HOW MANY GUYS OUT THERE JUDGE A GIRL BY THEIR LOOKS......AND HOW MANY GUYS JUDGE A GURL ON THIER PERSONALITY...........
2006-10-27 05:51:01 · 28 answers · asked by April/Ace 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear Girl here is what Guys want to look in there Girls, its not just looks, its not personality its the whole person. Any sensible Guy should and would for the following 10 traits:
1. She's independent - No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. Once in a while, like if she's had a rough day at work, it's great to be her shoulder to cry on, but if she can't seem to function without you and is constantly after you, she will eventually make you feel like you're suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you running out the nearest exit. On the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions, can stand on her own two feet, both financially and emotionally, and is able to enjoy time away from you - while still missing you, of course - then she must be a great girlfriend.
2. She's intelligent - I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo routine gets real old, real fast. Instead of being the one in total control, you'll find yourself trying to figure out what she's really thinking behind those glazed eyes of hers - or if she's actually thinking at all. An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes. She won't let you get bored of her. Besides, it's nice to have something to talk about between all that chandelier-hanging sex.
3. She's sexual - While we're on the topic, a great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with you. Of course, this doesn't imply that she has to know all the right moves straight away; it simply means that you and she have an undeniable attraction toward each other, and are able to communicate your desires verbally (or with physical cues). It is important that you please each other.
4. She's beautiful - I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. She should always look her best and be well put together - matching lingerie is a definite plus. You have to be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light. But this doesn't mean that she has to be a beauty queen, remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so if you think her full bottom or uncontrollable curls are beautiful, you're allowed.
5. She respects you - Your woman must respect you. This means that she listens to you, even if she doesn't necessarily agree with what you're saying. And, of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape or form. A great girlfriend won't ever cause scenes in public or in front of your friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in private. If she respects you, chances are that she will behave in a tactful and diplomatic manner in most situations, which is definitely a good thing.
6. She lets you be a man - Do not - I repeat - do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up poker night or Golf. You will end up resenting her more than you can imagine. A good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory. If she's a great girlfriend, she'll even bring you and your buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her famous sandwiches. She has to understand that men and women are different and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you wouldn't deprive her of going shopping with her best girlfriend, she shouldn't expect you to give up the guys for her. BUT THIS DOSE NOT IMPLY THAT MEN SHOULD CHEAT ON HER.
7. She's nagless - There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to speak up and when to let it slide. You don't want a girlfriend who will give you hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally. However, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you're setting yourself up for disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide - not even a great girlfriend.
8. She gets along with friends and family - A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad's stories and hang out with your friends, but she will enjoy it. She'll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won't try to get you to ditch your best buds. She'll actually empathize with your brother's getting dumped and suggest that you guys take him out to cheer him up. Not only that, but your friends won't roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she'll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).
9. She loves you - If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A woman who doesn't try to change you is hard to find. Of course, all women have their slightly annoying habits that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these. Another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn't seem to faze her either way, and she doesn't really seem to care about what you have to say, she's either playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her light up, there's no denying that she loves you.
10. She makes you want to be a better man - Stop making that face... any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn't have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so.
2006-10-27 20:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Rahul 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Initially, looks are the first thing you will judge, unless you hear the women before you see her. As time goes by, the personality becomes the most important thing. Beauty is fleeting. A great personality can be a big thing for the entire life, where as the beauty, with no personality, lasts about as long as a stale fart. But, nobody likes a hog!
2006-10-27 05:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by standinghampton11 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you ask about all guys, most of them are attracted by good looks.
As far as my thinking are
If a girl is at a distant, the looks matter more than personality.
And if they are near the boys the looks become the personality with her moves and her attitude. Also her way of speaking adds a lot to her personality.
So I'd rate a girl by her personality because most of the girls are physically same (excluding the size).
2006-10-27 06:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by M@n! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to judge on appearances when I was younger. But now I'm older and wiser so it's more of a personality and compatability thing for me. Honestly. Sure looks are good but they're not everything guys and girls. Go for who she or he really is as a person and who he or she is on the inside.
2006-10-27 05:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I judge on personality
2006-10-27 23:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by hotchocredrose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I Feel we mostly see a girl personality, create impression about that girl and a expectation is created. this impression and expectation all depends on your(any one) maturity - what is most desirable or which ever he values more his present life.
There is one old story, which you could strangely connects with your question, there two monks walking near river bed, see a beautiful girl caught in flood, the one of the monk retrieves her and carrys her to the shore and lady thanks him, leaves the seen.
they both march on, towards the asharm, other monk commments, after a while," how could you do this act - carrying a woman, being a monk, which is against chastity and celibacy." the first one replies, " I carried the girl still the shore and left here but you are still carrying it in mind."
2006-10-27 06:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by lookgood2006 c 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A combination of both. Their personality would be the most important to me. But decent looks would be important to. She would not have to be beautiful. I would judge people as I would want them to judge me.
2006-10-27 05:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would get attracted initially by her looks. Carrying on would depend on her personality. I don't judge girls, by the way.
2006-10-27 06:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The way you judge a girl is your way. If you change it to be like somebody else you may not ever get the girl right for you.
2006-10-27 05:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by Miss k 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first impression is by looks then the personality. but the later is having lions share in judging personality
2006-10-27 05:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by smart g 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ill just never look both
after speaking to hey only i will judge.
2006-10-27 05:54:04 · answer #11 · answered by mohan_kirupasankar 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋