how do you stop being jealous in a relationship?

Question

I get really jealous if my boyfriend even looks at another girl. Deep down i know he won't do anything but I'm just so scared he will.

Answer 1

Two things:

1. Self-esteem. He is with you and not other girls for a reason. Be happy about that. Work on your strengths and on what made him like you that much to begin with. You ARE worth it!

2. Trust. Unless he's done something to make you distrust him, let it go. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Don't make him have to earn your trust every second of every day. If you can't trust each other, what type of relationship do you really have?

Answer 2

Im going to tell you from my own experience that most of the time, we as woman have this instinct in us. If you are so jealous and keep thinking about it, even if he is not giving you obvious signs then there is a reason that you do not trust him.

I was with my ex for 12 years, I was always really jealous, looking through his things, listening in on phone calls, everything you could think of. I had no real evidence that he did anything wrong, but for some reason I always had this feeling. Turns out, after we got married he cheated and we are no longer together.

Now I have a new BF, we have been together a year and a half and we live a couple of hours away from each other. I have NO jealousy issues with him what so ever. I do not look through his things or ever feel like he is doing anything wrong. And he lives far away. So I think if we feel so Strongly about our jealousy, we know more that we see.

Good luck.

Answer 3

For starters, you could keep in mind the fact that coming across as jealous and insecure is the fastest way to undermine your relationship to the point that he might feel inclined to do something he shouldn't, or break up with you. Of course, he shouldn't look for the simple reason that it's inconsiderate of you, but if he starts thinking that actions like that will always bring out your insecurities, he's going to run for the exit and you might as well be pointing the way. Remember this the next time he does it. And if he doesn't get the idea that it's rude, then look at another guy just for the heck of it and see how it makes him feel. Then he'll get the picture.

Answer 4

If u know ur bf cares about u then u shouldn't have anything to worry about. A relationship needs trust and if u don't have that then it won't last for long. U need to learn to relax and just let it go. If u continue to act jealous then he will eventually go to someone else to get away from u. And u don't want that

Answer 5

Well to begin with TRUST is one of the major parts of a relationship.. Stop being so shallow until he gives you a reason not to trust to him.. You say he is looking at other women.. How do you know what he is looking at.. What do you want him to do sit and look at his hands in his lap.. when i go out i like to watch other people..So does that mean i want to go out and screw everyone i look at or happen to see pass.
If you don't trust him. get out of the relationship now and give the guy a break..
Being acused of something all the time is normally what makes them go out and do it..
Try remembering what it was that you liked about him in the beginning and if it is still there, trust him and forget about the other crap it will only make you and him both unhappy..
Learn the common respect and Trust that you need in the relationship.
good luck

Answer 6

I would love to know the answer to this... i'm a guy, and i get very jealous too...

My girl know's how i feel, she has told me that she tries not to do anything to make me jealous, but i still want stop feeling this way so much...

just sit down, and talk to him... tell him how you feel, and ask him for help... Men love to try and solve problems for their girlfriends...

Answer 7

I don't know how "I" STOP being jealous, I've never been jealous.
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If I have a potential gf that is jealous
my group of friends
who are mostly women
will usually do things that cause here to leave
which is good for me
because I plan on keeping my friends.
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Answer 8

Live with him for at least 5 years.. you will get over it and start to wish that another woman would take him out for just one night.
Men don't dig jealousy when it's out of control especially if he is being trustworthy. If you really like yourself you won't be afraid of other women. Men are always going to look, the sooner you learn to live with that the better.

Answer 9

Well, the only explanation for this is that you do not trust your boyfriend, that why you are jealous when your boyfriend look at another girl. If you want to cure this, have more confidence on him.

Answer 10

just be secured with yourself.....and your relationship....give the relationship the benefit of the doubt.....until proven otherwise....hopefully it will not......but dont make jealousy get the best of you...it can ruin your relationship...just keep saying to yourself that you are the best thing that happened to your boyfriend and hopefully he will see it and if he doesnt then know your self-worth and there will be someone out there that will.....love like you never loved before, so you will have no regrets.......trust him like it depends on your life and make the relationship solid. You cant stop someone from doing something but believe that if he loves he would not jeopardize what you guys have.