He told me its cool to write him a letter to express myself. im scared to do it because we work together. he's been so hurt before and i dont know how to approach this situation. he's religious too and i like that aspect about him. he came into a patients room to wink at me, and i guess he likes to get my attention. i know the ettiquitte for work romances. but its obvious he finds me atractive. and i feel the same.
2006-10-27 04:01:52 · 21 answers · asked by hotmominpa2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't blame you feeling nervous about writing him a letter. Why not go to lunch, talk, get to know each other first and then tell him how you feel about him. Don't rush into this. I met my b/f at work so I think work romances are kinda cute, and if your co workers start noticing an attraction between you two they will become very nosey. Good luck with whatever you decide. To answer your question, Yes. His "winks" mean that he likes you.
2006-10-27 04:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to just figure out if he really does like you or if he's simply a flirtatious guy. Maybe suggest that you take the friendship outside of work and hang out a few times without any pressure. Get to know each other, find out if there's a spark and if he's worth potentially putting yourself in a sticky situation. Believe me, if you date the WRONG guy at work, that's a big mistake so make sure you've got some chemistry first!
2006-10-27 04:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a mutual attraction and your "sure" of it, then whats the problem? He asked for a letter, express yourself with the letter if thats how YOU want to do it or just talk to the guy. Personally, I am a straight forward person and HATE the cat and mouse games that generally begin a relationship... I prefer the bold, upfront approach. Chat with the guy and see what comes of it. If you are both truly professional it won't matter about the work environment.
2006-10-27 04:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by spedtrap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that if he winks at you he is interested. However I would never put anything non work related in writing to a coworker. You never know what could happen. What if the two of you got together and things didn't work out... he'd have your letter to show all your coworkers and that could get very embarrasing.
2006-10-27 04:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow. office romances are a tricky subject. i met my man at work and i can tell you how to make it work. first, start slow with flirting over a couple of months. explore your other options. there are other guys out there that you are compatible with that wont mess up your work situation if it fails. if you still think this guy is the best, then ask him to go out after work one day. dont write him a letter right away, thats a bit weird. just go out for lunch, dinner, a drink, coffee... whatever. keep it short and friendly - under an hour. you may not like him outside of work so dont spill your heart to him unless you see how it goes a couple of times first. then make it a regular thing, you two going out together after work. always short though, around an hour. if you go out 10-12 times and still like him a lot, it will just happen naturally.
2006-10-27 04:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by kdjags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your interested in him and he's interested in you. So, what's the problem. You say you work together. Are you concerned about problems at work? If so, tell him this concerns you. I am sure he is feeling some of the same concerns. But if you communicate honestly with each other, you can work through it. The average person changes employers at least four times during their life. I wouldn't let work stand in the way of a relationship if I were truly interested in someone. There are plenty of jobs out there, but there is only one true love! :)
2006-10-27 04:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Desiderata of Happiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if he is truly interested by hanging out with him outside of work. Dont need to tell you about workplace romance but just be careful. If you are truly interested in each other. Then both of you will find out how to make it work.
2006-10-27 04:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just flirt around with him til he asks you out. Don't be too sexual around him though, because people might accuse you of being loose or a slut or something. Just wink back at him, and hint around like say, gosh im gonna be so lonely this friday night... lol stuff like that, good luck!
2006-10-27 04:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by Billy Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write the letter, and keep it for a few days, then read it again, to see if its really what you want
2006-10-27 04:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would actualy talk to him straight out and ask him to coffee . Notes have a way of trickling threw work gosip its important to protect yourself even if you trust him already make him earn it.
Policieces are like rules they are made to be broken. lol
2006-10-27 04:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋