I have lost alot of weight and have loose skin, i am a very confident parson, (dressed) very sexy aswell but not when i am naked, i want to walk around naked but i cant.
i am confident in all other ways!!!! help any one else like this
2006-10-27 03:30:57 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For whomever looses a lot of weight this happens. Just a fact of life.
I always thought that if you exercised enough the loose skin would firm up eventually. My wife, while a long way from being fit, has proved to me I was wrong.
You could go and have it surgical removed. But why put yourself at risk for something you don't have to.
Now it is clear the only one that finds a problem with this is you. You can truly trust your new man when he says he thinks your sexy. Men love a woman's body in any form. So the only real problem here is your feeling about it.
I think most women feel this way regardless of weight. You may have several women tell you that. But speaking only for myself.......there is nothing more beautiful that a woman's naked body. NOTHING!
You say you would like to walk around naked. Well how about just trying it for little bits of time. Look at yourself often and get use to seeing yourself. We all like to look our best. But consider the loose skin the price you paid for making yourself healthy. You do not have all that weight to deal with and that is much better for you.
Watch how you man looks at you when you are naked....when you make love....see in his eyes how much it means to him that you are this intimate with him. I would hope over time that would help most of all.
2006-10-27 03:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, there are a lot of people who are very confident, but have issues with showing themselves naked. The images of "perfect" bodies we are surrounded with on TV, in magazines, and on billboards don't help, but remember, a lot of those people have had surgery to get that way, or are airbrushed to look perfect.
The fact that your new man finds you sexy when you are naked should be fine, unless you plan on showing other people your naked body. Take his words as a compliment and allow him to see you naked as much as possible. You may end up enjoying it after a while.
2006-10-27 03:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl be proud of your self you took the time and effort to lose weight that says a lot about you and it is super hard to lose weight when in every corner theres sugar looking right at you i had always been around a size 7 and im 5/7 so i had meat in all the right places man when i had my last child i gained weight like crazy i thought i was going to never feel sexy again but i also put my self to diet and lost it and have kept it off for 3years now i have a mommy pouch as i call it and when i get undressed i think its the most ugly thing i have ever seen but my man says I'm over doing it that its beautiful.i guess if your man is happy with you and he likes the way you look just try to surpass it not every one has a picture perfect body half of the models in mags are air brush, plastic,make up taped up and just fake as hell porn stars to camera and plastic do wonders but i bet they have stretch marks and loose skin in some areas don't worry girl go get some cute Teddy's and enjoy you and your man life's to short to not just enjoy it good luck and have fun .............................
2006-10-27 03:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop feeling like that. Your man really cares about you. When a person really cares about somebody, they do not care about a little loose skin. They love you for you and that is how he feels.
I felt the same way at first. I was with somebody for 12 years and so with him I was not that self conscious. But when we broke up and it was time for somebody new to see me I was scared. I have stretch marks from having a child and I was scared that men would be turned off by that. But I got involved with somebody and at first did not want him to see me naked. Now it does not matter anymore because he does not care. He says he can hardly see them, but boy I know they are there. Good men dont really care about little details like that because to him you are the sexist woman in the world and he has you.
Good luck!
2006-10-27 03:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your new man thinks you are sexy naked then enjoy it...
Your skin will tighten as time passes..
He simply does not notice the loose skin as much as do you when you are walking around naked....No surprise....That is a good thing.
2006-10-27 03:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not necessarily that unconfident anymore, but hell realize that nobody is perfect and walk around naked more often in your house, make yourself comfortable by the image of your nude body...think positively...if he likes it then you definelty should appreciate what he is seeing!! It's just insecurity, but don't worry with time those things go away honey, then you'll be walking around so much naked he'll tell you to dress! Congratualtions on losing the weight...good luck sweetie and remember mind of matter!!!
2006-10-27 03:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need some Confidence Building!
If your man Loves you (Dressed or Naked) then let that be your first step to enjoying your own nude body!
In time you'll become more confident and self assured!
2006-10-27 03:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on the confidence,that's sexy in itself.If you are sexy to him,put aside your fear and negative body image as best you can to enjoy it.Do things to up your confidence-a firming lotion,new perfume,lingerie (he'd appreciate this and you'd feel more covered/sexy as well.)It took me a while to be comfortable being around the house late nites naked or to sleep nude but now it is very comfortable and beneficial :)
2006-10-27 03:37:35 · answer #8 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everbody is less sure of themselves when naked; you're left feeling vulnerable. Keep in mind though that the only opinion you're worried about is your man's and he already told you that you're really sexy.
For peace of mind you should just believe him. He wouldn't say it if he didn't mean it.
(and if it makes you feel better, I've noticed that men are a lot less judgmental about our bodies than we are.)
2006-10-27 03:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I have two kids and I gained and lost a lot of weight. I think it is just something that we have to get over mentally. My man says the same thing, but I am still uncomfortable with it. Maybe someday it can be something that is comfortable.
2006-10-27 03:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by cowchic9 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋