I met my goal of losing 10 pounds.At first I thought it would boost my confidence but it hasnt, why hasn't it?

Question

This summer I gained 10 pounds. It made me feel very insecure and decided to exercise and eat healthy. I have met my goal of losing 10 pounds and I should feel happy, but I don't. I still feel unhappy about myself and not sure why? I figured losing weight would make me feel less jealous ( i have a girlfriend who loves me to death) and boost my confidence but I feel ever more jealous and insecure. why do I feel jealous when I know i'm a really good guy and she's an awesome girl. I do admit i have low self confidence but I shouldnt feel this way. please help, thank you

I'm 25, 5' 6" and used to weight 158 and now I weigh 148. I'm really good looking, college graduate, and have my own house.

I shouldn't feel this way since i'm good looking and still feel insecure

Answer 1

duh you already said it.... it's low self confidence, that comes from within and has little to do with how you look

Answer 2

The reason that you aren't happy with losing the weight is because you lost it for the wrong reasons. Instead of losing weight for your own benefit, you lost the weight in hopes of impressing everyone. If you already have a girlfriend who loves you, you don't need to do anything to impress her because she loves you just the way you are. You may be feeling jealous in fear of not measuring up to other guys, but you need to get over that and accept how God made you. Don't feel the need to compare yourself to other people, just be happy with yourself. After all, if your girlfriend loves you that much, maybe she sees something in you that you don't see. Take some time out and learn to love yourself and you'll be on your way to a confident, new you. Good luck.

Answer 3

I lost 70lbs but not to gain self-confidence. To try and lose weight to feel better about the way you look is the wrong reason in my book. I feel weight loss is for health and normally when one is healthy they are more confident. However if you're still having confidence issues you may try and look deeper within yourself. You have the answer, just take the time to speak with yourself and figure out what the problem is.

Answer 4

Just a question to you.....Is your girlfriend really outgoing and fun? Are you afraid that your missing something she already has? And were you jealous of her, or jealous of other people hitting on her? If she loves you like you say, then you should be proud of the love you two share! She loves you because of who you are, so maybe that scares you a little? Are you happy with yourself? Is there something that you wish you had that you don't right now?

Maybe you two should talk about what makes each other happy and you will find what it really is that is upsetting you!
Good luck and know that she loves you because you are who you are!

Answer 5

Yah, like changing out of your ugly red pants is gonna make you feel more confidant, right? Well, loosing weight, make-up, being a door-mat, none of these will inspire confidance, in fact, will just make you feel like your following others rules..

If you wnt to be healthy, great, if you want to exercise, good for you, but don't do it to make others want you, it isn't in the cards. Do it for you.

Jealousy, it's a nasty habit, not an emotion! I swear! You see her looking at someone and you flip? why? because she should never look at someone, and such a action requires a violent emotional outburst? ok, need a valium maybe?

Look inwards buddy!

Answer 6

I watched my mom battle weight issues my whole life One day she said she had lost 5 lbs and she didn't seem happy about it Her attitude was she didn't think it was significant because her size hadn't changed That afternoon I went to the store and made a point to buy everything I could (and still make use of) in the portion of 5lb weight when I got home I invited my mom over I had everything laying out in the kitchen she looked real confused and asked me what I was doing I pro-ceded to show her what 5lbs was take a good look at 5lbs of butter or in your case 10lbs better yet rice can you imagine what would happen to your kitchen if you could cook 10lbs of rice at once. Cheer up life is depressing enough but its just got to be looked at in a different view now and again it can be fun at every corner if you just try it in a different view It can be 10lbs said that way it is 10lbs but looked at as a visual 10lbs of butter sitting on the table or picture 10lbs of rice boiling over and out of the pot on the stove it really is in how you want to look at it.

Answer 7

I can't answer this question without knowing what percentage of your body is represented by this 10 pounds. If you weigh 300, then I don't think it really matters. You need to look yourself on the inside and figure out what is wrong. Fixing the outside is not helping!

Answer 8

if you can't find anything to love about your self,then you are in deep shi*.If your girl leaves you or stays with you should have no bearing on who you are.If you know you are a good person then that alone should make you happy.not many people can say they are good people.Most spend their lives wavering between good and bad and the bad winning out,so love who you are for who you really are and you will be happy,with or with out a girl in your life.I always say that if a man leaves me it's truly his loss because that's how good a person I am.

Answer 9

Honey, you have to realize how wonderful you are on the inside, and then whether you are ten pounds over or under weight, you will like yourself.

Answer 10

Men don't set goals to lose weight. We get fat. We laugh about it.

I think you're problem is that you're secretly gay.

And you're not happy with life in the closet.

Answer 11

Well, obviously, your insecurity wasn't rooted in your size, it was based on something else. I can't tell you what your insecurities might really be based on, you might not even be able to identify it yourself right now.