if u were had slept with someone married and want to stop seeing him cos of guilt what do you do?

Question

the man in question is a friend of the family and you want to stop doing those things with him cos u feel it's not right and you feel guilt anytime you see him,but you both work in the same company and it's difficult to avoid him.you've tried talking to him but he seems obsessed with you and will always lure you cos he knows you like him,what would you do to get him off your way.

Answer 1

What a tangled web we weave.... Man did you screw up with this one. Quit your job, don't take his calls, refuse to see him. if none of this helps tell his wife.

Tough life choices but if you really want this to end you must be ready to play hard ball.

Answer 2

You've tried talking. Now try not talking. Slowly back off without him realizing you are. Be less available to him and his calls. Be in a rush when you see him. He may hold on tighter if he realizes he's losing you.
He can only lure you if you let him. Sounds like he is using your feelings to manipulate you. If this relationship will go no further. The guilt is overwhelming. You have made the right choice in ending it. You need to find your inner strength to resist him, be strong when he tries to lure you in. It will be a battle for a while. But persistence in not being emotionally available to him. He will eventually move on. You are not responsible for his feelings, nor how he is going to react around you at work. stick to it. Good luck.

Answer 3

from a wife who has a husband who was with a co-worker.

It shows great respect for yourself and your values as a women to avoid when possible and tell him or the wife what is going on. I know scary. The girl in the relationship with my husband told me. Now don't get me wrong we are not buddy-buddy but I respected her for telling me. My husband and I are still together but it is hard. And I mean hard.

Also, you must find something you enjoy doing. Be with a group of friends outside the family for a while to keep your mind occupied on other things other than when is it going to be the next time. When there is a family function, stay in the kitchen and help both before serving food and after. Stay in the kitchen. Men don't like the kitchen especially when a bunch of women are in there.

And if the family member is yours. There is something to be said about family. They stick together. There may be some silence for a while maybe a long while or a short while but they are family and if you confront her with a heart filled with remorse then she will understand. If it is him with the family same applies. Remorse, Repent and forgive yourself. We make mistakes. The tragedy is when we do not learn from them and continue to not only hurt ourselves but the people we love the most. Especially if children are involved like with me there are a total of five children involved 3 are mine and 2 were hers.

Answer 4

I know exactly how that goes (but the guy wasnt married but was with someone but i found out later on) its so hard just to tell that person goodbye when you have feelings for that person especially when you do try and then he says the nicest things to you and then you think hmmm well one more time and then ill end things. its easier said than done but you should just tell him you dont want to be the one to ruined a marriage and destroy a family or even your own by doing something that is wrong. thing is maybe he knows that you have feelings for him and he knows you wont reject him when he says the things you want to hear. try and end things with him and maybe try and go out and meet other guys to get your mind off him. Good luck!!

Answer 5

Just tell him you're moving on, you could even tell him a white lie that you are have the chance to date this guy but don't want to complicate things. Tell him you're done, you don't want to play games anymore and seeing him is holding you back from seeing others... which is true you're not going to be given soemthing you already have and really you don't even have him your just smuckin' things up for yourself... If worse came to worse and it was too difficult and if none of those worked then I would find a differetn job.

Answer 6

Very simple- STOP- if you like him- tell him but also tell him you cannot deal with the guilt and the physical stuff will STOP. If he harrasses you, bring up the fact that you feel for his wife (that will slow him) and can't be the other woman- if and when he gets the balls to leave, you'd love to date him- I wouldn't though, if he can't keep his pants on for her, do you think he'll do it for you?! Free sex is just that- free- no one turns down a freebie- is that how you want to be thought of?- obviously not- be better!- GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

Keep trying to talk to him and let him know where u stand. If he tries to lure u away don't go regardless how u feel about him. Cause a relationship that makes u feel guilty isn't a relationship for anyone.

Answer 8

Just be firm with him. He's trying the old emotional blackmail trick on you. He knows you like him and thinks that you'll keep seeing him and keep quiet about it.

You have to tell him firmly that it's over between you and that if he doesn't stop coming on to you, you'll tell his wife even at the risk of tearing friendships and families apart.

That should be enough to dampen his enthusiasm!

Answer 9

Tell him that unless he gets a divorce, you're not going to accept his advances anymore - and stick to it. Don't accept any excuses from him. Also, start seeing other men. If he's serious, he'll get a divorce, but chances are, you are just a mistress.

Don't worry about him getting mad. It's not like he can tell on you, after all, he's the one with something to lose, not you.

Answer 10

Just tell him straight up that you guys made a bad decision and you don't think it's right to continue the sexual relationship. Oh and reiterate that he's MARRIED. WHat a sleazeball he is! You are better off without him, girl!