I love him, there so many reasons why we're good 2gether, but him having a child and a baby mother is bothering me due to the fact this women will be in our lives 4ever. I know if it was the other way around he wouldn't be with me if I had a child. But I have to accept that as well as the fact that he has trust issues and he doesn't love me the same way I love him, he says when we get married he'll allow himself to be vulnerable. Then there is the issue of him slowly changing and not being as sweet and romantic as he was in the beginning. But I love him and he doesn't treat me wrong, I'm just not satisfied with this arrangement. How am I suppose to feel?
2006-10-27 04:51:50 · 3 answers · asked by Cathy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't believe you would ever be satisfied with his arrangement so rather that be miserable the rest of your life you might want to start looking
2006-10-27 04:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by froggyfred3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is wrong of him to ask you to accept the fact that he has a child when he would not do the same for you. If it bothers you that he has a child and you will have to deal with the mother then the situation is not right for you. My wife had a child when we met and I knew we would have to deal with her ex and it didnt matter to me one bit. You dont have to accept the fact that he has trust issues, you can wait until he works his issues out before taking things to the next step. Why would the fact that you are married allow him to be vulnerable? If he is already changing in the way he treats you then these are warning signs you need to pay attention to. Marriage is hard and it is even harder when a child is in the picture. It doesnt sound like to me that he is the one for you. You asked how you should feel. When my wife and I got married there was no doubt in my mind that she was the one for me. That was 11 years ago yesterday and I have never once questioned my decision. That is the way you should feel. I know it will hurt, but I think you need to move on.
2006-10-27 12:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have issues BEFORE you marry, so please DONT marry.
Read some of the situations in the marriage and divorce section.
Marriage is suppposed to be a lifetime committment. You'll never make it, in your present relationship.
2006-10-27 11:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋