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2006-10-27 04:41:13 · 21 answers · asked by call_me_the_hot_1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think it shows children that violence is the way to solve problems.
2006-10-27 04:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When grown ups fight it upsets small children and makes them feel like their world is out of control. If the argument gets bad then the kids hear all what is said and take all that to heart even if the parents make up the kids remember what they heard.If the argument gets violent then the children can be terrified that something awful is going to happen. Children become confused, angry, sad, scared and scarred by such displays unless parents are careful to make sure they show the kids that arguments are normal and get resolved without nasty comments and violence.
2006-10-27 11:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents fought in front of us all the time. It kinda messes you up, because first of all, the parents say things they shouldn't, it teaches children not to respect their parents, it can teach them to fear one or both of their parents for the wrong reasons. It could also teach the kids to act the same way in their relationships, they will learn to deal with problems in the same manner, rather than taking the high road. It can make a child feel insecure, and have trouble trusting others. They could also start having problems in school, or become withdrawn from other kids. Embarrassment is also a big issue. They might stop bringing friends around for fear you might fight in front of the friends. It's not something you EVER get over! please don't do it in front of your kids, and remember, just because the door is closed doesn't mean it is sound proof!!
2006-10-27 11:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When parents fight in front of thier chidren, children pick up some of the adult things they're fighting about like say money. In turn blaming themselves (thinking maybe if I didn't have to have lunch money mom and dad wouldn't be fighting). Not to mention the insecurity they must feel; the two people I love the most are in conflict, that never feels good. So be careful how you talk to one another infront of your children. That's how insecurities get started and other behavioral problems
2006-10-27 11:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about physical violence or fighting, but I sure saw enough verbal arguments growing up to last a lifetime. My parents would disagree about a lot of things, and even how to punish us when we did something wrong. It was very confusing, about who was in control and I believe the lack of attention to us kids led us to go our seperate ways. We didn't feel loved growing up (even though they did), and needless to say, I have done a lot of stupid things to feel loved.
I am grown and mid-20's, but everytime I go home, I still hear them arguing. One time it was a 20 minute argument about changing a tv channel. I couldn't stand it so I walked away. I learned through this upbringing that if it's not important than drop it. I learned to be respectful of my mate and validate his opinions (opposite of what I saw.) But I also could have learned to emulate what they did, and disagree about everything and that is how you show love. Very skewed view of things.
2006-10-27 15:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fighting in front of kids changes a child's emotional DNA. It is the worst thing you can do to your children.
If you can't keep your fights private, if you can't solve your problems, then for god's sake separate. Two happy parents in two homes is so much better than two fighting parents in one home. Children would rather be from a broken home than live in one.
Fighting in front of your kids is child abuse.
2006-10-28 20:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If parents are able to be adults and work out the problem then children learn about problem solving. If the parents just fight with no resolution then the child learns how to continue that cycle.
2006-10-27 11:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It gives them insecurities, makes it harder to develop long lasting friendships/relationships, it's hard to love yourself when all you see is hate, once they do develop relationships with loved ones, it's hard to keep them together due to all the yelling and or violence they saw growing up. There's a lot more I could tell you, I grew up in disfunction, but I'm great now. I've moved 15 hours away from those crazies and my life is thriving more now than ever!!!
2006-10-27 11:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents fought in front of us ( im one of six children in my family) It was terrible. I would cry my self to sleep everynight when i heard them or saw them i was scared for my mother scared for us. Now i am now 23 and married. It took a long time for me to get over it. I still today jump when ever i hear a man yell. Its like inside of me somewhere is this frighted child that i will never be able to comfort.
2006-10-27 11:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im 17 my parent fought(phsicaly) all the time and i take anger mangment 4 days a week and i see a shrink. he says the reason why im like this is because my parents use to fight. so ur kids can come out ****** up like me so just watch what u do around them
2006-10-27 11:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by htkeyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look on this website. It has a whole article about how does fighting parents affect kids.
2006-10-27 14:11:01 · answer #11 · answered by sexymama05112005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋