My best friend is suffering from alcoholic related health issues.?

Question

His wife has stopped keeping me posted and shes becoming increasingly difficult to deal with (understandable). I've never had a friend die; he's only 33. His liver is shot, his gallbladder and liver are swollen. He's highlighter yellow and rail thin. Will not eat or drink anything. He was d/c'd from the hospital last Friday and ended up in ICU by this Monday. Now, he's on dialysis. He has a tube in his rectum because of constant liquid diarrhea Until this happened (recently--as in, three weeks), we were so close. Now, he hallucinates and doesn't make sense most of the time. And, his wife is keeping me out of the loop; she doesn't want me involved. Has anyone ever gone thru this? He looks like he's dying. Have you ever heard of anyone living thru this? How do I cope with possibly losing my friend and not getting to see him? How to I deal with his wife and not create more problems? She and I used to be so friendly.

Apparently, I need to clarify. His wife and I were close too. Not as close as he and I, but almost. They were like family and I was like family. So, no... she's not mad at me and, no she doesn't hate me. No, I'm not and have never tried to take her place. And, yes, until three days ago, she was relying upon us all and keeping us all in the loop. Now, she feels lost and doesn't know what to do. I am not mad at her either. But, I can say that I don't want my best friend to die without being able to say good-bye. I don't want to crowd his wife either. C'mon, guys... Let's not trash the best friend, okay?

Answer 1

hes in end stage liver failure, be dead shortly. his wife partly blames you old friend for all the good times you shared that she didnt. you can try going to her and apologizing for anything you did to contribute to the process, be prepared for pain.

Answer 2

It's understandable that his wife is keeping you at a distance because she is just that: HIS WIFE! Alcoholism was a problem in my family (I say "was" because the ones who abused are all dead now...). From the graveness of his situation, it's obvious that he will soon die, and only a MIRACLE from God could bring him out alive. I think his wife is right to keep you at arm's length from her ailing husband. This is HER TIME to take care of HER HUSBAND and any interference, unless medical, is unwarranted. Your "constant concern" is a nuisance to her and she thinks you're trying to replace her in some way. It's understandable that he is your friend and you wish to help, but if that's not what his wife wishes you must respect that.

You should respect his wife's wishes and keep a distance or should the worse happen, your presence won't be welcomed during visitation/funeral. Just accept that you've done all you could for your friend.

Answer 3

Your companion needs to renowned that he's an alcoholic if he can't or won't try this then you definately might desire to leave him using fact no it is easy to help an addict till they admit it themselves, that they want help. you're able to desire to tell him whilst he gets the enable you to are waiting (if that's what you pick for) to furnish your marriage a raffle via going to narrate or another style of marriage counselling. the final of luck to you the two x

Answer 4

He is dying. No, he's not going to recover.

Say a prayer that it's over for him very soon. An alcoholic death is a horrible way to go. Remember his wife is very upset. If she doesn't want you around, then there is nothing you can do.

Answer 5

Yeah do u believe in indian god n astrology if yes then come to india n here sum saints help ur friend to leave tht alcholic

Answer 6

You sadda slap him while you could.. That help knock some sense outta him.

Answer 7

he wont pull through this ,i have seen it happen before and his organs are in failure