wat can i do to keep his interest? (men only)?

Question

we been together for 3 yrs now and have baby and all that but i wana know wat keeps a man interested in long relationships without strayin away to others

Answer 1

I can tell you why - Im a man and being a man Im consumed with sex running in my mind (among other things of course). With that, Id like our love making not to become boring. My woman should be creative, extremely sexy, adventurous and willing (no headaches please). Men stray for something "new". But Ive had relationships with incredible sex but we all know relationships cannot survive around that fact. You will have to tend to the non-sexual aspects of it and a woman who doesnt make her man feel like he's the best is going to be shown that she isnt either...

Answer 2

1) the normal break-up years are 1,3,5,7,20.
2) open honest communication all along is the best way to move forward.
3) understand that a MOM's first consideration is to the baby, that is, once the babies come along, dad takes a back seat to the them. That's just the natural way it works.. This is o.k. however, remember that in the animal kingdom we are the ones that eat the kids... You literally grew the child and that is very real to you.. We did not. the child isn't truly real for us until they actually pop-out.
4) just be aware of your attention, don't expect him to feel the same as you when it comes to the kids.. We do love them but it's not the same..
5) Make it a point to give him the kind of attention you did when you were courting. Courting is truly what we like about you in the first place.. Never forget that.
6) Men often stray because there is no courtship at home and someone out there is making it clear that courting is just what she wants.... Oh, we are so creatures of habit.

Answer 3

Rachael, men will only become open, communicative, honest, committed, authentic and interested, over time. Men generally will go only as "deep" in a relationship as their women demand them to go. If a man does not have to make the legal commitment of marriage, he won't. If a man can have sex with you, move in with you to have sex, without more commitment than that, he will. Men are poor creatures generally, and have to work constantly to overcome this. Women have a much easier time developing commitment because they are the better gender generally, but also because their "pictures" are different than men's pictures. Women's pictures are created when they are very small and usually involve family. Men's pictures involve women, sex, and not much else. In order for him to remain interested and not stray, he has to want to. Once the baby was born unfortunately, the "fun" for him was gone. You're now a "mother," not a sexy, single lady! It sucks, but that's what it is. That's why women become lesbian or stay single, because men do this to them! There is nothing you can or should do to be prettier, sexier, more fun, etc., it is HIS heart that needs to commit to you; HIS reality check will come in the form of child support if he doesn't get a clue, but you can't make him do that, he either is committed to you and your relationship and will make concurrent efforts with you to improve your relationship, or he will not and you will leave him. You might suggest some relationship counseling and see what he says. But, if I were you, I would have a "come to jesus" talk with him. Let him know that it takes two to tango, have sex, make a baby, and you're sorry it's not quite as fun as it used to be for him, but you're committed to him (for a time), and he needs to do some quick changing, growing up, maturring and quit thinking only of himself for a change, or he's going to miss out on a wonderful opportunity to have a family and a committed, beautiful partner! Good luck!

Answer 4

SOMETHING has kept you together for 3 yrs now. Don't let a new baby change whatever it was. Family and new responsibilities will HAVE to be considered, but don't change everything you had .............

I have friends that have been married for WAAAAAAAY too long. (should have never gotten married to begin with) since becoming a mother she has changed sooooooooo much (and become a bytch) and both are miserable.

Love is SOOOOO hard to find. When you have it, do what it takes to hold on to it.

Good luck !

Answer 5

SEX is really important, keep it interesting , try new things. Apart from sex, never let him see that you feel insecure about anything, men like confident women. Go out and have fun, just because you had a baby does not mean you have to live a boring life inside your house or a family members house.

Answer 6

Well in my opinion I think a man stays in a long relationship without straying is because he knows he has a woman that cooks, cleans, and does other stuff for him. That's my opinion. In your case, I would make that a topic for discussion and ask him what reasons are there for you staying with me. Or just make it a general question and get his point of view.

Answer 7

if you give him EXACTLY what an how he wants and when he wants it in what place he wants it.. yes even the dirty, kinky stuff (IN THE BEDROOM) :D he will work 4 full time jobs just to keep you a round if he has too and youll never have to work or want for anything again.... men wont say this but secretly this is exactly how we are. we are so sex centered. if a man says this is not true then he IS LYING.

Answer 8

Answer the door dressed as a different character, such as a cheerleader etc., once every two weeks and stay in that character into the bedroom.

Answer 9

you both have to work at a relationship, if you both give 100 % then when one is feeling down or has other issues, the other will make up for it, still giving you the 100 %

Answer 10

You can certainly provide him with the best sex he can imagine..
Satisfy any / all his fantasies...Anal / swallow / 3some...etc. etc...
You should have married him before you had his kid...
Marriage is a legal commitment and it helps keep people together during the difficult times that occur in all relationships..