Personally, I feel sex is for married couples, but I know that is just my opinion. At the very least, sex should be between adults in a commited relationship. It saddens me to see how many 13 and 14 year olds are out there having sex - and end up getting pregnant. Just wondering what you're going to be telling your kids. Thanks!
2006-10-27 03:07:49 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My opinion - I'm going to tell my children waiting to marriage is best. I was a virgin who married a virgin - been married 4.5 happy years so far! :)
2006-10-27 03:11:55 · update #1
Yes of course I will also teach my children all about safe sex, birth control, STDs, etc. Education is very imporant.
2006-10-27 03:17:45 · update #2
I too was a virgin bride. And I will teach my boys that sex before marriage is wrong and not needed. They will be taught about STD's and birth control. I will also tell them that if they chose to go aginst my wishes and they get a girl pregnant. I will first make sure it is their's through DNA. Then they will be made to move out, get a job and marry the girl. I will not give them a cent. Sex is a very loving act between married adults only. If they choose to do an adult act then they are old enough to grow up and be adults. Sorry, but sex is not for children or unmarried people.
2006-10-27 05:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am 28 and I have a 15 year old cousin that I just had this conversation with recently: She was telling me how she was still a virgin and that this boy she dated wanted her to give it up. When she told him no, he dumped her and went for a girl that was known to put out. She was confused as any ordinary 15 y/o should be. I took this as an opportunity to discuss with her how she would have felt if she had thought this boy was special enough to give her virginity to and he was just out for a piece of a**. She told me that she would have been hurt. I advised her that the BEST choice would be to wait until she was ready (idealistically marriage). Sex only amplifies feelings that you already have and if you are a confused 15 year old girl, then sex will only make things worse. I also shared with her that my virginity was raped from me at 18 and it took me a long time before I could trust again. I would advise this to any young person. Virginity is a GIFT that you can only give ONE person, ONCE. You had better make sure that the other person is as emotionally involved with you as you are with them or you will get hurt. Not to mention the possibility of contracting an STD or getting pregnant better be on your mind when you are thinking about having sex at all. In the grand scheme of things, just try to help your young teen make wise choices about their bodies. Advise them to wait, but educate them in what sex is and what it means. Good luck.
2006-10-27 03:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by hopestar23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I will raise my kids to wait until marriage to have sex to a point.
Unfortunately there are so many outward influences that effect teens. Peer pressure and media are two things that I'm most afraid about. While setting a good example ourselves is important--when those teen years come it's not up to the parent. I feel teens will do what they want regardless what morals are instilled earlier.
I will put my daughters on BC and be very open about sex. I would much rather them feel comfortable to come to me then worry about what I'll think, do, or say.
I believe as a parent I have to work with the things working against my intentions. I would much rather my teen be on birth control, using condoms, and open with me about sex at 14 then 16 living at home and pregnant. Of course I don't either to happen but I'm open if it does.
2006-10-27 03:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have religious reasons for wanting my children to wait, but I also believe it's the better way because people who have casual sex can have a hard time connecting once they've found the right person. I want to teach my children to respect themselves and others better than that. Who knows if i will be successful? My parents were -- I was a virgin and so was my husband, and we've been married for 11 years. We are the happiest couple i know!
2006-10-27 03:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by drama4mama247 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sons are 3 and 7, and we have been talking about sex since they started asking questions about boy parts being different from girl parts. I will continue to teach them that sex is a gift, and best when shared in a loving, committed relationship. While I will not insist on abstinence until marriage, I will talk to them about contraception adn the consequences of unprotected sex. Their father models treating me like a precious gift, and I hope my sons will honor the women in their lives in the same way.
While Chastity pledges and True Love Waits programs may make parents feel better, they leave our children unprepared for the choices and peer pressure they face in the real world, much in the same way that abstinence only sex education in the schools has brought a flood of "Am I pregnant" questions to forums like these.
2006-10-27 03:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by TXChristDem 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you say to your children,when they are 14 or above they will learn that sex before marriage is OK.From who?From schoolmates, friends, cousins,etc.Times change and we as parents should live with the present not the past.In the past it was a 'law' to marry first and then sex.Now everyone does it when they want to.I won't teach my children about sex as something which must be done BEFORE or AFTER marriage.I won't make any connection between sex and marriage.Marriage is one.Sex is another one.Most teenagers already do sex,no matter their parents don't know and think their children are sexless.I teach my children believe in what they do.If they feel ready to do sex,they can do it.I teach them they have to be sure WHO are they doing sex with(not someone who is with them only because of the sex but someone who loves them).I also offer them a lot of information about AIDS,sex,birth control,abortion, orgasm(everything but only if they decide to ask me and I never blame them for having sex with their boyfriends or girlfriends).I teach them that they can confide in me anything and I never critisize them for the done mistakes or wrong choices.And I teach them that sex is not a wrong or bad thing,that is something natural and you have to be responsible enough to having it.
2006-10-27 03:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by julie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have two boys and one on the way im not sure of the sex of the baby yet. however my husband and i both think that our children should wait but i know that they will do what they want in the end. I am going to teach my children to wait is better but i will also teach them about condoms and safe sex. Its important.
2006-10-27 03:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will teach my children all about sex. They will be allowed to have sex after 18 years of age. Responsible sex, protected. I will not screw their lives by telling them that the first partner they meet is the one right for them.
BECAUSE not everyone is compatible sexually. SO believe it or not. Most couples get to divorce and get divorced because of their sex life. Sex Life affects us in our everyday/social life.
My kids will have experience by the time they get married. I will not risk to have them losing their marriage and leaving kids with divorced parents.
You have to have sex before marriage. Otherwise you will end up frustrated because he/she cannot satisfy you - does not listen to you in bed- or because you are not compatible. And the worst part is that you might think is normal to be like that . Or you will jump in the arms of the first person who gives you what the other never gave you.
They will know what sex is all about and what real-moral values are and how judging a person by how skiny or beautiful is , is wrong.
Beauty is skin deep. Moral Values are beautiful.
2006-10-27 03:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by butzunake 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a 2 year old daughter and a son on the way and i'd like for both my children when they get older to wait for marriage but it doesnt always go that way but i want my daughter to know its dangerous out there and i want to teach her to be a lady and have respect for herself and know that even when she thinks shes done something wrong i will always be there and not to be afraid to talk to me as for my son i want him to grow up to respect women and I'd love for him to wait until marriage but he probably wont I think the most you can do is advise your kids point them in the right direction teach them to have respect for others and themselves and hope they take your advice
2006-10-28 07:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to raise my kids to be careful (hopefully), I cannot guarantee that they would not have sex even if I had taught them to wait. So I think I'll just go with the be VERY VERY careful route!
But obviously I'm not gonna encourage underage sex or anything like that!!!
2006-10-27 03:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by Claire O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋