The last thing my brother needs right now is a child, everyone in the family thinks that abortion is the answer. It is NOT!! Ok my brother is a troublesome kid. But a good kid overall. He has been in alot of trouble for numerous things...drink in public, possesion..etc...His girlfriend is 15! And has three crazy brothers and a crazy dad. They want my brother's head for this. It is not only his fault!! It takes too! I am not even sure what my question is, I just don't know what to do...I am so scared for my brother.
2006-10-27 03:04:25 · 37 answers · asked by Happy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's hard to say. I hate it when people say if you are grown enough to have sex, then you need to deal with the consequences. That works in some cases and not in others. I feel sorry for your brother and his girlfriend because being teenage parents is no piece of cake. I pray that everything works out.
2006-10-27 03:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by lyrical 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this girl "chooses" 2 keep this baby and don't abort, it's her choice. If she keeps the baby, what u need 2 do is have a talk with your brother. Tell him play time is over. He is going 2 be a father & responsible 4 raising this kid. He owes it 2 this baby 2 change his life around & become this kids role model. He need 2 stay in school & get a job--2 if he has to. He has 2 support the girl financially,not your parents.That's a must. When the baby is over your house offer 2 babysit, only if your bro is working. Support him only if he's trying 2 do something positive 4 the baby. Don't make it easy 4 him if he doesn't change.This will only allow him 2 go make another 1 somewhere else. This is his responsibility & he needs 2 know it's hard raising a kid. Get him some info about condoms, birth control & std's immediately, he needs that.
Don't be afraid sweetie,the girls family is not as crazy as u think they are. They don't want 2 risk going 2 jail if they hurt your brother.
2006-10-27 03:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by BK1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're right on one point, he's not the only one to blame in this situation, it does take 2 to tango (as my mom so eloquently puts it). I have a 16 year old daughter, and if she got pregnant, I'd want the responsible boys head as well, and there's no telling what my husband would do. You have every right to be scared for your brother, he's done some stupid things, alcohol, drugs (which doesn't make him a good kid overall) and now sex without using any protection. You basically are an observer here, and yes, your household will be stressful for awhile while your parents and the girls parents figure out what is best for everyone involved. I don't agree with abortion either, I do think adoption is the best route to go for a teenage mother, but it's really, REALLY tough. My neice gave up a child to adoption when she was 16, it was hard on her, her parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, everyone in the family was affected because there was this little person who was related to us that wasn't going to be part of our family. I hope your parents get your brother the help he needs, because he's headed for trouble. Please stay out of trouble yourself, go to school, get good grades, go to college, don't drink or do drugs, and DON'T have sex until you're ready to deal with the consequences of that action. Hopefully this is a good lesson for you to learn, without having to actually go through the experience. My heart is breaking for this young girl right now, she will carry this with her for the rest of her life, no matter what she does with the pregnancy.
2006-10-27 03:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I have to correct your grammar... "it takes 'two'." Or I guess you could say... "it took her 'too'." (..sarcasim sorry..)
Anyway... how old are u? Can you help? The baby is who I feel bad for. Is there a mother in this situation (like yours, or hers)? You can try to help your brother grow up, as well his girlfriend and baby. If there is not going to be some help for these young kids having a baby, maybe adoption should be the answer.
Let the crazy's get over it... they will. If they don't, and they cause trouble, call the police. Hire an attorney, and keep that poor baby away from that family so it doesn't grow to be "crazy" too! (But seriously, it's normal for family to be upset with this situation. So I hope that alone doesn't make them why they're crazy.)
2006-10-27 03:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by TrendChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut his dick off, it's the only thing that will stop immature people from breeding irresponsibly. If he isn't smart enough to use protection he isn't smart enough to own the tool.
I know that sounds mean, but it's cruel beyond words to bring a child into this situation. Think about the child's life for a moment and you may realize that an abortion is more humane. Also realize that children from damaged homes often have issues as adults, repeating the cycle.
And to those saying to keep the baby because it's your responsibility, that's just sick or shortsighted. A baby isn't a burden to be put on people, it's a gift of life. If someone isn't ready, and believe me at 15 and 16 they aren't, then they don't deserve the gift of life and they won't be able to preserve it.
2006-10-27 03:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by bobsmith2089 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is be supportive of your brother. You are absolutely right in the fact that it takes two people to have sex. Your brother did not do this on his own. Maybe your parents and the girlfriend's parents need to get together with your brother and his girlfriend and try to diffuse the situation before something bad happens to your brother. I hope that everything works out for the best. Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-10-27 03:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody screws up sometimes so I would just say to be there for your brother because right now he's freaking out big time and he's going to need someone to talk to. I agree abortion isn't the answer and how do blame her family for not being pissed. I'm sure they are frustrated with the situation and feel the only person they can take it out on is your brother. Keep your chin up everything will work out.
2006-10-27 03:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, where are your parents - do they know about this? Your brother is not 17, so they can't do anything with him. He does not have the responsibility to deal with the child, and marriage under these circumstances is out of the question. Just let the other family deal with it, but see if you can get your parents to give your brother some help. He needs to be throttled now before he ends up in jail or worse. Good luck.
2006-10-27 03:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by Doug R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is very fortunate to have you as a sibling. The answer is adoption. But he really needs to recognize this wake up call and discover a level of responsibility. What you need to do is research the adoption process and lay out a path forward for when the baby arrives. This will give you something positive to do and perhaps take some of your stress out. As to the girlfriend, what are her parents opinion? Has anyone considered keeping the child? Good luck with this, and take care of yourself.
2006-10-27 03:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by Nuk.Nuk.Nuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just saw your question about your mom, so now I know where your coming from....
Your brother got someone else pregnant and I bet its confusing for you but think how scary it must be for the 15 year old girl. My daughter is that age, and all I think about is her future, and how to best prepare her for it. I am not going to say abortion is the best answer for her because I am not her or her parents, and not in any position to say. I will say, all the choices are bad: adoption will be painful for the families as will abortion, and keeping the baby is going to be very hard for everybody, especially the baby.
All you can do is comfort your brother, make him understand the seriousness of this, because he's not the one pregnant, and help him to support his girlfriend in her choice/
2006-10-27 03:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a terrible situation for your brother & his girlfriend! I agree with you...abortion is not the answer! All you can do right now is support them in whatever decision they make. Let them know you're there for them, no matter what. As far as her parents wanting your brother's head...it takes two to tango! He didn't make that baby all by himself! I know you're scared for him, and I'm sure he's scared, too. But they're going to have to deal with this..they have a new life coming into this world.
2006-10-27 03:22:42 · answer #11 · answered by Forceof1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋