My sisters husband recently got caught with another women. My sister doesnt know about it. My sister and her husband are getting ready to go to on vacation. Should I tell her before she goes or after she comes back?? Or should I go to him and tell he better tell her or I will??? What do I do?? Oh and also she they have 2 kids. One is 6 and one is 2
2006-10-27 04:19:15 · 33 answers · asked by KANDACE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you owe it to your sister to tell her as soon as possible. Don't leave it up to him. If he has such a lack of integrity that he would cheat on your sister, what makes you think he will be honest with her about this issue? Just tell her yourself and think about how upset she would be with you for withholding this information from her for any length of time. Just tell her!
2006-10-27 04:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by Desiderata of Happiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With delicate situations like this, you have to be careful. Tell your sister in private, away from her husband and kids. Leave the decision as to what to do up to her. Don't even remotely nudge her in any direction. If she decides to put him through probation, all the more power to her. If she decides to divorce him, it will be a bit hard on the kids- more the six year old than the toddler - but it'll be worth it. Then again, it could be better for her to hear it from her husband, so she won't think as badly of him.
2006-10-27 04:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by lilyamongthorns09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate situations like this. It always seems like either way you go its still gonna be a terrible outcome. But before you do anything you need to evaluate a couple of things. 1. Are you sure. 2. do u have proof 3. does your sister find you trustworthy 4. have you ever displayed any acts of jealousy or hate on their relationship.. those things are very important and play a major role on her outcome of the situation. If he is a good liar, then if you confront him first, he could find ways to cover up for when you tell your sister. example.. "i saw your sister one day at the mall when i was out with my godsister"... you know what i mean... so i would say, sit her down and tell her.. please be careful and i wish u luck
2006-10-27 04:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by mizz_toree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the first time he's been caught....if so then maybe you should leave it....if not then tell her.....I dont know that's a tough call. You may tell her and she maynot do anything about it......and where that leaves you. But if you dont and she finds out that you knew, you will be in a dog house with her. What kind of person is your sister, base it on that.....sorry couldnt fully answer this question....wish you all the best in whatever decision you make
2006-10-27 04:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by teaspoon520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got quite the dilemma don't you....
Hmmm......I think blood is thicker than the ole' hubby for starters.
You should have your sisters back no matter what...
So, I would of already told her...But since you haven't...for your sisters sake...I'd wait til after vacation. The deed is done....And if they're not able to work it out then she might as well have a nice vacation before the cats out of the bag.....Make sense?
I think so.
But you definitely need to tell her later. No-one deserves to be cheated on and lied to.....No-One ! ! !
Good luck ! ! !
2006-10-27 04:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u and her should go out for a dinner,then talk about many nice memories u both had in ur childhood then open the subject of her husband wiv askin her how is things between her and her husband,then tell her about her husband be4 she goes to the vacation
coz if u tell her husband to stop that and she knew about it she will get really upset of that her sis hided such a thing from her and am sure if u were in her place u would feel the same
good luck
2006-10-27 04:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell them before they go, other wise when they get back she will be even more hurt that she had such a great time with him without even knowing what he was doing. You should probably talk to him about it and get him to tell her. It's always better to hear the story first person, and if she doesn't believe you it will cause some friction in your relationship with her. If he refuses to tell her himself, then tell her. But try to do it away from the kids... it will hurt them to not understand what's happening.
Amelia
2006-10-27 04:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by stratocaster lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you caught him yourself, tell him you know and if he doesn't tell his wife you will. However, be careful sometimes the messenger gets blamed for the break up of the marriage. Also she may already know he sleeps around, and is hiding it from her family and friends for her children's sake. Some women know their husband is cheating, but turns a blind eye to it because he may be a good provider.
2006-10-27 04:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to tell her or you will. If he doesn't stick to your promise and tell her. She is your sister, you may not want to be the barer of bad news but she has a right to know, rather it be before of after the vacation. Who knows what funk he could bring home to her if he is sleeping around.
2006-10-27 04:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by MotherB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell the Husband that you know and give him the opportunity to tell her. I don't know if it's better before or after because either way it's going to be awful.
Tell her hubby that if he doesn't tell her soon, you will.
2006-10-27 04:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋