He is a lovely guy and i can tell he's desperate for kids,he has already told me he loves me but i'm not sure if i believe him. I could see myself being with him for a long time as we get on great but do you think he's putting things on heavy?
2006-10-27 04:40:52 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are feeling that you might be with him for a long time, you definitely need to sit down and talk to him about how you are feeling. Tell him that you are flattered that he feels so strongly towards you, but you want to take things slow and get to know each other. Tell him that you like him too, and you want time to develop your feelings for him on a deeper level. If he cant accept that, then he doesnt want you, he just wants someone. The best medicine is honesty, my dear, and you definitely need to keep it real with him.
2006-10-27 04:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by dlite1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot depends on what you mean, when you say he's talking marriage and kids. If he has made it clear that he wants to marry you, I'd be careful. A rational person does not decide something of such importance without giving it a lot more time.
On the other hand, if he has merely indicated that he would like to get married and have some kids, and he considers you a prospect, there's nothing wrong with that. Maybe he just wants to bring up the subject early, so as not to waste his time on someone who is just looking to party.
I would also be interested in finding out what he means, when he says he loves you. If a man says he loves a woman, he might mean he would rather kill her than let some other man have her. Make sure that isn't what he means.
If you haven't quite decided to dump him, you might want to at least confront him with something along the lines of, "You're moving a little too fast, and that scares me", and see how he reacts.
2006-10-27 04:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by Allen Montgomery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure this guy is a really great guy, but don't you think things are moving a little too fast??? It hasn't even been a month yet and he's saying that he loves you. I think he cares about you very much right now, but he shouldn't be telling you he loves you this early. Be careful because some people are obsessed and get attached quickly. Let him know that your very interested in having a relationship with him, but you want to let things go slow because that's the best way to know each other and be the best of friends. Just talk to him. Good luck!!!
2006-10-27 04:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be that he really likes you and wants to make sure he has you all to himself. Sometimes guys think that all a girl wants is to hear about future and marriage and by hearing that u will keep him. Just explain to him that you like him but he needs to slow down. My boyfriend did the same thing and it scared me, but he slowed down and things are wonderful. If you believe hes a great guy then follow your heart.
2006-10-27 04:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by BellaRia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not jump down this guys throat because I knew in 3 weeks that I was going to marry my wife.
If you are older, say early 30's then you should know what your looking for in a partner. He knows that you fit his criteria and things have simply clicked. Sometimes it happens. The real question is has it clicked for you. If it has then continue the relationship stating that you are dating to see if marriage is the answer. My wife knew at about 2 months that it was going to happen for her. Give him a shot he might just have found his one true love. That tends to make you a little over anxious.
2006-10-27 04:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The guy sounds insecure. It could be that he is looking for reassurance from you. Tell him to slow down - that you're still getting to know him . . . If he keeps up the heavy talk after you telling him to slow down, than I would say run - because he will be the oppressive type later in the relationship . . .
2006-10-27 04:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by InTheGroove 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only if you don't feel the the same.
I knew I'd found the woman for me at the end of the first week of dating my wife. 6 years later and three happy children, I still don't have a single doubt I made the wrong choice.
No matter what he says, if he's not pressuring you to move faster than you're comfortable, what does it matter? Enjoy the relationship as it develops and see what happens.
2006-10-27 04:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Javelinl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is something very wrong with this situation. Don't encourage the guy...in fact, you might think about dumping him. He's trying to grab you up before someone else does, and make a perfect family for HIM. He's not worried about your feelings in the least. He's sick in the head. Move on or you'll be sorry. Godloveya.
2006-10-27 04:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nooo, I met this bloke on a blind date and the first night he told me he loved me and we would be together forever, cynically I thought he probably said that to everyone. Funnily enough he didnt and we have been together 4 years, have married and have one beautiful son and a baby on the way. I jumped with both feet and have never regretted it. Its only society that imposes these time scales on us. The best advice I ever had was go with your instincts, try it, it never fails. Good luck I hope you are as happy as we are.
2006-10-27 04:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me but in my case the guy had already told me by Feb next year we should be living together and hopefully by then will be expecting, so l had to drop him cos that kinda freaked me out though we are still good friends, l just had to tell him l was not ready for all that, if you want the same thing maybe you should go for it but if not tell him how you feel about it
2006-10-27 04:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋