congrats on finding a great guy but if he really loves you and you really love him then you guy will want to wait a little more just to know enough about eachother. i hope everything works out for you
2006-10-27 07:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by SexyAmby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no but u might think it is love i have 2 friends that were only dating for about 6 months and they got married earlier this month and now they r living with each other and marriage isnt wat they expected i dont think they have had a full day of not yelling at each other since they got back from their honeymoon.
2006-10-27 07:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by bigizz75 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋