My mom is trying to get me on SSI when I am an adult and I want to enter the Job Corps program so I could be less dependent on the State and Federal government which I do not want to end up like that. She does not understand that I have rights to make my own decisions. What should I do?
2006-10-27 04:45:45 · 26 answers · asked by aaron_esq 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You definitely have the right to make your own decisions. I commend you for not wanting to be dependent on the government. Stand up for yourself and let your mom know that you do NOT want to be put on SSI!
2006-10-27 05:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Forceof1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is awesome that you don't want to go on SSI. If you're able to join the Job Corps and they will accept you, that is great. You would be much better off doing that, then just getting on SSI. There needs to be more people out there like you!! Good luck. Make your own decisions.
2006-10-27 04:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason your Mom wants you on SSI? Do you have a disability or does she just want you to live off the government?
If you are over 18 years old you are an adult, unless it is declared you are unable to take care of your self. Talk to your Mom & if necessary a social worker. Good luck! Independence is great.
2006-10-27 04:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by ladytc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are an adult, do what you want to do. If you go to the Job Corp, you won't be at home and it would do you a world of good. She's probably trying to keep you at home cause she loves you. But I agree with you. Please just go on and join the Job Corp without telling her and grow up and be on your own. You're very brave to do that instead of coping out with the SSI. Godloveya.
2006-10-27 04:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U did not give your age which would be great help for the answer. But, if u know what u would like to do, I myself think u should go with what you want to do if u are at least 18. The Job Corps sounds great to me. Maybe your mother is thinking of u being closer to her and u can be close to her in your heart and her heart even if u have a job that is away from where she lives. Are you an only child? Sometimes mothers are thinking of themselves when they give you suggestions. Hope this has helped. BJP
2006-10-27 05:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we are new to being what we consider an adult. We believe we know what's best for us. Just as our parents believe because they have experience more, they believe they know what is best for us.
Parents try very hard to protect their children, no matter how old they are. They try to keep children from making the same mistakes they did. They end up pushing their children away and making them feel resentful.
My daughter got into trouble when she didn't heed a warning I gave her. She said to me. " Mom, I should have listened to you and I'm sorry". My reply was " I hope that you never have to go through what I just did with you. And I hope that you never have hear those words from your son."
My point being that parents do not always know what's best for their children. Sometimes their past experiences cloud their judgment. But also at your age you may not have learned the life lessons they have. It is your life and your choices. You can listen to what they have to say. Analyze it and make your own decision.
2006-10-27 05:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in fact an adult, then you should stand up for what you believe in. Let her know that you realize that she is trying to offer the best advice she can for you but you do have to make your own decisions. Standing up to our parents (even after we become adults) can be very difficult sometimes. We don't want to hurt their feelings or feel like we are being "bad kids" for not listening to them, but you have to put your foot down sometime. These are decisions you are making for YOU and only you know what is best for you! Good luck!
2006-10-27 04:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are full of age, do what you think is best!
Moms have a habbit of running their childs life. My Mom was like that and I noticed that I was trying to do the same thing with my 18 year old son. Mons have to learn to let go!
I'm proud that you want to work and not depend on the State and the Taxpayer..... I wish you good luck.....Your Mom needs to learn that you are grown and want to live your own life
2006-10-27 05:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Jasmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's clear that you are being the responsible one by trying to take care of yourself and not leeching off the government. You can make your own decisions, and if your mom doesn't like it or can't accept it, thats her problem. Do what you want.
2006-10-27 04:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Zach S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under federal law you have no rights until you are of legal age at 18.
I agree you shouldn't get SSI unless you really need it. I appauld your standing up to her in this matter. Get a job find a place to live once you have turned legal age. Good luck...
2006-10-27 04:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by Marshall Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋