my best friend passed away and i really have to got to her funeral.but its being held at a church and my parents wont let me go. they said i'll forget her.what do they mean?she was my best friend, i'll never forget! i dont know what to do.......
2006-10-27 03:31:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
As a father I would allow my son to pay his repsect to his lost friend and their family regardless of his friends religion. You are being a good friend and despite your spiritual differences you should be allowed to say good bye. I do not see how being in a church would affect or corrupt your beliefs. If there is one commonality between religions it is that we believe God is good. Right? Would a good person not be following this primary principle? Do the right thing, follow your heart.
2006-10-27 03:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Digging for answers 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Will your parents let you go to the cemetery? That might be a good compromise. Otherwise you should talk to them and let them know how much it means to you to go to the funeral. Tell them that you feel it is important to have the chance to say goodbye to your friend, important enough so that even though you might not feel entirely comfortable in a church, you still want to go as a sign of your respect and affection for your friend.
Remind them also that the prophet Muhammed(pbuh) said that we should respect Christians and that not attending the funeral would be disrespectful to your friend and send a bad message about Muslims to the rest of her family.
2006-10-27 03:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by brendagho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend,
Do not bother about such ridiculuos yet religionic belief. A true friend will see nothing that will obstruct their friendship even in the afterlife!
If you are really care and assume your passed away friend as your best friend...I advice you to follow your instinct.
It may look a little bit arkward but I do not think that a muslim inside a church will be an offence. Yet you may have to face your own family matter as well as the perception from the public. But do not care about that. Love your friend, then do it. God may understand why you did so (being in a church).
Good luck. The decision is on your hand.
2006-10-27 03:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Triplestars 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
MashaAllah. Inna lilahi wa inna ilahi wa rajioon.
I think your family worries for you, that they think you will have problems because you are Muslim. However I think they should seriously consider your feelings and how the Prophet Muhammed sullalahu alahis wa salaam would act, and how we're commanded to treat the ahl ul kitab (people of the book).
If there is certain to be actions to violate the Shariah then it's not permissible to go (of course). However in this case I cannot imagine what that would be.
There are also Muftis who have declared that it is acceptable for a Muslim to go to the funeral of a non Muslim.
Talk to your family about why they are objecting this. I'm sorry that you are put in such a tough position.
2006-10-27 03:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mud 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Churches are open for everyone. Our church is a baptist church and if a Muslim or 400 Muslims wanted to attend a funeral, wedding or regular church service they would be welcomed with opened arms and opened hearts. That's the way Jesus welcomes each one of us. I'm sorry that your friend passed away.
2006-10-27 03:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by GraceandMickey A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely with what beautiful_crystal_rose stated. Muslims have been wronged. Did you ever pay attention relating to the masses of Bosnian Muslims that have been slaughtered and raped via Christian Serbs? Or approximately Chechnya or Kashmir? and for sure, the placement interior the Holy Land? Secondly, it extremely is purely EXTREMIST Muslims that try this. each and every religious team, alongside with Christianity and Judaism, has fundamentalists.
2016-11-25 23:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad....I am sure your Allah will not be disappointed in you if you go to church for a wake of your friend. You are not going there to pray, but to say Good Bye to a close person. I am surprised your parents let you have non-muslim person as a friend. They need to come out of middle ages and go to the 21-st century world.
2006-10-27 03:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Michael R 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong in going to your friends funeral. Talk to your parents and tell them Islam does not prohibit going to a Christian funeral. You need closure since the deceased was your best friend. Also remember the deceased knows your intention.
2006-10-27 04:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by mumtaz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your belief in Islam is good and no one won't tell you anything to be out of Islam then go...i think that what your parents are worry about...and tell her that they can enter mosque it doesn't matter...they must trust you more than that and Allah didn't say to us no about this...try to make you go so noone thinks that the Islam is aganist any an other belief and to not to loose your best friend...if they didn't agree...try to tell to her exceuse why you won't come .
2006-10-27 04:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by sarah5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your parents don't want you to know that Jesus is the only way! But go, she is after all your friend! If you don't wanna listen to what the minister says, just set your mind on something else...but you'll find that Jesus is awessome!
2006-10-27 03:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by -♦One-♦-Love♦- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋