i was involved with this guy for nine years and last year i got pregnant and he dumped me and asked me to abort the baby which i almost did and this year July i gave birth to a baby boy whom i love so much and adore. now this jerk dont wanna support his child says i got pregnant to have a hold over him which is a lie as he knows it. he is seeing someone else and intending to marry her but the thing is I love him dearly and i need to find out how can i loose this feeling for him cause it kills me to see him with somebody else?
2006-10-27 02:40:26 · 8 answers · asked by LETHABO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He has moved on and it is time for you to do the same. You have a man in your life and you need to put all of you attention into raising him. He did not ask to be put in this situation with a dad who doesn't want him so it's your responsibility to make up for that by being the strong force in his life.
Next you need to make this guy pay for support. He is responsible for this as much as you are and just because he didn't want you to have the baby HE STILL NEED TO PAY SUPPORT!
2006-10-27 03:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by cbenyon35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him 2 court &get that money for your baby. You don't need 2 have contact with him at all. I know u want him in the babies life being that he is the father. If he doesn't want 2 acknowledge, pay and even take the baby so u can get a breather, his loss. Don't call him &beg him 2 go to Dr's appointments with you & baby , or calling him 2 make him feel guilty if he doesn't do 4 the child. He needs 2 be checking & calling u at times 2 see how is son is doing. Your main focus is giving the baby all the love he needs & deserves. Take it slow, don't rush into another relationship right now. When the time comes & ur ready 2 start dating, "Do You 2 the nth Degree"! Involve yourself in things that make u happy &you'll see him fade right b4 ur eyes. You'ill still luv him "just" because he's the baby father. But the love you have 4 him intimately will diminish because he's not the man you use 2 love. He lost his respect.He's just a boy in a man's body that didn't step up 2 his responsibilities.
2006-10-27 03:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by BK1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation. Just press the child support issue with the enforcement agency. As for u forgetting him, you just need to worry about taking care of your baby boy. It is your ex's loss. Try to find other things to keep u busy, with a baby it should not be too difficult. He obviously doesn't want to be with you and all wounds heal with time. You will always love him but you can and will get past this.
2006-10-27 04:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He definately ought to bear in mind his father, yet once you're clearly afraid he will ignore him, convey alongside some photographs and video clips of his father and enable him watch it extensive-unfold or placed the photograph the place the baby can see it each and all of the time. additionally ensure you confer with him approximately his father on a widespread foundation.
2016-11-25 23:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll get over him soon enough, but make sure you get the jerk to pay child support...it takes two to make a baby.
2006-10-27 02:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget him hes a piece of **** who dont care about youor your baby,,which should be a great reason to forget his ***. I was in the same position one time and i never talked to my sons dad again,,,he does nothing for him.....so my new hubby takes care of my son and is the father figure in his life. Just move on because honey....he is a LOSER!!!!.
2006-10-27 02:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to court and ***** his happiness, leave your child with this current one for a day to baby sit and you go out with the guy
2006-10-27 02:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by sensa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE TIED TOGETHER FOR THE NEXT 18YRS. SO GROW UP AND DEAL WITH IT. TAKE SAID JERK TO COURT AND GET CHILD SUPPORT AND A VISITATION SCHEUEL FOR SAID JERK AND LET THE COURTS DEAL WITH HIM!! YOU FOCUS ON YOUR BABY, DO WHAT IS RIGHT BY HIM!!
2006-10-27 02:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋