Ok so there is this guy and we have been flirty and fooled around a little in the past but nothing major... well lately we were talking about dating then just kinda stopped, he lived far away at the time but was moving back so we were talking about something happening when he got here. Well we both dated around and i guess he started talking to his ex from here and they decided to see if something could happen. SO he told me he really liked me and was really attracted to me and it was an incredibly tough decision but he wants to see what happens with his ex and if it fizzles he really wants to try something with me. Im upset but understand.... but what do I do? lay low and just let it play out or intervene? I want this to work we have so much history and I KNOW it would work if I just get a chance. I dont want to push away this other girl and risk looking obsessive if she can bring him happiness but I just cant stand knowing I might not get a chance now! Dammit! Help!!!
2006-10-27 04:32:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if it was meant to be it will be. i wouldn't wait for him though. he's doin his thing, why shouldn't you
2006-10-27 04:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by wendy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one thing that I have never understood. Is any man really worth it? Through age and experience, I have found myself happier when I realized that the answer to that question is always NO. If any man says something to you like "Well, I'm a little bored with you right now, so I'm going back to fool around with my ex for a little while. But, hey, stick around because I'll eventually bore of her as well, then I'll come back." - tell him where he can stick it. You are too good to be treated like that, and you need to believe that, or THEY will believe otherwise. Never wait around for a man, you are the goddess, act like it.
2006-10-27 04:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by catsovermen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't force a relationship, so breaking them up won't work.
What you need to do is ask yourself if you want to wait and if he's worth waiting for. There are other men out there and chances are, there are plenty that would like to date you right now. If you are content sitting on the sidelines, hoping for a chance with this guy, then go ahead, but I suggest that you just move on.
2006-10-27 04:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're putting too much in this "relationship" than you should. You're not in some commitment with this guy, so why try to think of him as such. Obviously, you don't have what he wants otherwise he wouldn't try to (rekindle) the fire with his ex. Give it a month, then move on if he hasn't made a decision yet. Some things just weren't meant to happen. Don't think of him as some major loss in your life. Remember: you can't lose what wasn't yours in the first place.
Good Luck on that one.
2006-10-27 04:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by Divo Saint 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't understand why you would want to be involved with that kind of situation. Either the guy is free or not.. As a guy, i see him as very controlling, he wants his cake and eat it too. you should all move in together because that's what he wants.. the more women he has hanging on the less he has to worry about being alone. Anger one; no problem he has another waiting in the winds. How stupid - your just being played; wake up. Makes me wonder how many kids he has that you don't know about..
2006-10-27 04:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dear beautiful Princess, do not worry. First of all try dating another guy or two while you are waiting. Then just sit back, chill out, and wait and see what happens. It is either going to happen or not. Don't sweat the small **** in life. Life is too short to worry about things that may or may not work out.
2006-10-27 04:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's not worth it. I am but he's not..... :^) Ok, All kidding aside, I would not want to be the "2nd Choice" that is just plain bogus... he gets to try things out with his EX and THEN if it doesn't work out he'll try you ? sounds like he wants his pick of the litter so to speak and you sound like you are a bright woman.....why stand up for it ? You have your self respect as well and there are a million OTHER guys out there... (email me :^)) who would probably love to talk to you.....also if you let him walk all over you now then later on he'll think it's acceptable behaviour to do it again.......best of luck babes....
2006-10-27 04:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Tragedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol so you dont mind being the "Insurance Left Over Woman" I mean come on!! jeeez... theres got to be some other guy in that city of yours thats gonna put you #1 and not a wait for me 2nd!! if you like that just wait for him since hes already got you under his control....other than that I'd say move on... waiting for him is a joke!! If he wanted to be with you he would be there with you right now!!!!!!!!
2006-10-27 04:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lay low, he wants to be with his ex right now, so let him. In the meantime, don't obsess with him, and just move on.
2006-10-27 04:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him how you feel and then let whatever happens happen. You can't force something.. if he feels that he needs to see what happens with her first, he will regret not doing it if you force him.
If it is truly meant to be, let him go.. he will come back to you.
2006-10-27 04:35:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let your mind go after his decission.
You have to make yourself attractive to him. That's what you have to do.
Remember to be yourself always.
2006-10-27 04:37:09 · answer #11 · answered by meodowla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋