My boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a year and it's been great, really. well, lol a couple months ago football season started and well hes been gone most weekends to football games. we dont go to the same school so i never see him there. Lately, he'll hangout with his friends everyday after school and then fridays too. I'm lucky if i see him three times a week. Right now it's about one time a week. i just don't know how to face him and tell him. he says he loves me just as much as i love him and i really believe him it's just if he did, wouldnt he want to see me as much as i want to see him?
2006-10-27 06:41:59 · 19 answers · asked by Alicia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give him an ultimatum, you or them
2006-10-27 06:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
First of all you are young (you said you are still in school) so sorry to say this is probably not the man you will be spending the rest of your life with anyways. I know you don't want to hear it but sweetie, it's just reality.
Second, let him know how you feel. If he really does care about you then he will either stop hanging out with the boys so much or invite you to come along too.
If neither of these things happen, get rid of him. I know it will be hard but I promise you that you will find someone who really wants to be with you, not just when it works for them.
With every door that you close, two more will open.
2006-10-27 21:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by Crazy n Confused - PHSYCO 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand u... Its good to be around friends and not be up each others rear all the time, but yea he could at least tell u what he is doing and maybe even ask to see if wanna hang out with them. U need to talk to him and tell him how u feel otherwise he will never know and then its gonna ball up inside u and u may go off on him and say something u didnt mean to..
just talk to him... its alwyas the best thing to do.. how will he know if u dont
2006-10-27 06:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. The guy was a football player... we both went to different schools. He would hang out with his friends more than me. I would keep asking when I would see him next. He would never voluntarily ask when he'd want to see me. I put too much effort into it. Thank God I only gave it a month ...
Talk to him.
2006-10-27 06:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to football, men can't get enough of all the games and the excitement. You should tell him how you feel and think about joining him and his friends sometimes. The the next few months you will see less of him. Football, Baseball and Basketball.
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-27 06:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by loves2dream2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure there are times when you just want to hang out with your friends...i wouldn't worry about it he'll come back to you full time after football season.in the meantime you could try going with him a couple times,and fake an interest in football and ask him to explain the game to you and ask questions about it while your watching it..it'll bring you closer if he thinks your interested.
later in the year you can take to something you like (ballet??) all the time
2006-10-27 06:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by XeRoX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to a football game with him. Show him that you are interested in football. Once you make this effort, maybe he will want to spend more time with you. Also, let him spend time with the guys. You should spend time with your friends too. It doesn't have to take away from your relationship.
2006-10-27 06:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by Racewalking Invicta Swami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play hard to get. Make an excuse the next time he calls or visits. You are not going to loose anything. Sometimes you have to do things that you heart won't let you. You may as well know the truth now.
2006-10-27 06:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by stewart j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok,me and my boyfriend have been dateing for 4 years and were only 13 and 15 he is 15 im 13 but i dont care and honestly i love hanging out with him but he loves hanging with his friends so we talked and now he makes time for me and his friends talk to your boyfriend ask him to start makeing time for both me and danny spend more time it 2 days that we had in the last 2 years well close now we are very close but we have time for both now so i hope my advice helps alot
2006-10-27 06:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I played football, and you get really close to the team, but no way was i trying to hang out with them 24/7. he might like you, but not as much as he says he does. try hanging out with him in guy settings, sports, action movies, etc.
2006-10-27 06:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by SpinKick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sometimes boys don't want to hang around with their girlfriends and talk about feelings or whatever. Teenage boys get tired of being tied down and like to go to football games and be with their friends because they're teenage boys. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it just means he's a teenage boy who has other interests.
2006-10-27 06:46:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋