2006-10-27 06:28:23 · 18 answers · asked by C.C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're allowed to care for someone, not trust them, and end it with them. You're allowed to feel pain for what they did, and a sense of loss for what will never be. Over time, these feelings fade and you become more and more sure that breaking up with someone who betrayed you was the right thing to do.
2006-10-27 06:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN UP!
Two important points here:
1) ACTIONS speak louder than words. He cheated (that is the first action). And his reaction (not to the guilt of having cheated but to having been caught, it seems) is TO BUY you off by giving you a "token" of his affections. How cliche! If he feels remorse for cheating (and not just bad about beng caught), his ACTIONS would reflect as much. In place of roses or expensive gifts, he would give you something worthy of trust--say, his open and sincere apology, follwed by building a foundation upon which you can regain your trust.
Long term, jewelry and flowers are easier to come by than respect and trust. But I think you know which is far more valuable to you. . . .
Second, as my grandmother always told me, "if you are hearing bells, then something must be ringing." In this case, you obviously hear a bell going off, sense that something is not right. EXACTLY! If you feel you cannot trust someone, then there are years of experience and any number of built-in mechanisms that are contributing to your feelings.
You think you cannot trust? Then, you have your answer--you already know you cannot trust him. And until he can do something substantial--and this won't happen over night, over a cup of coffee, of with a nice present on occasions of weakness on his part--ou should listen to this bell.
It is ringing LOUD and CLEAR.
The ball may be in his court (or so he thinks), but you control your heart and ultimately must be responsible for "cutting your losses," for taking yourself out of what is obviously a bad situation. After all, it was NOT YOU who cheated. . . .
2006-10-27 13:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by minsung_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to get off the subject but he didn't bough you roses he brought you roses and you didnt cough him cheating..you caught him cheating. Anyway...if you cant trust him...get rod...I mean rid of him.
2006-10-27 13:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let me tell you this because I don't want you to make this mistake. He may have apologized and everything, but in his mind, he thinks that he can have his cake and eat it to. Reason I said that is because as long as he think he can bring you gifts to forgive him, he'll continue to do it. So stand your ground and let him know that you aren't a yoyo and he isn't going to have you going up and down on the relationship and that you deserve better!!!! And if he really loves you, why did he cheat? If he can't answer, girl I say let him go. !!! He made his bed and now he has to lay in it!! By HIMSELF!
2006-10-27 13:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by frakmomma04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the roses and tell him to shove them up his *** and then tell him to hit the road. Without 100% trust there can be no real relationship.
2006-10-27 13:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he will cheat on you again that's for sure especially if it took something as simple as roses to wash it all away.....i couldn't stay with someone i couldn't trust........even if i really really really really liked roses........which I'm sure you will get plenty of if you stay in this relationship.....hey if you are going to stay with him at the very least make him by jewelry next time....you are selling yourself a little short.
2006-10-27 13:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by funkyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, imagine the scales, on one side there lies that humiliation u felt when u caught him and on the other a bunch of roses, now ask urself what is going to win? i know it's going to be hard, but in this case it's better to call it a day.
2006-10-27 13:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by frida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Everytime he messes up, he'll just try to butter you up with more roses.
If you can live like this, just stay with him.
2006-10-27 13:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by Yay for Summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cheater who buys flowers, cars or even diamonds is still just a CHEATER!
Talk to him see if he is sincere if he is forgive him and move on if he is not, drop em like it's hottttttta
2006-10-27 13:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by wanting to know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when someone is cheating they loses interest at the house and home try some new stuff in the bedroom
2006-10-27 13:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by beast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋