i'm 21 and still a virgin and my boyfriend is 27 and we've been in a relationship for a year now and have not have sex yet. i wanted to wait until i really know him before i sleep with him, we are talking about marriage and having a furture together and things like that. my question is, should i wait til the homeymoon or should it matter cause we going to have a furture regarless. i wanted to wait to do that with someone special to me and someone that i would have a furture with and i think he is the one. thanks
2006-10-27 02:37:15 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I respect your feelings about sex, but I think you should consider taking the plunge NOW. If you are certain that you are going to marry this guy then do NOT wait until the honeymoon. Look, the first time you have sex will be awkward. Sure, it can still be very special, but it will likely hurt (unless you have practice on your own) and might just not be what you expect. Make that first night as man and wife special... don't make it an awkward night of confusion.
Finally... here is a point that so many never truly consider.... what if you and your man are not sexually compatible? As a woman, I know you are saying that doesn't matter, but what if your husband is not content with you? What if you are not a good lover and he feels the need to satisfy elsewhere??? Just asking.
2006-10-27 02:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Roger S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I really don't understand this waiting to be married thing. Sex is a very important part of a partnership and sex does change things between two people. How you can promise to be with someone for life and promise to have sex with that person for life AFTER a certain date, I can not grasp. Each to their own I guess so do what you think you are comfortable with. I would say though, if the guy has waited a year already and is willing to wait longer, he's either numb or pretty special
2006-10-27 02:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tuffy. I'd say wait cuz it would make the first time more special and memorable. But then again the first time is always weird and awkward even if you know each other cuz you don't know what each other likes and how they're going to respond to certain things. So on the other hand I'd say do it now, but just once or twice to get to know each other's moves, styles, etc. Then when the honeymoon comes you know what you're dealing with and you can go all out and MAKE it memorable! Good luck!
2006-10-27 02:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by pt_croozin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you truly feel that you are ready, that is the time to have sex. Not a minute before. You are engaged, and will be married soon. I see no reason why you can't wait, considering you've both waited this long already a few more weeks shouldn't make much difference.
2006-10-27 03:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its usually a case by case basis, and being the person in the relationship its hard to decipher a persons true intentions. You've waited this long. Tell him to wait. Quick side note: If youve never had sex before your honeymoon will be very uncomfortable for you. So, if you can feel it in your heart that he's the only one then go for it and your honeymoon will be incredible. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-27 03:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by NeVe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be asking that to us,dear.
it's up to you.
if i were you and we were about to get married,i would do it.
but it's really nice to wait for the fistr night of your marriage,so sweet.
let's say that he is not the one you will marry...but you are so in love,you love each other so much and for some reason you don't marry him.don't you want to make a deeper connection to your bodies?
i was waiting for the one,too.and i found it when i was 20.5 years old.of course at that time we were not thinking about marriage but he was the one for-his eyes were so true to me.
i don't know if i will end up with this guy but i'm so gratefull that he was my first.
so...take under concideration our questions but ths decision is yours and only yours.
i hope you will make the right choice.
2006-10-27 03:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by xadakia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you said you were waiting for some one special... is this the man that you want to be with for the rest of your life?? I'd call that very damn special... that's just me though:)
if it were me, i would say yes...
from the sound of what you said it's not that you want to wait for some one special, it's that you want to wait for the one you will marry, and your still not sure with this guy...
I would say, go for it... you only live once, and this will give you a chance to find out more about yourself, and him...
2006-10-27 02:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if ur damn sure that this is the guy with whom u r goin to have a future family , so an and so forth, i think there is nothing wrong in takin a final dip, but make sure u put a condom for extra safety and to avoid unwanted pregnacy at this juncture. make that someone special is the right person for u
thanks liza
2006-10-27 02:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by liza_clair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very proud of you and since you've waited this long why not do the right thing and wait until your honeymoon night. There isn't anything wrong with waiting these days ya know!
2006-10-27 02:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to put the sex into the rigt place. you are the one that makes it so important.. relax and do it immediately. if you wait for the honeymoon it may be surprising catastrophy and you gonna deal witha divorce hell after you are married. See what you got ..before marriage..
2006-10-27 02:57:54 · answer #10 · answered by cretanturk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋