I have an American bf for 1 year and 7 mos.We met online and our relationship is fine. He plan to come here in Asia as I'm asian.I offered to pay his fare one way.My friends said I'm crazy as he is an American and he is paid well than me.I love him and I don't want to take advantage. What do you think.
2006-10-27 03:02:36 · 12 answers · asked by k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you should take it in turns to see each other in each others countries so you just pay your own fares.
2006-10-27 03:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of relationship is hard. My Girlfriend lives in Britain, I am American. Its not the same I know, but its still a cross culture relationship. I would somewhat agree with you friend. Let him pay to come to you. If it works out, then start looking at splitting the costs in the future.
This is exactly what my girlfriend and I plan to do. I should be leaving here on a plane in about 2 months to meet her for the first time. I'm paying for the whole trip myself. She did offer to help with some of the cost, but I told her no this time.
I wish I could tell you my relationship worked, but I'm in the same place you are. If nothing else it should be a comfort to know there are other people in the same boat.
I wish you the best of luck.
Edit: I started this before others had their responses in. After reading some of the other responses I have to agree with the people who have said take turns. If you get serious, sooner or later you will have to decide where to live. That's something to think about and having seen his home will help you make a decision as much as him seeing yours. Also keep in mind the US can refuse your request to emigrate and your country can do the same to him. Like I said before a multi cultural relationship is hard. There are a lot more things that have to be considered.
2006-10-27 03:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mavrick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, just because he's American doesn't mean he's necessarily paid better or worse than anyone else in the world. That said, if you feel better paying, I think it's fine that you've offered to pay half his travel expenses. It's a risk you are both taking, and one you share equally in.
2006-10-27 03:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl should never pay a man's fare, whether he be rich or poor! Don't you want him to be a gentleman? You must encourage good behaviour in him.
And you're not taking advantage of anyone, he's big enough to look after himself!
2006-10-27 03:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what Mary C said. If I were him, and I were able to afford it, I wouldn't let the woman pay half my fare if she were not equally paid. But you do share in the risk equally.
2006-10-27 03:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was very decent of you to offer - but if he was any type of a man - he wouldnt allow you to pay it under the different circumstances of wealth as I agree with your friends - he probably is a lot better off than you.
I think it would be ok to pay half for a guy under different circumstances - or places of dwelling - but I guess its ultimately down to you - if you can afford it - then yeah go for it - if its going to be a financial struggle - then I wouldnt. xx
2006-10-27 03:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutly agree with Jo... Pay your own way to visit each other... since he's comming to see you, next time, you go to see him, and pay your own way...
I'm seeing some one on the other side of the country (12 hour flight), and next time she'll be comming to see me... I'm paying for my own flight, and even getting a hotel myself (who know's what could happen, i don't like taking that chance)... and when she comes out to see me, she'll be paying for her own flight, and we'll probably split the hotel...
2006-10-27 03:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear be care full what you wish for! Please try and see pictures of him or video clips and talk to him and his friends on phone you will then know if you should keep on or not. But frankly one year is a long time.
2006-10-27 03:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is good you offered to pay half way and I am sure he is going to want to go hoem so he can pay return
2006-10-27 03:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by stephy200125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! you pay for a guy's trip to see you? Make me your BF!
2006-10-27 03:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋