Toddler 3 yrs. old?

Question

My toddler is 3 and I don't know how make her listen. I have tried reading books ,magazines, timeout .....nothing seems to be working.. Help someone .. what do i do ?

When is "spoiled" called too much for a 3 yrs old?

Answer 1

Be patient. Keep trying, until she does learn.

Take her to a doctor. But don't give in to the temptation to start feeding her pills, quite yet.

Explore other ways to teach, using experiential, touch, feel, listen (too music, video). Take her to museums where they let the kids interact with the exhibits, where they can feel sculpture, play games, touch animals, etc.

Read the works of Montessori and Piaget.

We just put on a video (DVD) of Symphony No. 7 by Beethoven. Our toddler stopped to look and listen for a while. I gave him a flute yesterday. He's having fun with that.

Children need lots of play time. Don't try to structure too much too soon. Consult your children's doctor and psychologist on this. Contact your primary schools, talk to special ed teachers, and ask for advice. Go to your school board meetings, where you can meet other people who are interested in education.

You might contact Sylvan Learning Centres, and ask them for resources. You may have to pay something. Depends on what you have, what you're willing to invest in your children's future.

Answer 2

Well, she's 3 so timeout doesn't work until a bit older. Do you mean you punish her by reading her books? That's what your question sounds like...

My toddler is always going going going. Very busy learning everything she possibly can. Just give it some time. If you are trying to get her to listen when she does something wrong --- get down on her level and speak firmly. But don't yell.

Answer 3

I won't remark on your 'situation', yet I also have a 13 year previous daughter and yet another daughter that in simple terms became 4. And particular, there is opposition. in simple terms think of your daughter became your basically toddler and have been given all your interest till she became 11. And now there is somebody that just about in all risk takes all a while - time that could have been spent along with her. do no longer make up for it by paying for her costly clothing and stuff, that would not do something. yet depart the toddler with a sitter and spend the day with the oldest one. Take her to lunch, flow see a inexpensive action picture. Mine does seem to droop to the decrease point at circumstances, she would be able to argue with the 4 year previous. it is popular to a factor, yet often times even the oldest one needs time far flung from the toddler.

Answer 4

I am having the same problem with my three year old. Is she delayed in her speach at all? or do you just have a hard time getting her to listen. What I found out is that my daughter has a hearing problem she can not figure out what sounds are and where they are coming from. So she thinks that you are ignoring her and not talking to her so I had to go and get a hearing test done. So I would recomend talking to her doctor about. I hope that this helps.

Answer 5

Join the crowd. My three year old doesn't listen either. It's a phase they go through. It drives me absolutely crazy too. The best things to do are give them all the attention you can manage and be consistent in your answers. As for time outs when they do something bad, we have been making my son lay down on the cold kitchen floor for three minutes at a time. He hates it.

Answer 6

I have 3 boys, the oldest 2 are 6 and 4, they have been through this stage, and it really does get better. My youngest is 2 1/2, and he is just getting started. i think the best thing I could tell you is to just be consistent. Children at that age are so active, it can get frustrating. But if you can keep yourself calm, and remember that you are the adult, disciplining will be much easier. i have seen to many people get frustrated and just start yelling at their kids, which I think has the opposite effect of what they are looking for.
I will say this, i do not believe in beating your children, but if they are doing something that is dangerous,and do not want to listen to your warnings, that is when i would swat them, mind you, that it should be on a clothed bottom, and no more than 2or 3 swats. IF however, it is something trivial, that is just annoying, just get down on their level, try to make them look at you, and talk to them rationally, using words that is easy for them to understand. My middle son was always off in his own little world. and often times, if I could just get him to look at me, it would make a huge difference. Good luck

Answer 7

When every you have time you do those things that you want her to do. If she sees you reading she will later try it. You have to keep doing it don't do it one time and quit.Kids like to copy other kids or people. If you have a family member that does homework or like to read, let her see them doing it.
Now with that timeout! Just stay firm with him. Make her stay their until she does it right.
I have a lil girl that about to 4. She copy everything her sister does. So at homework time I make her sit down and do her play play homework. Now she is in school she has homework and know what to do when that time comes.

Answer 8

When you talk to her, make her look you in the eyes. Get down to her level when you talk so she doesn't feel intimidated and talk to her with a calm, yet firm voice. Let her know you're serious. Take away the TV, toys, games, etc...anything she likes to do, don't allow her to do it if she doesn't want to listen. This kills them cause then they're just in time out w/o anything they enjoy! If you have to take things away for the whole day, do whatever it takes.

Most parents now days don't believe in this, but I've spanked my daughter a couple times, but that's all it took. She listens and respects me like no other...I never have to spank her now. She's the best kid a mom could ask for.

Answer 9

i had to teach my son to listen - he had severe glue ear and only got grommits when he was 2 years old, he basically couldnt hear before so he missed out. we have had to do alot of work with him with his listening, hearing and speech. some children dont have high concentration levels so this maybe why she doesnt want to sit and read books.
how my speech therapist told me to teach my son to listen -
get down to her level... to get her attention gently tap her shoulder. point to your ear when you are talking to her and say...listen. you can do this with noises outside the house also - cars, birds, airplanes...listen - hand to ear - whats that. try and keep the tv off aswell when you are trying to talk to her because sounds from that may confuse her and you wont have her full attention. it will all take time but those exercises have helped a great deal with my son. good luck. if you do have concerns take her to see your doctor

Answer 10

I have three year old toddler too. I make him repeat things back to me, not every word, and sometimes when I think he's not listing he really is.