Like its weird...i cant do anything without him. He has to know everything i do in a day yet he doesn't fill me in about what he does. I don't know. Don't get me wrong he can't be really sweet but thats only when he gets his own way.PPl tell me maybe he's cheating on me and he thinks im doing the same. what do yous think?
2006-10-27 05:01:25 · 26 answers · asked by gnuhbaby54 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
End it with him. I know it is easier said than done. I went through the same thing. Once you have moved on you will enjoy your frredom. Moving on doesn't mean to someone else. Give yourself time to heal and find who you are again. Then keep your priorities in line and the person you are meant to be with will come to your door (not literally).
2006-10-28 14:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why in the world would you want to stay in a controlling
relationship? You don't need him, you can do better. Your the type of person that other people talk about, You heard the saying
LOVE IS BLIND!! that is you. If this dude is treating you like crap and only sweet when he gets his way, doesn't that mean
anything to you? If he is out an about and you don't know his where about and you ask him and he tells you don't worry about
it, that right there just shows you he must be cheating. Even if
he wasn't, You still don't need a controlling guy to ask you your
where abouts, He is not your DADDY!! nor your MOM. It's time
for a reality check, tell him you need time alone to think things
over between you and him, watch he is going to get pissed no
matter what. That is why you need out now. There is other guy
out there that are willing to respect you for whom you are and not treat you like a ROBOT.
2006-10-27 12:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys should have a talk about this because controlling someone is never a good thing and since he thinks you are cheating on him then he probably is cheating on you because controlling people are like that and when people in relationships cheat they usually start to suspect the other is doing the same because they feel guilty so they start accusing.
2006-10-27 12:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men like this turn into physical abusers, can you live your life like that? If I were you I would let him go, unless you want the feeling of being in prison for the rest of your life. All of those types can be very charming and loving at times, that is what gets the girls to stay for a while. Be careful!
2006-10-27 12:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't go by what People say. Go by what You think. Ask yourself if you really want to be in a relationship with a man who guilts you on when you do go out, asks you a million questions, but won't return the favor. He seems insecure and selfish. You seem worthy of a better guy. Good luck.
2006-10-27 12:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably cheating on you and he's obsessed with you not cheating on him. On the dumb scale your a 9 out of 10.
Tell him it's not healthy that he's obsessed with your day and that he doesn't tell you anything. Tell him you have to respect eachother.
Also, dont' be a typical dumb girl. Dump him now and get rid of him. This is an abusive relationship waiting to happen. Get rid of him or get used to tension, pain and sorrow.
2006-10-27 12:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay. If you have to ask random people on the internet if you should stay with a totally controlling boyfriend, you may as well stay. You are just going to be disinterested in a "nice" guy and find yourself another controlling jerk. May as well stay with the one you are comfortable with.
Asking a question like "Should I stay with my controlling BF who is cheating on me?" is like asking "Should I stick my hand in this fire?". If you have to ask, then yes.
When you have enough confidence and guts to make a decision for yourself, execute it, and stick with it, I'm sure you will find another guy. Until then, get used to your lot in life and do something useful like going out and vaccuming your man's car.
2006-10-27 12:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ace Morningstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a good chance that he is cheating on you, especially if he's gets pissed off if you ask him the same questions he's asking you.
you sound like you're pretty young. i would move on. a guy who's only sweet some of the time and controlling all of the time isnt worth your time. and if he's that controlling already, he may resort to physical or verbal abuse if you ever try to fight back against his control.
good luck to you!
2006-10-27 12:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and say, "Listen bub, I am your girlfriend! I will always be with you at the end of the day and I will always have you on my mind! If you don't trust me, that means you don't love me!" Make sure you both agree and will honour your relationship. If he's cheating dump him, if you're cheating, end it. Let him know that you need space and if he can't realize that you are his girlfriend, you need to end it before his actions become violent or overly obsessive. Good luck.
2006-10-27 12:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by Obi-wan Kenobi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me for being blunt:
You need to leave him
AND, equally important, you need to seek therapy to find out the reasons why you are attracted to controlling (abusive) men - otherwise you will continue to select men like this till something bad happens. Ask any abused woman - its a pattern!
2006-10-27 12:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋