My daughter is 1 and 1/2 and we currently live in NYC. My plans for her future schooling are to send her to NC (my hometown) at least by the time she starts pre school and elementary. I work with a corporation and may not be able to make the move with the rest of my family so soon.. I know that if we made the move now I would miss her terribly but at the same time i really want her to go and enjoy the fresh air, a nice backyard and all. I would have to at least go down every weekend to be with her. Im trying to put her best interests ahead of mine and I Need a bit of advice.
I love NYC, but this isn't the type of place i'd want her to grow up in. The public school system here is very very bad also. I will eventually move back to NC, but id like to wait a few years before considering a job transfer.
2006-10-27 03:28:20 · 16 answers · asked by Rabbit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I really do not want to part from my daughter at all and the lot of you are right in your words. Thank you, and I am now really considering waiting on this until I am able to go to NC too. It would also break my heart to have to leave each weekend I would be in tears..
I am not putting my "so called" selfish needs ahead of my daughter. I love her with all my heart and soul and she is the love of my life. I also have a great and loving family who are also very supportive and they know that I am a great mom.. Having a kid has been the best thing that has happened to me.
2006-10-27 03:43:02 · update #1
What you need is a good support system, in NYC that way your child can be with you. All schools are not bad, I will bet you their are some schools right around you, who are very good, you just have to do your home work. Yes it will be good to send your child to the country, but the best years of your child's life, is when she is young, teaching her, and grooming her, disciplining, teaching her right from wrong, you start this at a early age, now if you send her you are going to miss, out on this. The bonding will not be their. I just wish you will think about this a bit more! I hope everything works out for you, and that you make the best decision!
2006-10-27 03:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very tough situation. However, it does appear you do have her best interest at heart here. And good for you on that aspect. If you have family you trust and know will care for her properly and are willing and able to care for her. I say go for it, you will be traveling every weekend which will be a great challenge for you, and the absent will be very difficult for the two of you. However, we must do what we must do. I say put some serious time into prayers on this one and God will guide you in the best direction. I personally commend you on being such a loving and caring mother. I also moved from a very large urban area to a rural area for the same reasons. Good luck to you and God bless
2006-10-27 03:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine that your little girl needs you more than she needs NC. Especially during those years. If she does kindergaten and first grade in NYC then goes to NC for second grade and stays there, it won't really be that bad. But remembering what I felt like when I was that age, being without either of or both of my parents for a couple years would have been really hurtful.
2006-10-27 03:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's still a baby, she need you more than anything in the world! the most important education is at home and at the beginning of her first 5 years. input her with all the good stuff yourself starting from her very early age. from birth to 5 years old is the most important time that will influence a kid whole life. the second stage after this period is important too but it will goes well when this first period is perfectly develop. the best teacher to do this is you at the best school in the world, at home. your job is important because it's for your kid as well. try to avoid leaving her in her early years.
2006-10-27 03:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by ustazshifu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered moving to Long Island? There is a lot of fresh out there????
How about Brooklyn Heights. There are beautiful backyards.
Just a suggestion!!! I know it is tough out there, I am a New Yorker living in Europe but I still miss my home town. I hope in the future to relocate in New York City, You never get bored!!!!
Good Luck!!!!!
2006-10-27 04:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offence, but my son is almost 2 and I couldn't dream of being away from him for a week.... If you are putting you moving for that long, I'm sorry, but I would not let the rest of the family move yet. I'd wait.. Just my honost opinion. I'm sure you will get lots of cr@p from people over this. So, I wish you and your loved ones well.
2006-10-27 03:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by Helena H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this age what she needs more than fresh air and a nice backyard is the love and support from her mother. You shouldn't send her to NC until you are ready to go yourself.
2006-10-27 03:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you consider finding new job in NC ? Family is most important. Me and my husband made a similar move because we did not, under any circumstance, want to raise our kids in Northern Virginia. We are so much happier now.
2006-10-27 03:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by Koaster1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 03:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many wonderful private and charter schools in NYC.
Check out this website :
http://www.greatschools.net/schools.page...
If you send her to NC and show up on weekends, I promise you that she will be so heartbroken that your whole purpose for sending her there will be in vain. She will feel abandoned and will be sitting in a therapists's office by the time she's 3.
2006-10-27 03:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋