I am 32 years old and I have just being going out with a 18 year old . It was not weird in beginning the way it is suppose to be . Now I am thinking of a long term relationship . I wondering what kind of issues can I face in long term. What are the common pitfalls that I should avoid, things I should accept and adapt before hand. I really want this to work.
2006-10-27 02:40:00 · 13 answers · asked by s_k_latif 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you seem to be realizing that there may be specific differences that age presents. Obviously, there is a potential that once your GF 'grows up' past 22 or 23, that she may decide that she wants to go another direction. Like all of us, waiting until we're out on our own helps us understand more about ourselves. While she may have an idea about her life in the future with you, that could change since she's not had the time to experience life on her own at this point.
2006-10-27 02:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is only 18, I think that she has a lot more maturing that she needs to do. You guys are at two different periods in your life. I am not saying it will not work, but it can be a struggle. You are ready for a family and marriage. She is still in her partying stage, or will be soon. What will happen when she turns 21. You are going to be on a different level again. I think you need to let her live a little more. If by the time she is 25 and you still want to be with her, then go for it. I think you will have some issues when she wants to hang out with friends. You will probably always wonder if she is looking at younger guys. Sorry to say so much, but I have a friend who lived this.
2006-10-27 02:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by NIKKI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have an open mind, she is very young and she may not yet be done taking up all the options to comfort her wild oats or side... If you want it to work you'll probably have to let her know that if she feels the need to mess around that you can arrange that for her and that you'd rather play together then have it done behind eachothers backs! You will need to be mature, honest and have communication skills like no other!!! Talk and be honest about EVERYTHING!!!!!! If she's hanging out with her friends a bit too much or has many friends that are males that bother you let her know now, if she is a gold digger and just wants a free ride, get her gone! the sooner the better... Good luck
2006-10-27 03:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only 18 years old!! that should be your issue right there she is too young just got out of highschool she has lived her life yet she has not experienced life yet if you are her first boyfriend she has not expereinced relationship in the long run you might run into her loosing interest her wanting to party once she turns 21 nto wanting to come home her wanting to hang out even her cheating you are 32 ready to settle she is 18 ready to start living...You really need to think about this ask a friend or family member
2006-10-27 02:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by melanni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even focus on the negative. Just live for today, if you're happy and it's working, go with the flow. Why question "pitfalls" when you're happy and WANT this to work, when you know you can make it work, especially when you love someone? There's no denying how you feel for someone and if you two relate well intellectually also, GO FOR IT! My boyfriend is 43, I'm 27 and we get along great! It couldn't be more perfect than it is with him! I don't see any problems ahead, you should take your relationship to the next level. Good luck in love and life! I know you'll thrive for many years to come.
2006-10-27 02:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 36 and my ex boyfriend is 20,our relationship,from the begining,was hated on by so many people,partly because of jealousy,either it was a girl,hateing on me because of my age and maturity or because of my beauty and green eyes and the banging body I have or the Super sweet low-profile truck I have and use to let him drive. Or the guys hateing because of there lack of haveing what my boyfriend had, also parents hateing because of the age difference. But,regardless of what people thought or tried to do to our relationship,we stayed together and were very much in love!! Yeah, we got strange looks sometimes,and usually when we went out, older guys would stare at me and ask me why I would want a kid when I could have a man. And vise versa for him from younger females! Hey, but what can you expect from people in todays society,usually made up of onesided opinions,jeoulosy,envy,ignorence,hate and haveing no lives of there own to lead!! But,hey,if you really love and care for each other,then what matters is not what others think,but what you know!! And not what others say,but what you tell each other. Not whether who looks down upon you,but how you look upon each other!! Not who hates on you, but how you love each other!! I believe if you are both sincere in your feelings for each other,then you should be together. But, remember,she is still young and situations will arise,that you have already been through or have grown out of and possibly be a time of disagreements and misunderstandings,not understanding,and lets not forget the JEALOUSY factor and INSECURITY stage! Hey,but almost everybody in some time in ther life goes through that anyway,Just try and remember your insecurities at that age and have patience, cause you'll need it soon enough. But,besides that, your love for each other,is just like anyone elses love,from the heart. Isn't that all that should really matter?? By the way,my ex boyfriend and I were together for four years & would still be together 2 this day,if,he didn't have such anger issues.(from his childhood and fathers recent decease) He needed to deal with them on his own.But,if he ever decides he wants to come back,I'm here!
2006-10-27 03:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by greeneyes1essd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though girls mature faster than boys do...at 18 I would say she is still immature. When I was 25 I went out with a guy that was 39. We went out for a long time. But then when I would go to parties (in which most of the people were my age) I felt like I was bringing along my big brother. He didn't like it either (not that he didn't want to be with me)....he didn't want to be in a room of all young people.
One other thing about dating so young...usually you go out and party when you are young. Do you want to rob her of her of that. Those were some of the best years of my life. I don't think I would have wanted to be tied down and committed.
2006-10-27 02:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, right here is what he's telling you that your no longer getting-he's an person and you're nevertheless a minor. He has actual desires (sexual) and if he have been to have any dating with you on a similar time as you're underage, he must be in severe difficulty with the regulation. it is superb that his mom approves of you, it is glaring or she would not be attempting to get you 2 jointly, yet he's not so particular approximately all of it. My propose: you already are conscious of it may be almost impossible to be in basic terms acquaintances if the chemistry is there; seem on the international now-there is too many divorces occurring via fact of infidelity so in basic terms acquaintances would not artwork. He won't decide for to attend 8 months for you. i might shop watching different ability boyfriends, protecting him nevertheless in recommendations and conversing with flirting and wait till your somewhat older and then see the place it leads.
2016-10-03 00:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by hobin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends will be a bit different. Your friends will be older and probably already with kids or planning kids. Her friends will be younger and will have a different concept of socialising. Whatever you do, don't get jealous of her young male friends - because that's all they are: just friends! Be prepared that she may want to travel and explore a bit. Might suggest making that suggestion to her and doing it together. Go places neither of you have been before so that you create your own memories of new places. Good luck to both of you.
2006-10-27 02:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by Pierre D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all she is 18.....she is stilll a child! she will probably want to go out & party so if you are willing to deal with that then ok....if not then you better break it off now....the age difference doesnt really matter if you like each other but if she wants to have kids....no offense...but you probably wont be able to have kids for much longer!! so she might leave you for someone who can give her what she wants!!! if you really love each other everything will work out:)
2006-10-27 02:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋