My best friend is 19. She is due to walk down the isle in 4 days and its killing me. She has only known this guy for a month and says that "this is it" she couldnt possibly know him. Im going to the wedding because i love her but i still havent accepted it. I dont know what to do.
2006-10-27 05:41:58 · 34 answers · asked by Ash-a-wee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
to tell you the truth there is nothing that you can do except be there for your friend. if your friend trully believes she has found true love in only a month then let her be happy. im not saying that i would marry a guy after a month of knowing him, but hey you need a life time to get to know somebody. I'm turning 19 in a few days, but im getting married before that time. its different because ive known my boyfriend for 2 years. and to tell you the truth i know him but everyday i learn new things about my soon to be husband. Your friend she might be making the worst choice or she might be marrying somebody who will make her happy for the rest of her life. If things go wrong never tell her an "I told you so", because youll only make her feel worst. Just support her whether she is right or wrong. i hope this advice helps you in some way or another.
2006-10-27 05:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by mclafl112506 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, marrying someone after one month dating way too impulsive. Especially, for a 19 yo. All you can do is remain her friend, and pick up the pieces when she gets her heart broken. I would tell her to put off having children for a couple of years and enjoy being with he bo. You are really trying to keep a child out of the picture until the relationship matures or falls apart. Who knows, this may be her one. You may be RSVPing to their 20 year anniversary one day. You haven't said anything bad about the guy. So, I'm hoping he's an ok guy.
2006-10-27 05:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by ontopofoldsmokie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is happy, than there really is nothing you can do. I got married when I was 18, still in high school, to a 36 year old. My mother STILL hasn't accepted it more than two years later. I do have to admit that a month with the guy is a little quick. sorry VERY quick, but sometimes it is like that. I knew the night I met my husband that that was it and I have never looked back. All you can do is support her and stand by her side no matter what happens.
2006-10-27 05:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my sister got married the first time (she was really young), I didn't approve of the marriage, so I didn't go. She got upset, but in the end, it was okay because she divorced the guy less than two years later. Maybe if you are lucky, your friend will come to here senses and either postpone or cancel the wedding. My advice to you: if you don't accept the wedding, don't go.
2006-10-27 08:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by gracie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at this point.. tell her what you feel, but that you will support her no matter what because there's always a chance you are wrong. let her learn from her mistake and do not ever say i told you so. Just simply be there for her... I do agree, first, she is way too young to know what she's getting into, second, her getting married to someone she's only known for a month-- is ridiculous..
2006-10-27 05:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be there for her on her special day, how anyone can know anyone in a month and than plan to spend the rest of their life with that person is beyond me but if the marriage doesn't work that's when she will need you the most. Good luck
2006-10-28 21:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband when we were 19 and knew within a few weeks he was the one. We married at 21 and it's been 8 years now! Sometimes you just know! It's hard to understand until it happens to you. So try to be supportive and know that it very well could work out!
2006-10-27 05:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by cynthia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation this summer.
Wish her luck, but don't say congratulations. Tell her she looks pretty, but not that the wedding was wonderful. Say the cake was great.
And keep in contact with her, because this marriage will probably fall apart and then she will need a friend to rely on.
2006-10-27 09:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me..telling someone something about their relationship won't really change a thing. i have friends that we've told them up and down their bf is cheating and we've even seen it and they'll deny it up and down or still take him back. just stick by her side as a friend should do..and let her find out the truth on her own..thats the only way it will happen. and if and when she does come to you with problems..dont just say "i told you so" be there and really help her out.
2006-10-27 05:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow only for a month!! i would be the same way if i was you!!wellll what i would do is i would try to convince her before the wedding but if worst comes to worst and push comes to shove you can always drug the groom and hide him so it seems like he wont show.. or for a more reasonable approach you can stand up and say u do when the priest or wutever asks if there is anyone who rejects to the union
2006-10-27 05:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by love_me_babii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋