I'm 14 and I'm meeting up with my boyfriend on Saturday but at the moment we have only kissed and I want to maybe take it a step further. I don't know where to do this and how to give him the idea that I want to go further. Where can we go and what can we do. I dont want to have sex or anything like that i just want to go a bit further than a kiss. Please help lauren xxx
2006-10-27 05:29:07 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You could play with his willy or suck it and he could touch your breasts and finger you....but if you are not ready for all that then its fine...give each other love bites instead.
2006-10-27 06:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all i would like to point out that you are only 14, how long have you been with your boyfriend, is he really worth going that little bit further with, and has he tried to go further and you have stopped him.
Ok if you have really thought about this then i would suggest going to the cinema, you can do a lot in the back row, but it also restricts you from having sex because there are people around, go and see a film that has been out for a while, less people that way . And you could start by touching him on his leg near his penis but dont touch it then hopefully he will take the hint. You are too young to have sex remember that, and dont do anythingthat is going to be noisy or messy.
Please please make sure you are ready becasue going that little bit further could mean trouble, ie he may get really horny and decide that he wants sex. You may see the real side of him then.
Just be careful whatever you do, you are your own person and know what you want
2006-10-27 05:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by charlotte66621442000 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Further than kiss but not sex is the feeling of the privates. But are you sure you want to do this? Are you sure your boyfriend wants to do this? To have a good time with him you could do something fun like ice skating, cinema, out for a meal. You don't need to be doing something physical to feel loved. You're young and it seems to me like you're just curious and that's ok but remember it's illeagal to have sex before you're 16. I hope you have loads of happy times with your guy x :)
2006-10-27 06:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by katem1992 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Excellent answers here Lauren. I hope you take heed. Once you do start having sex with a boy, what normally happens is all he is interested in is getting you to places where it is possible - home when parents out, or back of the car, or whatever and then you never go out and do things anymore.
Don't rush your relationship. Go out and do fun things, in a group as well as alone.
You are two years under-age and those two years would be better spent having fun than worrying about sex. As soon as you start having sex you will find that you have tons of worries - believe me, it is true! You will worry every month in case you have got pregnant. You will worry that he only likes you cos you have sex with him.You will worry about your parents finding it.
Let things happen gradually and set the pace yourself.
2006-10-27 06:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you've already got a lot of Ideas.
My idea is that don't wear sexy clothes to turn him on.
Be well dressed, nice and a little romantic.
Try to avoid rush; if it started it would be much difficult to stop. And think you are still 14 and has a long life to experience different boys.
A boy can do nothing until a green signal from the girl. The game is in your hand. If you want more than a kiss, let him touch your body but don't let him undress you. Also don't try to undress him as well.
I think you should not touch his balls or p****s. He will feel that you want to sex.
So the bottom line is, to restrict him; restrict yourself.
Have a nice date.
2006-10-27 05:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by M@n! 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well Lauren I'm here to tell ya that sex is probably the next step unless you are into oral sex. Not to be cruel or anything to don't take it this way but you are too young to go the next step. I hope you know that you are gettin yourself into. You may not intend for you kisses to lead to the next step but sometimes passionate lengthy kisses leads to more things such as sex. I would say to be cautious and take your time in doing whatever you decide to do. You are 14 years old and you have time to do other things that both of you think that you are ready to do!!!! Please get educated on sexual transmitted diseases and percentage of getting pregnant and other intimate issues involving going to the next step with your boyfriend. Good Luck on your decision!!!!!
2006-10-27 05:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by jetta 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are rather too young to be thinking like this. One thing can lead to another far quicker than you imagine and then you live with the regrets. Enjoy having a boyfriend, discovering about relationships but save sex until at least of legal age.....you could get him and yourself into serious trouble.
You should not seek such an answer on the internet either, please don't get the impression from other postings taht everyone is at it all the time.....they are not and you only need to read some to realise that it can lead to a mess.......wait and mature....focus your energies on growing into a well rounded person.
2006-10-27 05:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by pink 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok, i think that taking it further should not be planned ahead of time. let me just tell you that you should stick to just normal kissing. if you end up in a room alone with him you most likely will end up making out and that ususally leads to other things. be careful!! if you are making out he will soon move down to your neck and from there he will try to start touching you, taking your clothes off, or he will ask you if you can give him oral or a hand job. i recommend you dont do any of this especially if you do not want other people at school to know what you did (he's a guy and i have learned that guys tell eachother everything they do with girls) oh yes and dont let him puts your hand on his dick (even if he still has all his clothes on) he is only doing this to prepare you for the real thing (which will come out of his pants soon after your touching)
2006-10-27 06:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by * 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just always make it really clear that you don't want to have sex and that if you do you will specifiaclly say so, no matter what the come on seems like to him. I managed to stay a virgin until I was 21 but had a few good relationships. I always made it really clear and they knew where they stood. Do be careful though
2006-10-27 05:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by Hairy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are 14. How much father do you ant to go at this age? I think kissing is where you should let it go and stay!! A sept futher would mean letting him touch you in places you dont need to be touched at 14, doing somthing more could lead to sex more importantly it could lead to unprotected sex. You dont want that my advice is just let it stay where it is and be patient...as far as taking it to the next level!!
2006-10-27 05:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, keep it at where it is...kissing. The further you go, the more curious you're going to become and eventually you'll end up having sex. Your lucky to have a bf that hasnt been pushing the subject of wanting to go "further" with you (i'm guessing).
2006-10-27 05:35:03 · answer #11 · answered by baby_phat 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋