on dating sites but nothing!!! so anyone any ideas coz i still have to see my husband all the time as he has only moved a 5 min walk from my house and its gutting me..i cant move as i have a son with autisim and need this house thats why im finding it hard to meet new people is there anyone nice out there that dont just want me to send them pics of my lady bits????
2006-10-27 06:41:19 · 20 answers · asked by smiff78 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to allow yourself time to 'grieve' over the situation and find your own feet. The fact that still seeing him around 'is gutting' you tells me so. A new relationship whilst you are still hurting is not the answer. When you can see him and not feel gutted, but thankful, will be the time for a new relationship. There is no fast track answer it takes a varying amount of time for every individual. Try to think what is positive about your new situation, there will be something, I'm sure. This is a time to take stock, decide what you want for the future and work out how best you can reach your ideal situation. Don't settle for any relationship just because you miss being part of a couple. You are still a bit vulnerable, and that could lead you into an unsatisfactory relationship just because. If you took that route you would, potentially, be setting yourself up for more hurt before you have come to terms with this current hurt.
2006-10-27 07:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard starting again after a break up...and having kids makes it even harder!
Getting out to clubs and things is only ok if you can get childcare...and that usually has a cost attached.
Even though the ex lives fairly close, he would probably not be too keen to look after your boy if he thought you might be enjoying yourself with a new guy (men are selfish like that...its fine for them but not for you)
Where getting over your husband is concerned...well hun thats down to you...if you still love him...but he's moved on with someone new, you are just going to have to swallow down hard and wash that man right outta your hair!
Think about it....if he can switch it on and off like a light when it comes to love...then is he worth a light?
I think not. If you can get someone to look after your son for an evening..get out there and kick those heels up...show him your life doesn't revolve around him....treat yourself to a facial and pampering session (big hints for Chrimbo prezzies!)...get your hair done and shop for you for a change (some new gear)..let him see you look a million dollars even if you feel like poop.
I do wish you the best...and if you don't work, consider some part time...you never know who's eyes will meet yours in a workplace!!!
2006-10-27 08:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by lippz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send me a pic of your t#ts and i'll tell you.
Seriously, don't be in a rush to meet someone. spend some quality time with your son knowing that you have his love all the time whereas your ex is now just a part time parent. I think that a lot of internet dating sites are for perverts and married men looking for a bit on the side.
get out when you can to socialize, you will meet some one sooner or later
2006-10-27 06:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by jabelite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that getting into a new relationship is going to help, with so much hurt within you it would be doomed to failure which is the last thing you need right now.
I am in a similar situation to you except that it was my wife who left me, I do understand the pain you are feeling and if you need someone to talk to as a friend just email me.
Remember that each day that passes you are a day closer to finding someone who will treat you better and make you happy.
2006-10-27 09:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bummer. Im really gutted for you. I dont know wot to say. Just concentrate on spending time with your family and friends at the mo. Another man in your life right now might not be a good thing. Mr right will come when he is ready. Take care of yourself and your son and hang in there. Sorry x
2006-10-27 06:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by kelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the smart way to meet new people is to take your time. If your ex is dating thats his thing. Be smart you said you have a child with autism then thats another reason to take it slowly. You will meet someone if the time is right no mater where you are. Try church, go out with girlfriends. Let your heart heal before jumping into something else. Have girl time. Good Luck.
2006-10-27 06:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by littlemama 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont wory about finding someone new, it'll happen when the time is right. My tried and tested advice is join a gym - exrercise is so good for u - releases loads of happy chemicals. just go to classes - you'll be in and out and have a total work out - i find i dont push myself too hard if i'm in the gym, but am forced to in classes. you'll meet new people too. getting over your hub isnt just about meeting new men - fill your life with new friends - male and female.
good luck
XX
2006-10-27 07:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by third space 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can understand your need to talk to people....but maybe a relationship is too soon...you need to get over him..i am guessing he has someone so you think you need to as well...don't rush it girl...remember good things come to those that wait...if it is a sexual frustration well i am sure you can sort that yourself(not being dirty)if it a need for friends then the school playground or maybe get someone to look after your son for a night a week will help....does your ex have the lad overnight???if so make the most of it and go and socialise...all that said i think you still have feelings for your ex...if so it takes a long long time for them to go
all the best...hoping you come through it robxxx
2006-10-27 08:26:18 · answer #8 · answered by robert h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey I knew you'd get loads of answers recommending grieving for your loss, and taking me time but this is what I say. When you are laid on your deathbed wil you regret the time you wasted grieving and feeling sorry for yourself. Yes!!! Get over him. Get logged onto myspace.com, set up a profile and see what happens. Sometimes when you look too hard you never find what it is you are looking for. Let them come find you. Good luck honey as I was in the same position. Keep smiling.
2006-10-27 07:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by bellefemme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to convince yourself that you are better off without your husband. Once he is the one that walked out it means you were not ready to end the relationship so in order to move forward you need to get to the point where you can see the positive side of him being gone.
2006-10-27 06:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋