ok so i have liked this girl for about three weeks now and the first time i tryd to talk to her she told me no she dosent call boys!!! so a cupple of days latter i told her she hurt my feelings and it workd she came an sat down with me and we talkd and she gave me her number and told me too call so i did and we ben talkin for like to weeks! i got sick and i askd her to cumm over and take care of me and she did, while she was over wwe kissed for like three hours then wen my sister came home we took her home! but last night she called and said we need to talk and she told me we wer moving to fast and that she wanted to slow down an just be friends i was like ok but it hurt just a lil bit!! so i gess i am supposed to wait for her to realize her true hero lol! but i dont no how to wait an i supposed to act like a bf or an i suppsoe to give her space or what im confused!!!
2006-10-27 05:24:15 · 22 answers · asked by brandy baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is telling you that she likes you a whole lot but that she does not want to graduate to having sex yet. Your kisses must have been very passionate. She does not mind kissing, but try to have them less passionate, where she feels you are pushing her towards sex.
You "can" wait. You can also be more intimate by just holding her in your arms and asking her questions about the things that make her unique and getting to know her better. The best sexual organ is the brain. Did you know that you can have an orgasm by merely touching? If your feelings are strong enough, the passion you generate from just touching one another (no, not there), but soft touches on the inner thigh, midway between the knee and upper thigh, between her breast bone, tracing her facial features, slowly touching the length of her arms, slowly moving your finger very lightly down her back. If you become expert at that, you can "both" climax by just touching. It can be done and has been done without having sex. But you do need music, closed eyes and an environment where you won't be disturbed by outside forces.
2006-10-27 05:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a woman/girl says this it means only one thing. They like you but are not attracted to you. The fact you played on her sympathy got her to come over. She doesn't want you to feel bad so wanted to help. But that is a long way from her being attracted to you. A very long way.
You are not her boyfriend no matter how much you want it.
The only thing you can do is back off and learn what it takes to make girls attracted to you. That takes time.
Her true hero has not yet arrived. But he could if you understood more about attraction.
Attraction is not something we can control. She is not going to wake up one day and think....you know I like him so I think I will be attracted to him. No! She either is or she is not.
What does it take? You have to be the man. You can no longer care what she thinks about you. You have to become confident that if she doesn't realize what she is passing up someone else will. When you reach that point you can start treating her like she wants you to. She may already have a brother and surly has a friend. The more you act like them the less attractive you become.
Figure out how to tease her. Never let up on that. Be totally un-predictable. She never knows what your going to do next.
Think of her as your bratty kid sister. Treat her like you would your sister and you may be surprised and how she responds.
But most of all you must change yourself to be a confident man. And if she doesn't come around move on to someone who will.
Ever wonder why all the girls seem to be attracted to the jerks and the nice guys wonder what happened. This is the reason.
2006-10-27 05:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not forget that she needs you, although your planning a big party for her. When she asked you to go with her to find a dress, even your busy planning the party you should give her attention or you could ask one of your friends to help you out in planning so you have time to spend with her. But do not worry a friend will always understand... I know if she found out what you've been doing she will cry... because of what you did for her, all her sadness will be erased. Goodluck! your a one true friend hope i can find someone like you.
2016-03-28 09:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Push the issue. Dont ask and wheedle and guilt trip her, just be a man. Be confident and let her know that she is what you want and you intend to strive towards your goal.
Once inside the "Friend Zone" you will be stuck there forever. Game over. You are already not getting laid, so what exactly do you have to lose?
2006-10-27 05:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Ace Morningstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her her space but still hint that you still like her....i think you were moving a little fast , making out for hours in the first week or so is kinda rushy...i mena a kiss if fine but straight up tounging for hours...gettin your germs, might have turned me off a little...call her out of the blue like maybe once a week just to say hi...ask he to a movie or bowling as friends...even go out in groups so she wont feel awkward....just defenitly give her the space she asked for...women dont ask for what we really dont want.....good luck!
2006-10-27 05:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to talk to her and be like i'm sorry and i realize that we were moving too fast, but if u didn't want to kiss or do anything, all you had to do is tell me becuz i understand and respect you...and be like...i'm still here for you and i think we should try to work it out because it is a really easy problem to fix...but if you just want to be friends...i guess i can live with that too
just say something like that...good luck! :]]
2006-10-27 05:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by beachxchicaxmg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend as much time with her, as you can, float over general saying to her, "I feel really comfortable around you", "I really like the time we spend together" , " you know you understand me better than any girl" every one of those statements can be taken 2 ways, see how she reacts to them, if it's positive, then go for broke, tell her, you want to try being more than friends, and your willing to risk your friendship, if it takes getting to know each over better, see it how it works.
God Bless
2006-10-27 05:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space. Hold hands. Take her out to eat or an ice cream and get to know her better.
2006-10-27 05:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what she wants. if you are ok with it then slow down, if you think she is playing games then tell he nope and move on. always like yourself more than you like the girl.. self respect goes along way and will keep maniplators from messin up your life.
2006-10-27 05:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally it sounds like she's not ready for the relationship your looking for and she probably felt pressured but I would take it easy with her. It can blow up in your face..
2006-10-27 05:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋