My mother wants breast implants - what do I say to her?

Answer 1

well it`s her choice really.

Answer 2

Who is she trying to impress?

Whats she gonna do once she has attracted his attention, tell him to look at her boobs all night coz she aint got nottin else to say!

They say that men obsessed with big boobs are normally teenage, infantile mummies boys, big boob = warmth, comfort, food and the only time when men felt secure loved and content.

Is that what she really wants to attract.

You asking this question are obviously older, wiser and more inquisitive than your mum.

We cannot be all things to all people all the time. a sports freak training 18hrs a day might be body beautiful but upstairs must be pretty empty.

Like wise the nerd stuck in books for 18hrs a day is all brains but will never attract a mate in order to impress with his knowledge.

So its all about give and take, she's lucky she has a child with a brain thinking for her.

Will she loose all her family and friends if she doesn't. What will she gain.

What kind of male attention does she want?

I have an ex girlfriend who was asked to do topless modelling she had a big chest and a big smile, big afro too. She hated her chest as from an early age she got unwanted attention from lecherous men, she wanted to be more than a pretty smile with big knockers.

She eventually got a breast reduction, people always think life is better on the other side!

I lost out once on a gorgious asian girl because our eyes met she asked who i was and soon as she found out i was a maths teacher she didnt want to know as she assumed we were all boring old nerds! i was a young crazy biker and told him its her loss for being so narrow minded.

Looks and attraction only open the door the rest is the hard part. and then all the truth comes out, literally!

Answer 3

My mum always told me that it would be difficult to love another if you could not love yourself....

I'm 29 and have always wanted bigger boobs until I met my boyfriend 2 years ago and began to feel good about myself. He loved (loves) me and belives that my body is beautiful which is something I never had done before. I really have never had better sex in my life! This is because I do not have the inhibitions I had before about my body.

I wonder if your mum has bigger problems than her boobs....

I always felt that bigger boobs would lift my self esteem but I think I was wrong. I am so happy with myself now ( even though I still wonder what big boobs would be like). No amount of plastic surgery could have made me feel like this.

My advice to your mum would be to focus her attention on finding herself a really decent man (or woman) to love her body so that she might do aswel, after all, her boob job wont be just for herself but to catch the attention of other people. Yes it can be difficult to find tops that fit, but so is it for the larger lady. Big boobs can't change your life. Love and self respect can.

Answer 4

I think you should tell her to go for it if thats what she really wants, after all it is her body and it's her choice to make.

She's obviously had atleast one child so im guessing her breasts are not as they once are so why shouldnt she want to restore them to their former glory.

I've read a lot of messages on here from either men or women who im guessing were probably blessed with great breasts so who are they to say that its whats inside that counts. Having a boob job does not neccesarily mean she's going to go for breasts as big as jordan! Only you know what your mums size is like and her motives for doing it are. So i would say ignore most of the comments on here and use your own judgement as to do or say anything at all - as only you know your own mother.

I mean if she's already got large breasts and she's wanting to go even bigger like some of these mums that go on jeremy kyle wanting to re-live there youth and go out and pull younger men and generally make a fool out of themselves then ok maybe i cant blame you for having your doubts!

If on the other hand she's she has small breasts and she feels like she needs to go bigger to make her feel more womanly than you should support her if it is going to make her feel better about herself. As a small breasted woman myself i know of the heartache being flat chested can lead to if you always feel self conscious about your self and i know a number of people who have had enlargements and felt like a new person afterwards.

You should talk to your mum about how she's feeling as you might not even realise how badly she feels about herself and maybe she needs someone to have a good chat to?

At the end of the day though its her body and theres not a lot you can do except to support her as im sure she'd rather know that she's going through this with the support of someone who loves her... after all a pair of boobs isnt worth damaging your relationship with her over!

Good luck!

Answer 5

tell her you love her, that looks dont matter, that she will be attractive regardless of her boobs due to great character, find pictures on the net of jobs that went WRONG to scare her (they really do go wrong sometimes)....my mum wanted a tummy tuck then met a man who told her the birth marks/flabby skin that she got after having children showed the most beautiful thing she had ever done. She didn't get one and they are mad for eachother! Tell your mum her boobs are not going to make her happy; its her attitude! If she feels special and good she will not want the boob job!

Answer 6

Why do you feel that you have the need to say anything. What the hell do you really think it has to do with you anyway. This is you Mum here and it is her life, her body and presumably her money to pay for it
My suggestion is either fully support her or butt right out

Go for it Mum if it's what you want

Answer 7

Tell her, she may like them.. but she may also have to find the money to have them done again.. If the results are not ideal.( which is often the case or there is an infection. ) and that money is not available in most cases 2nd time round. This can leave people more unhappy than they were in the 1st instance.

Answer 8

Grow uo mother and grow old gracefully.Unless of course there is a genuine medical reason for this.
To me having false boobs is like having a toupee,its not real ,and everyone knows you have one ,same with boobs,you can tell,that to me defeats the object.

Answer 9

Nothing! It has nothing to do with you does it? The fact she's your mother would mean that she's probably lost all the "goodness" of her boobs whilst being pregnant and feeding you once you were born...so why would you even need to say anything to her?

Answer 10

If it makes her happy let her do what she wants. It her body and theres nothing worse then being self concsious about a part of your body. Its not that big a deal. Anyway you won't be feeling them (hopefully) so who cares.

Answer 11

nothing other then give her your support having this done was not an easy decision by your mum .but i am sure it will make her a happier person and give her more confidence and feel better about herself.so give her your support and love.