Well, there is this guy that is tryin to get with me and that's cool and I like him or whatever. But... He thinks I am using him. He gave me money and a necklace and claims I haven't called him ever since. He really likes me and I like him too and he wants to go out but I don't want to go out with anyone who thinks that I use them...so what should I do?
xoxo
b & b
2006-10-27 05:14:30 · 12 answers · asked by ♥Chocol@t3 K!$$3$♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First you politely give him his money and his necklace back to show you don't need his money. Then you leave him alone. Because is sounds to me like he was trying to buy your affection. He thought because he spent a little money that you were supposed to be all over him. He ain't the one drop him.
2006-10-27 05:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by dreamsjv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By not going out and doing things with him and not calling him. You are showing him that you are or were just using him. How can you not see that? If you like this guy, then calling him, and spending time with him and doing things with him shouldn't be a problem or him asking too much. If you are using the excuse of "I don't want to go out with anyone who thinks that I am useing them" bit, then you have said all you need to say. YOU ARE USING HIM. If you REALLY like him, then you would show him in your actions by calling him and spending ALOT of time with him and going out with him. Like you would any other boy you LIKED and wanted to date. Blessed be..................... I hope your not using this guy, he sounds sweet and worth dating.
2006-10-27 12:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) there are men and women out there that are "people users. We must all be wary of them.
2) he wants to hook up AND he thinks you use him???!!! something is not right with this picture.
3) Players rule # 1, put (and keep) them on the defensive.. sounds like he has a good start, I wouldn't waste my time with this.. Sounds like you're not that interested anyway.
2006-10-27 12:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop accepting gifts. Or give him the ones he's already given you back, and say you want to go out with him but because you like him and not the things he buys you. It'll be hard for him to disagree with that =)
2006-10-27 12:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why "would" you accept a gift from someone and not keep in contact with them to at least show your appreciation. You are really not in the position to be mad because you did not keep up appearances to care about him until he made the comment that "you" used him.
Get real. You're a hootchie.
2006-10-27 12:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him then why are u so hesitant to contact him or go out with him again? that makes no sense. but you also dont want the guy to be buying you things and expecting to be repaid with something. cuz if he is then hes an asshole. but since you like him, you have no reason not to go out with him again.
2006-10-27 12:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by xtropicaldreamz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think yall should date but do everything in your power to show him that you are not using him okay maybe try to buy him something simple that you think he will like i am pretty sure that u have some ideas
2006-10-27 12:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by Antinitra B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy him something. Treat him to a special night.
2006-10-27 12:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by TheAnwserer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him on the best day of his life, trust me, he will change the way he feels.
2006-10-27 12:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Katelyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him understand you are not using him if you really like him
2006-10-27 12:45:07 · answer #10 · answered by gemini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋