You see we knew each other in high school me and his sis where good friends. We lost contact for about three yrs. and now we have found each other. I went to david's bridal to try on my maid of honor dress and decided how fun to try on wedding dresses and he said yes lets do it. Well we where just messing around and he told his sister and she told her parents. Now they are yelling about we are moving to fast and that Keith is not seeing things from the inside that they are seeing from the outside. What are they seeing. They are just being nosey and paranoid. What should i do about them cause my mom seems to be fine with what we are doing. also he has moved in with me already and i am 22 and he is 21 so what is their problem. Please help with whatever i can do to ease things over with the parents.
2006-10-27 02:48:07 · 16 answers · asked by Cricket 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell em all to mind thier own business. your both old enough to make your own desisions!
2006-10-27 02:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you say your pregnant in this question? How would you know that after only a week of being together? Or are you planning on becoming pregnant. If you are, you're crazy. Anyway............
Only time will be able to ease his family's concern. They are not being nosy and paranoid, they are genuinely concerned for his emotional well being, and if you love this guy like you say you do, you should realize that.
My situation is similar to yours. We have been together for 9 yrs, married for 8 and have a good relationship and 2 beautiful children together (6 yrs and 4 yrs. We didn't plan kids right off the bat.....we wanted to enjoy our time and get married first). My parents were the ones concerned because it seemed to happen so fast, but his parents were all for it. Me, him, his mom and step-dad all worked together, so they knew me, my parents knew nothing of him until we moved in together. So far we've proved the critics wrong, but I know that's not the norm.
Ease up on his family. They are not against you. They just think you're moving too fast, and maybe you are. It's easy to get caught up in the moment in a new relationship and just spin out of control. Especially if there's history between you. Time is on your side, don't rush it - enjoy it.
(I was 23 at the time he was 22)
2006-10-27 03:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care how old you are, you've dated this guy for a week and you're already living together and are pregnant? First of all, if you've only been having sex with him for a week, it's not his baby if you already know you're pregnant, because there is no pregnancy test (short of a blood test and that requires going to the doctor) that can INSTANTLY tell if you're pregnant. I don't even think the blood test can detect pregnancy immediately after conception. His parents are right, you guys ARE taking this WAYYY too fast. You may be right for each other, I don't know that, but to move in together after only dating a week sounds like a recipe for disaster for a relationship to me. His parents are thinking that too. Have him move out, date him for awhile, and if it's still working out in a few months, THEN move in. They may also be more conservative (like me) and frown heavily on cohabiting before marriage, if so, then you've probably got an uphill battle on your hands, because while I would never stop loving my children, if one of them moved in and was living with someone, I wouldn't be happy with that decision, and I would let that child know pretty quickly, and on a regular basis. His parents are not being nosy and paranoid, they are being parents. At 21, even though legally he's an adult, his parents know he's not making adult quality decisions, especially if he moves in with a girl after dating her for a week. GOOD GRIEF!!!
2006-10-27 03:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live life around others opinions,whether you love them or not.Draw the line now on what you are willing to stand for so that when the baby comes they will not further step over boundaries.Once your boundaries are respected,then ease things over with the parents by spending time getting to know them more.Once they see you are firm you can establish a better relationship on your terms.Good Luck!
2006-10-27 02:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! you sound like you're both pretty serious! ignore the family. it's apparent they don't have a clue what's going on between the two of you. if you're moving in and having a baby too, are you going to get married also? it sounds like you're very much in love. but his parents might not know about your history together. try to get to know them. if they care about their son and their new grandchild, they should try to get to know some stuff about you too! maybe you could arrange a dinner or something? ask about them, they will most likely ask about you. and tell them-once they realize that you love each other they should understand what's going on. i think they're just concerned that their son isn't thinking stuff through. i mean, fatherhood is a huge responsibility so they might wonder if he can handle all that stuff at once. don't take it too personally though! that their baby and they'll probably always worry. once you've let them know you are aware of what you're doing, they might feel better! best of luck to you! ;)
2006-10-27 03:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by green eyed sole 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wish it were easy. the same thing happened to me. except i didnt know my boyfriend in high school. i met him after high school. and we've been together for 6 months. our parents were skeptical at first cuz we moved right in together like the first week. we've had 2 miscarriages. we've talked about gettin married a couple times cuz hes in the Air Force Reserve right now and he wants to go active duty. its not easy for his parents to like me cuz they think we are moving to fast. my parents think its great tho that i finally found someone im really happy with. so. i think its just gonna take a little time. i mean whats teh worst that could happen. besides ure old enough to make ure own decisions. why not do what u think is best for you.
2006-10-27 03:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by munkymadness007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are crazy. How do you know you want to make a commitment like that with someone you have only been with a week. It's a lot different being married than friends. I speak from experience.
2006-10-27 03:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's only been your BF for a week, how do you know you're pregnant? There's usually 14 days between conception and your 1st missed period.
Check the water depth before you jump head-first....
2006-10-27 02:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by lee_anne301 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Fish in water, not on line. I think this is a bunch of bull*. How do you know that you're pregnant after a week?
2006-10-27 02:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question confuses me. You and him have been together for a week and have a baby on the way? How would you know you have a baby on the way after a week?
2006-10-27 02:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are happy then go for it you are both grown do what you feel is right.
2006-10-27 02:51:49 · answer #11 · answered by HOTTMAMMA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋