I have touched part of her boby worship her body using my hands finger tongue etc but she doesn't respond to this. what can i do. My ex respond so well to touch very well. I am afraid please help
2006-10-27 06:01:25 · 12 answers · asked by elijah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No matter what is causing this problem.. you need to resolve it for both of your benefits. You need to romance her... don't make it about sex. Take her out on a romantic date - take her to a romantic dinner, buy her a little gift, talk about how you love her and are looking forward to your wedding and life together... draw a bath for her when you get home and let her relax in the tub without you... just be there for her but without having sex.... cuddle and hold her but restrain from sex that night. She needs to be reminded that you two can have romance without sex - that will be sexy enough for her. You really need to do this on your own... if this doesn't work, or at least set the path for improvement, then talk to her about the situation. But know that talking about it might make her shy away more.
.... and PS... what are you doing comparing your fiancee to your ex? Don't do that.
2006-10-27 06:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by !?!?! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual coldness is often a symptom of a bigger problem. Is she depressed? Frustrated? Dissatisfied with parts of her life? If she has nagging thoughts about what's wrong in her world, she'll be too distracted by them to enjoy or get into anything sensual.
Sometimes making a woman's life a little easier or warmer can completely change her outlook on sex, as well as many other things.
Other than that, just pay very close attention to her. The speed of her breathing, the way she moves, the noises she makes. Be in tune with her, and just keep doing what she seems to like, not what you think she should like.
2006-10-27 06:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your fiancee what it is that really gets her going. If she doesn't want to tell you (because she's uncomfortable talking about it), then ask "Do you like that?" while you're worshipping her. The sooner you bring the issue out into the open, the sooner you can start enjoying eachother's bodies (and minds)!
2006-10-27 06:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by otc108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be her sexual drive, it may be your technique or style. She may require a totally different approach to get her in the mood. Be patient and ask her what she likes and be willing to experiment and try new things. If your planning on getting married, that means you love her, so take your time and let her show you her desires. Good luck.
2006-10-27 06:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to leave her. My hubby has a low sex drive, and mine is super high. Either find something to take up the time, change your mind, or RUNN before it's too late.
2006-10-27 06:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by C.B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a mentaL block on her part - maybe she needs to relax her mind and enjoy more. It could also be amedical problem - she should ask her doctor.
2006-10-27 06:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is having problems or had a problem with something earlier in her life. She may need to to counseling.
2006-10-27 06:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she'll feel better after the marriage, or if you stop comparing her to your former lover.
2006-10-27 06:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to counseling and talk to her about it. tell her how frustrating it is for you. do it now before Marriage before you regret it.
good luck!!!!!!!!
2006-10-27 06:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by sexxxxyyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS DO NOT COMPARE YOUR EX WITH HER AND THEN ASK HER THAT SHE LIKES
MAYBE SHE THINGS THAT IS WHAT YOU LIKE
2006-10-27 06:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by mipieta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋