it ended about a week ago and i want to move on with someone else... Was with him for two years, shared everything, was my soul mate. How do i get him out of my head???
2006-10-27 03:53:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you mean that you've met someone else, and like them enough to want to move on with them, or that you would like to forget the ex, and find someone esle to move on with. I assum it's not the former, in which case I think you should find some hobbies, like watching local rugby - just wander along and cheer from the side lines on a Saturday, and tell anyone who asks you like men covered in mud - guaranteed they will all treat you very well, and be v. surprised and flattered that someone has taken such an interest.
There, then you can be their unoffical mascot. Brilliant.
Just go out and have some single fun. Best way to forget is to be busy, but better to do it songle otherwise you'll spend your time comparing mr now to mr x...
2006-10-27 04:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being in long term relationships even for 2 years. if he was the love of your life. its going to take a while to get over him. but you just need to keep telling yourself. Its not your lost its his. Moving on is hard. you shouldn't take it all in but do one step at a time. Maybe you shouldnt be looking, just relax have some fun. and have this time to get to know yourself again and go out with the girls. Getting out of a long relationship then dating after is not a good idea. cause when you look at that person all you will be thinking about is him.
If you really want to forget him. Take away all the pictuers the letters the emails his number and little things he gave you and put them in a boxs some where. I know you wont really forget him because he was your ture one love. but just taking day by day is the only thing you can do. If it was meant to be he will come back then if not. dont live in sadness or depresstion. Life goes on.
2006-10-27 11:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by allie laught alot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved the guy then you will always carry him in your heart. You have history with him. Time will get you past these latent feelings and once you meet someone who really piques your interest, these feelings for your ex will change.
Surprisingly, there is actually more than one soul mate out there for each person. It's just a matter of finding the one that is the best fit.
2006-10-27 10:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may never get him entirely out of your head, he might always remain that special someone but time is indeed a healer and it will get more bearable. Focus on other things/people. Hard to do I know but a necessity. Nothing lasts forever and you wont feel like you do now once you have got into a new routine with new friends and social life. Good luck.
2006-10-27 11:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time really is the best healer. Try to avoid him as best as you can if that is possible. In a few months you will look back and realise these experiences are just part of lifes learning curve - it will make you a stronger person in the end.
Mine was a pretty bitter break-up but I knew that I had got over him once I stopped hating him (and wishing excruciating pain on his genitals) and just wishing him the best in life.
Another man will help to take your mind off things but its not advisable to get too involved too soon as you may just confuse the matter.
2006-10-27 11:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by bettyboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its tough but you gotta look at it as though, it happened, it was lovely, it didn't work, there is a reason for that....time to move on.
Go out with your mates every weekend, don't even think of guys and have a great time. If ever you feel that you are gonna call or text him, find something to do very quickly, such as a bubble bath or knitting!
2006-10-27 10:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, he wasn't your "soul mate" or you would not of broken up. Second, I assume you are about high school age and let me tell you, it has been a while since my high school days, but there will be MANY more guys down the road for you. I thought the EXACT same thing you did, and I found MANY better girls then my "soul mate".
2006-10-27 11:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's necessarily gonna go away in a week so give urself some time. If he really was the love of ur life.. like first love type of thing, idk that u will get over it but u will come to terms w/ it. and moving on w/ someone else.. idk if that helps at all, that's not really my thing, but if it helps for u thats cool. just make sure ur not hurting someone else b/c ur not over ur x. i'm going through kind of the same thing so i know how u feel, only for me it's been a couple of months. it's hard, but u'll be ok, just hang in there.
2006-10-27 10:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by Beyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you were a magician, might it be possible to get over "the love of your life" in a split second!
No, it's going to take time to agree with yourself, to move on.
Good luck with your efforts. And, may the best girl win! (YOU)
2006-10-27 10:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by littlebritfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was mega gutted when i split up with my ex, i used to think about him all the time. but time changes alot, i just enjoyed myself, met new people, went travelling and although i used to compare every bloke to him, i realised that he didnt have ME either and put it down to experience. i dont think of him hardly at all now,Ive been with my current boyfriend for over a year now, and have learnt so much of what not to do, that its been really good! he makes me laugh alot more than the other one! and i love him to bits bless him!
2006-10-27 12:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by so bored at work 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋