i dont think hes very comfortable with the idea, since i made a big deal when i found out he was doin it in the shower but i want to watch him
2006-10-27 05:40:44 · 41 answers · asked by RACHEL M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
start fooling around and then you begin jackin him. Have him take over and tell him that you fantasize about him all the time and that it turns you on, but then you have to begin finger yourself to show him how wet it makes you
2006-10-27 05:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by 10 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason I let a woman go on top or masturbate in front of me when we first get together--it gives me real insight as to what gets her off! Every woman is a little different, and there is no better way to see what she likes than to get her to show you.
Tell him you want to watch so you'll know what really makes him hot. He may be shy to do this, because masturbation is also a time for fantasy--and some fantasies shouldn't be shared. Improving your performance in bed is a worthwhile goal I'm sure he'll support you in acheiving--but catching him and asking him to continue probably won't happen.
2006-10-27 05:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I just went through this. Something about watching a guy do that just turns me on in a second. It's crazy. He would only do it after I told him how hot it made me...and then he would ask me to do it too (so be prepared to do it in front of him yourself cause you cant say no if he is doing it too)
He probably thinks you were freaked out or grossed out when you caught him in the shower. Just tell him you werent, but that it really turned you on and I am sure his mood will change.
2006-10-27 05:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Barbi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to watch you masturbate as you watch him masturbate. Tell him what a turn on it would be and explain how it would help you to know how he likes to be touched. Don't worry about the masturbating in the shower. Men can have sex 5 times a day and still masturbate.
2006-10-27 05:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by adearman2226 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start by looking into his eyes and doing it to yourself. Then if he does not get the hint, while you are still doing it take his hand and put it on himself. If he does not get the hint now, then I dont know lol.. But it should make him feel a little more comfortable with you doing it, and by you putting his hand there for him, he will know it is something that might turn you on. He should be all for it then.
2006-10-27 05:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try this, when he goes back to have a shower just go in and feel his dick so that he can get hot, start masturbating him then give him a suck but no normal sex, then comeout of the shower and he will start masturbating to set off his fire, then you can go in again to see how he does it cause he will try to finish what you started. then tell him you would like to see him masturbating. both of you will be comfortable with the situation
2006-10-27 05:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by BABY BOY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st I'd say hop in the shower w/him. Start rubbing him and if he won't 'take over' at least it'd be a start. I used to LOVE taking a shower w/my g/f. Another suggestion would be - when you're laying in bed, start playing w/yourself and NOT let him join in. Start rubbing him and get him hard and then go back to taking care of yourself. If he wants to 'finish' he'll take control of things. Depending on how kinky you are, tell him you want him to shoot it all over you OR that you want to lick it off of him....
If these things don't help - nothing probably will....
2006-10-27 05:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by barhopper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join him in the shower and if he doesn't do it for himself, then do it for him. There's only his sense of embarassment that is keepig him form masturbating when with you especially if you are open to seeing it. So, the hardest part (pun intended) is to get him to relax anough to let you see him naked and erect and to let you watch while he pleasures himself. But be warned, once he's gotten past his initial shyness, you may have trouble keeping his pants on and his hands on you instead of himself - hehe.
2006-10-27 08:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found my husband doing it in the shower, and now he will do it in front of me, but he tends to get real shy real quick when I see him doing it. I can't blame him, I think I would feel the same way,if he was watching me.
2006-10-27 05:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront him in a gentle loving way about it and explain to him what a turn on it is for you. You should also start him off and maybe masturbate in front of him.
2006-10-27 05:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it turns you on and that it would make you very happy. It is strange though. From what it sounds like, obviously you have been physically intimate and it couldn't be due to shyness. I suppose it is because masturbation is considered slightly shameful. Talk to him and figure out why.
2006-10-27 05:44:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋