I have been in this relationship for 2.5 years. It has always been very trying, as we both have identical characters. One problem is that he is 8 years younger with a child, and a not so good credit, financial problems, etc.. On the other hand, I know he loves me alot, we live in 2 different states, and he keeps telling me that he cannot provide, he does not have money right now. He keeps talking about marriage and that he is going to propose but it hasnt happened, I think that is more like the carrot you dangle in front of the rabbit. Anyway, I love him too, and long to be with him. Only problem is, in order for us to be together, I have to leave my home which I own, and a solid career. I would then move to be with him, and live in an apt., sell my house and hope to start over. I dont want to give up all of my life's achievements, am afraid I wont have that with him ( house, career, financial stability), but at the same time, I love him so much and dont want to give him up ! Advice ??
2006-10-27 03:02:16 · 8 answers · asked by Mx2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The time is just not right yet for you to move together. If you really love him, then stand by him. But first he should get a good job, fix up his problems and be able to prove to you that he will be an equal in the relationship. You sound like you have made a pretty good life for yourself, and you should be able to keep it that way. If he proves to you that he really wants to make it work, then words will not be enough. If you love him, then you should be able to stick it out a little longer living far apart. I am in a LDR also, and have not moved there yet because all the details are not yet finalized. When the time is right, and I am able to make sure that this is the right move and that I will be in a secure situation, then yes I am going to make that move. We are also in love. But if I were you, until he gets his life on the up, I would wait it out. If you move there now, most likely things will not change and everything you worked for you might lose. Just be careful and put your life first.
2006-10-27 03:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People shouldn't expect to "give up" anything for love. Your relationship is something that should accommodate the success you have achieved. Perhaps over time, you will see how he can move towards you. If not, it may not be worth discarding your life.
2006-10-27 10:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you want to give up all of your hard work and security?
This situation doesn't sound right, I think you should find someone on your level, these types of relationships never work out. If things go wrong in your relationship you will starting all over again by yourself, if that prospect excites you then go ahead........
2006-10-27 10:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bruce d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you own your house, what would be the chances of him moving in with you? It seems you already have what you want in life.(Own your house and a great job).
2006-10-27 10:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why must you move in to him and not He move to you? Man and Woman are Equal! Come on! it's year 2006! Ask Him to move in, get his a good job where you stay, have fun !
2006-10-27 10:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by gerald j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you own your house, why dont you take his kid and him.
you shouldnt let that stop you from being together. if that doesnt work, wait it out.. god has a plan for you!
take care!
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2006-10-27 10:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by missie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make u r life at first and then thnk abt marriage
2006-10-27 10:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.Edward cullen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't change your life for someone who won't propose to you.
2006-10-27 10:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by You'll Never Take Me Alive!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋