but he hist me sometimes hard but i take it and i never leave him for it then when we make up he says it was just a test to see how far ihe can take till i break up with him but then he says cuz you didnt leave i know you love me what should i do??
2006-10-27 05:55:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What a bunch of crap. "It's a test"?? Come on, you've got to be smarter than that. You should have left him after the first time he hit you. Get out now. He'll never stop hitting you.
2006-10-27 05:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl,
There is a difference in showing he loves you a lot and him wanting to be with you all of the time or tracking where you've been and thats not love. He's jealous. I wish I could tell you that he will stop hitting you but he won't! It just gets worse never better. Yeah he's testing you to see how far he can take it before you leave because next time he's gonna take it a little further and then he knows he can always take it to that furthest point because you didn't leave the last time. If he doesn't know that you love him by saying it to him or by showing him. He'll just never know then.
Do yourself a favor sweetie! Dump him. Dump him before it gets worse. Your better than anyone treating you like that!! He's not good enough if he ever put a hand on you. Because No man that ever loved his woman would even want her to go through a little pain. A man that loves his woman Doesn't want to hurt her. He's breaking his back to make her happy. Your boyfriend is insecure. Insecurities are hard to cure. and you can't fix him!!!!!
Best of Luck
2006-10-27 13:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Megan P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, & pleassee take my advice:
Okay, I'm 27 & was in a physically abusive relationship when I was 17...i stayed with him almost 3 years; he would always apologize immediately, he never cheated on me, & he was affectionate; but guys like that do not truly love you b/cuz they do not love themselves. Sometimes I would leave & go back to him just because I felt sorry for him; IT DOES NOT GET BETTER, IT GETS WORSE!!! LEAVE NOW!! It started with hitting, then pushing me down, choking me, spitting on me, it will escalate. I would make excuses for him, try to cover it up cuz I was embarrased, but once I finally got up the courage to leave, it was the best feeling ever. You also need to change your phone # so that when he calls & says sorry & he loves you, you will not go back. Get an ex parte, or restraining order also. Talk to friends & family for support. There are shelters you can go to if you have nowhere to go that will support & counsel you. This is very serious, you could end up dead. Answer his "test" by showing him you are way better than that. He has no respect for you!
2006-10-27 13:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sunnie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out! No one loves you if they beat you. Don't just sit around and take it - you deserve a man who will respect you and show you he loves you by kissing and holding you, never raising his fist to you.
Do you see how ridiculous this sounds? "but he hits* me sometimes hard." What would you tell YOUR girlfriend if her boyfriend was doing that to her? Is this kind of relationship what you thought your marriage was going to be like when you were a little girl? Didn't think so.
So he "loves you" - I'm sure you'd rather look at all of the "good times" you two have had together instead of really paying attention to the bad things he's done to you.
And how do you know he's never cheated on you? If he's hit you I would think twice about trusting someone like him. It's a "test" - a test of what? It's just showing that you don't love and respect yourself enough to get out - so he's never going to respect you much less love you.
2006-10-27 13:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey don't ever let a man put his hands on you again. Now that he thinks he can hit you and get away with it he'll keep doing it up to the point that your own life is in danger. Pleaze do this for yourself and get out of that situation before something really bad happens. You may love him and he may say he loves you but if he loved you so much he would never direspect you like that. Don't ever let a man hit you and stay with him like it's okay that is not right you need to let him know that it's not okay for him to hit you or any girl for that matter. That's a crime and you shouldn't stay with him for your own safety even if it doesn't seem that way right now that you are endangered but you are especially since you stood with him after he did that to you. He thinks it's okay and it's not. Pleaze just leave him and find someone who cares about you and will treat you like a princess and never lay their hands on you like that.
2006-10-27 13:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ms_Apple_Bttmz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE! No one should ever hit you no matter what. And apologizing after wards saying that he was just trying to see how far he can go? What's up with that? Because if you stay, he's only going to try you more and more, and go farther and farther. Love isn't supposed to have its boundaries tested. The boundaries are supposed to be understood and respected. Nip it in the bud and please leave him. Spend a little time alone to realize you are worth respecting and find someone enough to realize and respect your boundaries please. Let him know that even though you love him, you love yourself more. You are so worth it.
2006-10-27 13:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by arrizona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, leave him.
OR you could hit him with a freakin baseball bat and see if he stays with YOU. Of course he would probably beat you senseless, so please before it goes further, before you get married and before you let him have kids with you and let them see all this, leave him. It will be the smartest thing you can do.
No man that loves you will hit you. In fact, no MAN will hit you period. They're mere boys with no self-esteem and feel the need to prey on those weaker than them.
2006-10-27 12:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Barbi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the bastard he's abusing you mentally, emotionally and physically as well and u know it. Report his sorry butt to the authorities. Would you want another girl going through that? I don't think so. Leave the looser and NOW for your own safety and sake. I wish you the best baby.
2006-10-27 13:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You leave! abuse is abuse you need to get out hits are not love. No questions need to be asked if he loved you he wouldn't hit you that's all there isto say about.
2006-10-27 12:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by Miss k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What?!!! such a ******* jerk... sorry for the language... LEAVE HIm as soon as you can... you don't wanna end up dead... he's sick and needs some treatment... call cops on him if you can do it yourself.... he's abusing you and you should do that to yourself...
2006-10-27 12:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by ILuvMe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋