I grew up in a Mormon family, and was forced to go to the church until I moved out. My parents don’t bug me about it anymore, but I keep getting harassed by the Mormons. Every time I move, the Mormons find me. The missionaries knock on my door and call me. The Bishops call me. The ladies at the church call me and want me to come to their craft activities. I tell them I’m not Mormon and I want nothing to do with them, and they leave me alone for awhile, and then they start bugging again. The Bishop just called me on my birthday. What the hell? I already told him to leave me alone! His call stirred up bad memories and feelings on my birthday! I lived in a gated residence for a while. One day the missionaries were parked outside my place, waiting for me! They saw me leaving and just stared at me as I screeched away in my car. I was afraid they would follow me. Creepy!
How do I get these people to respect my wishes and leave me alone? Anyone else ever deal with this?
2006-10-27 06:16:04 · 10 answers · asked by MaryJane 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I have recurring nightmares about being trapped inside the church and running away from the Mormons.
2006-10-27 06:16:41 · update #1
I hate answering the phone...it's usually a telemarketer or a Mormon.
2006-10-27 06:17:54 · update #2
Will my parents find out if I remove my name from the church records??
2006-10-27 06:37:52 · update #3
I was Mormon for 18 years of my life. When I left the church, I decided to remove my records as more of an emotional separation for me. However, it's turned out to be quite a blessing for me! My dad's side of the family is still Mormon and they keep sending missionaries to my sister's house. (She hasn't removed her records yet.)
I'm sure your family has a lot to do with the consistant Elders on your front porch. So, here's what you do: go to http://www.mormonnomore.com/ and follow the instructions. In your letter, be sure to very clearly state that you do not want ANYONE from the LDS church to ever contact you again. You don't want missionaries or the Bishop to call you. Ask for a written confirmation of your records being removed.
Just so you know, you may have some problems getting your records removed--especially if the Bishop is very involved with you and/or your family. In my case, the Bishop was very closely connected to me. So, when I sent the church a letter asking for my records to be removed...he did something under the table. I have a letter from him saying that my records are removed. However, 6 months later, imagine my surprise when I received a call from the Relief Society president who had "just received my records" since I had recently moved. I was very upset. Anyway, I sent the letter again and I think I even threatened to involve the press if they didn't remove my records.
It worked.
Hang in there!
Edit: Yes, unfortunately, I believe your parents can find out if you remove your records. Read the website above to make sure, but I think if you're over 18 they won't be directly notified. However, the bishop will know that you removed your records. (And he can tell your family.) Also, if your parents ask missionaries to go visit you...and you have a "no contact" letter in your file...they'll probably hear that way.
Eitherway, don't worry about it. If your parents have a problem with it, take the opportunity to discuss what you believe & why you believe it.
2006-10-27 06:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by applesoup 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat. We ex-Mormons are being harassed. Mormons come over with ulterior motives, pretending to want to "help" you weed or paint or whatever, but what they really want is to trap you in their web. They repeatedly ignore the fact that you don't buy into their silly beliefs and are not interested! They could care less. I had company on Memorial weekend, and here come three Mormons without so much as a phone call to get permission to drop in out of the blue. We shouldn't have to go through the trouble of removing our names just because they ignore our requests to be left alone. They should respect the fact that we QUIT GOING TO THEIR CULT. I feel like I'm being stalked by an ex boyfriend who won't take no for an answer and uses every excuse to come by and worm his way back into my life. It's wrong to push yourself on people and to do so repeatedly. A simple, I'm not interested should be enough to get them off your back.I don't appreciate having to sit there answering questions about my beliefs. They are none of their business! It should be against the law to repeatedly solicit people. I am ready to put a gate up at the end of our driveway. They don't seem to understand that their beliefs are just that: beliefs. And ridiculous at that. Just because you believe something doesn't make it true. Other people do not have to believe what you believe. They've been brainwashed and have abandoned good manners due to their zeal.
2015-05-24 00:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am LDS but have to agree with the others.
Every time you move, your records are transferred. If you move and do not tell anyone that you have moved, then most likely your family is forwarding the information on to the new ward.
Perhaps in your mind you are no longer LDS, but as long as your name is on the church records, you are considered a member. Other members will continue to try to include you in activities, visit you, etc. If you think about it, although it may seem somewhat annoying to you, in reality you are getting upset because people are inviting you to do things, remembering you on your birthday, and trying to offer you spiritual support. Try to see it from your family and the church's point of view. To them you are a member, they love you and part of their beliefs is that they could one day be with you in Heaven. You have chosen a different path and that is obviously difficult for them. Of course they want to send the missionaries to your house. Really, there are many people who have practically no one who cares about them and you have people everywhere you go. If they stop caring and stop sending the missionaries, then I would worry!
However, as others have said, if you truly do not want to be a member, just write your letter requesting that your name be removed. It is not as difficult as you would think. I don't think that your parents would be notified but I am sure that they would eventually find out. It would be devastating for them, but we do, after all, believe that everyone has free agency. I suppose everyone has their own reason for deciding not to continue in the Church, I am not sure what yours is, but I would suggest that you really be sure that it is what you want to do.
Good luck. If there is anything that I can do to help out, let me know.
2006-10-28 01:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by whapingmon 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, this is the bad side of Mormons. They shove their religion on anyone living in their areas. I have seen it first hand as my mother and brothers lived in Utah awhile.
My only suggestion to you is to get another Religion. There are many out there that serve God and they are not all like the Mormons. Read or research many churches. Go to them and see what they are life. Many do not bother you and will welcome the fact that you are checking them out. The mormons will leave you alone if you take up another church. They are worried that you are now atheist and will be lost. They want you back. Just because your family are Mormons does not mean you have to be. It is your choice. FREEDOM OF CHOICE MAKE YOU AN AMERICAN.
Of course, as long as you believe in God you do not have to attend church. Church is a way for believers to worship and be together. But joining a church will get the Mormons to back off.
I really feel sorry for you. I know what it is like. Please keep your convictions. Good Luck.
2006-10-27 06:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
The church is sending your records to the the new ward each time you move,, you can ask to have your name removed from the church records.
Your family will probably filp out about it but it is your choice,,not theirs,, if they give you too many problems remind them Jesus died to give you your "free agency" It was Satan that wanted to force all to follow the church.
That should shut them down for a while.
2006-10-27 06:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by landerscott 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why would you leave...you get to rule over a planet if you are good enough. I mean look, Christians had it right with the whole WWJD (what would Jesus do?) philosophy...he was a good boy and got our planet for a little while as a reward. So what if you are being stalked by a patriarchal cult which using female husbandry to generate herds of repressed guilt-driven followers.
Just be very careful. You don't want to find yourself God of a trash planet of sodomites and ex-Mormons...oh, and be careful of any one of your brother's wanting you to drink the cool-aide with them.
Just a thought.
2006-10-29 02:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by silverback487 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As an LDS woman I understand the frustration you must feel. I don't enjoy " busybodies" in my life either. I think if you are still receiving calls, and being visited your name might still be on the records. I know that if you where to write a letter sating you wanted your name of the church membership rolls it would be done. I would also suggest that you make it very clear in that letter you want no further contact in any way. I know for me its hard to be nice but firm with people. Just a side note. LDS members don't want you to be miserable. So please don't blame them for trying to be nice and charitable towards you.
2006-10-27 06:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by foxie_ladie00 1 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Yeah remove your name from the church's list, even contact the police if this continues. It is harassment.
2006-10-27 06:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by hvjhv 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I am a current Mormon...do like you have been advised. If you truly want to be left alone, remove your name from the records. They really are just trying to help you. We want everyone to enjoy the blessings of the true gospel, so we try to include everyone. It is hard because we are either accused of being too pushy or not pushy enough - people thinking we are stuckup. It is a fine line to walk and we aren't perfect.
2006-10-27 08:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 5⤋
Crow bars to wonderus things to stupid peoples heads, me thinks it is time to show em a demo involving a pumpkin and a crow bar lol.
Call the cops and report them for hurasment
2006-10-27 06:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ponylover54 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋