lately been back in the dating scene and just want to get to know someone and not have to make a life change at the end of 1 date. sometimes it seems that something is expected after 1 date? what do u think a first date should be and why do guys seem to think that way?
2006-10-27 02:24:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I expect a first date should be easy going. No pressure on either one to perform if they just don't feel like it. Going out with someone should be something you look forward to not worried about how you're going to escape sleeping with him. Maybe you haven't found the guy yet that turns you on. Some guys have told me that the women expect this too on a first date and they don't want to because there is no sexual attraction there yet for them because they don't really know her. So all guys don't expect to get laid on the first date. Keep looking maybe you'll run into one of these great guys.
2006-10-27 02:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A first date, should be something light and fun.Maybe dinner, a movie, a walk on the beach and kept short and sweet. The only reward a guy who is a gentleman might hope for at the end of a date, is a "thank you" and a kiss goodnight... You don't have to live up to their egos or expectations.
2006-10-27 09:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of guys out there who think with the wrong perspective, not all of us men do. I think you have a healthy approach to the dating scene, unfortunately it is stressful having to deal with weeding out the jerks as you go.
Take all the comfort time you need, the right man will fit right in because he understands and has the right values. He is out there.
2006-10-27 10:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by Keanu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys, i am not saying all. But sex of somekind is all that they think of when dating someone.. even on the first date..
but you do have a voice.. and if you say no you will find out on the first date if that is all they want or if they really want to be with you..
Never do anything until you are ready to do something..
Make it your idea if you want to do it.
If they don't like it they will move on to there next conquest and will tell you your answer.
2006-10-27 09:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think a first date, if it went just ok (or worse) should end in a nice hand shake...
if it went very well, a hug, maybe a kiss on the cheek...
that's just me... I wont ask for, nor even want what you mention as a 'reward' unless i'm in love... i wont have sex outside of love... which means that we'll be going on a number of dates befor i will do that...
i'm not out to get high numbers of woman, i'm out to find the right one...
2006-10-27 09:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The short answer: pick better guys. Also, think about making dates that end earlier, so the "end of the evening" is less climactic. Stay away from hand holding and other physical contact on a date: men are sexually simple and do not do well with mixed messages. Finally, pick better guys.
2006-10-27 09:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Shari Savage 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because that is how guys are see I want on a date and he asked if I can give him a little some thing if you know what I MEAN
2006-10-27 09:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by coulson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are not entitled to anything after any number of dates. It's up to you what you want to provide. It has to be something you feel comfortable with and not pressured by. You are not obligated to do anything. If you give "it" to a man, he'll take "it". How he feels about you in the morning and what you feel about yourself is what matters the most. You cannot establish respect until after some time of knowing someone.
2006-10-27 09:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by Wondering myself 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because you didn't communicate clearly to them as to what your objective was. Not all men are think that, as soon as you tell them exactly what you want out of the date, then there is no confusion, however if you don't, then they think it's possible to get more after the date.
2006-10-27 09:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by T W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that nothin should be expected at the end of one date and if a guy is expecting somethin somethin if u knoe what i mean then he isnt on the date to know u he is the date to knoe whats in between ur legs come honey we all knoe the game
2006-10-27 09:28:24 · answer #10 · answered by Nena 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋