Gentlemen, please tell me if you agree? Independent women scare men?

Question

Do you agree with this? I am quite a successful Chef and I have found that initially guys are really impressed by this, but after a while, they cannot handle the fact that I too have a job and my own responsibilities, and they become child like i.e. temper tantrums, sulking etc! WHY??? Ladies, also feel free to give your input and examples!! Im sure that the guys are tutting in disbelief already at the mere thought of their masculinity in disrepute.......... LOL

Answer 1

I only go out with independent women. I want someone with their own mind who can challenge me, not some mindless bimbo.

Answer 2

I'm sure your Independence does scare some men, but that just means you're with the wrong men.

You might actually have less of a problem with that, if you owned a roofing business. If a man has a problem with that, he just won't approach you in the first place.

However, when you say you're a chef, that allows him to fantasize about you, the devoted housewife, fixing dinner for him every night, while he pays the bills.

When it is practical to do so, I think you should let men know you are a successful career woman, but don't tell them anything more specific, until after there appears to be some serious interest.

By the way, the only time I might see a woman's career pursuits as a problem is if it means she isn't interested in being a mother as well. I would be quite happy to be a stay-at-home Dad.

Answer 3

First of all, please let me congratulate you on being a successful Chef. Let us know where you do your cooking and we will come over to eat some of your creations!
I totally agree with you that SOME men cannot cope with a woman who has a career and who is successful. You cannot make a sweeping statement that covers all men.
As some women like to be at home, some men like to be the 'master.'
A quick little story. My boss thinks that he is wealthy. He isn't poor - but he isn't rich by any stretch of the imagination. He finished a relationship and advertised for a woman on a website. All he talks about is how much money he has. What do you think he got?
Change the way that you 'advertise' yourself and you may well find yourself a soul mate. Good luck!

Answer 4

It is truly a sad spectacle when a man begins to show his true weaknesses, particularly when it comes to his male ego. Coming from a Latin background, I am well aware of the stigma of the Machismo factor and how men have been conditioned to feel it is necessary to have this amazing power over women. Even though society has made some positive strides regarding the equality issues between men and women, and yet, the Boardrooms continue to be filled with Male Executives....there is still this general fear of having to work under a woman's direction in the workforce....be it corporate, or be it in the candy store at the end of the street. Part of if this situation is caused by an inbred need to have a woman totally dependent on the man....emotionally and financially. I know that there are a few men, like myself, who consider a woman to be the on same level, and even above us mentally, emotionally, and yes.....even financially. There is no need to feel threatened or belittled because your girlfriend or wife is on another income bracket, or has more recognition in her particular line of work or social status......unless of course she uses her status to humiliate or attack your manhood. But that's a whole different ballgame.
In the end, I do agree with you that there are still too many men who have been brought up in the ways of the 19th century, and are straight-up threatened by a successful, independent, and self-assured women. It's our jobs to teach our children differently, so that in the future men can be more self-assured of their manhood in a world run by women.
Best of Luck!

Answer 5

I am a lady who has had similar experiences as yourself. I don't think we scare men, we frustrate them. If you are used to making decisions for yourself and have a routine that you adhere to, then men only take up a small percentage of your time. Men like to be the centre of your universe. Not unreasonable as we want to be the centre of theirs. However, if, as in your case, you have a successful career, this is where your time goes and a man is sidelined. The rub is, that we will have to compromise at some point, and put a man before other interests, with luck, compromise won't become compromising.

Answer 6

Only if the man is an insecure twit, with nothing going on his world. If the women becomes the only thing he cares about, man may as well blow his head off. And, possibly your dating men far too young, so follow the above. Independent women are awesome because they also are very secure in themselves, thus, avoiding a lot of the bs a relationship has.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with being independent and successful, but lots of men equate independent women with b*tchy feminists and b@ll breakers, and they are intimidating. They/we form a link in our minds of strong women being spiteful, vengeful and men-hating, and of women who find some kind of pleasure in humiliating men. There's no fun in dating someone like that. Would you like a macho man who humiliated you and treated you like dirt? That's the conclusion some men draw.

You will be fine though, if you can come across as traditionally feminine and good-natured, alongside your independent traits. You will attract men who won't be intimidated, will admire you for who you are, and who probably share some of your successful characteristics themselves.

Answer 8

Who cares if we scare them? I'd rather be independent than charming, anyway. If we scare them off, we don't need them.

There was an article in a back issue of Forbes called "Don't Marry Career Women." I'm going to retaliate with an article of my own: "Don't Marry Men Who Take Advice From Forbes."

Answer 9

Everybody has responsibilities. Your just a snob who thinks she's better than the men she dates. Be thankful that you get boyfriends. At least men aren't looking to be spoiled and spend your cash like girls who go out with successful guys. So there!

Answer 10

No.independent women don't scare me.they can be a real pain in the pinny especially when they think they know everything.the only way any woman on this earth will take away my masculinity will have to be removal off male parts.LOL

Answer 11

I am not intimidated by an independent woman. I prefer it because I like time to myself to write music and occasionally a play or poem. Therefor, an independent woman is ideal for me! Oh- I like to cook too.
Have a great day!!!