Yes i know i should leave him but there is something deep down in my heart that aches when i think about dumping him. I also know that he is never going to be fully changed unless the fate decides but i dont know how to come over my warm feelings for him. Do you think its wrong that i still have feelings for him despite that he always cheated me by getting online and chatting with girls, and also marrying me for the sole reason of getting to usa. I'm being very cautious around him. I dont let him trick me again. He says he will try to apply for the immigration to other countries like australia and will never ask me to take him to usa if the idea of going to usa doesnt make me feel ok. But i'm scared what if when he gets the immigration of another country , is he likely to take revenge from me and dump me. If you guys think i should leave him, then tell me how to control my feelings for him. I dont want to be in pain. I' sickin tired of pain now. stress does lead to my health problems.
2006-10-27 02:23:56 · 10 answers · asked by mind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, he doesn't deserve you. He used you, cheated on you, lied to you...and will continue to do so...What's to love about this guy? If your best friend came to you with this same thing...think about what you would tell her. Yes, stress does lead to health problems...and even death...is he worth it and are you willing to deny yourself all things good down the line for him NOW?
2006-10-27 02:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to make yourself physically ill, You need to get yourself some counseling. Obviously you have feelings for him and he is not feeling the same way. Yes, that hurts, however, if you continue on with this the pain will only increase over time. So get yourself some counseling and begin dealing with whatever is lacking within yourself so you can move forward. You need to understand there is nothing you can do to make him be the man you want and desire. So please find some self love, love yourself as much as you think you love him and begin today feeling better. The feelings of loss of a relationship are not going to go away over night, however, you will heal, and the sooner you begin the sooner you will feel better. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-27 02:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he IS using you for the right to move from his country to another - once he been here long enough he will leave you because they can not deport him and if you let him marry you he will cheat on you until the divorce -- you already know this as per your posting-- move on and cut him loose--- time WILL heel all pain-- found another -- there are plenty of us out there-- good luck
2006-10-27 02:39:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i agree, you've forgiven him enough, u need to let him go and move on. Find someone else who loves you for being you....you sound like a really nice,genuine person and you deserve a lot better.....there are plenty more guys out there who will give you the treatment you deserve.
Good luck
2006-10-27 02:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by fairy_dust889 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for you --- he is going to hurt you again and again because all he wants is to get out of the country he lives in and get citizenship somewhere else --- i would venture that he is talking to a number of ladies from different countries trying to find one to marry and move
your health will be better in the long run without him i think
2006-10-27 02:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leaving him seems to be wise. you people are right and time is a greatest healer. try to concentrate on things you love to do and do it with your closest friends. spiritual method would be a great help as well like tai chi, yoga or any kind of activity that involved inner strength. remember to eat well and do plenty of exercise. chocolate is good for depress you know but remember, EXERCISE!
2006-10-27 02:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by ustazshifu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just need to not let him walk over you or take advantage of you. If he can not love you for love (and you have to love you) walk away but not as a hurt person as a proud person.
2006-10-27 02:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your instinct and gut is telling you to leave then do so. It is going to hurt if you leave him....it always will. But, it is better to do it now than later when you may have more at stake.
2006-10-27 02:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by kimberlylroderick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, the longer you let it go on, the more it will hurt. Cut your losses and get away from him NOW!
2006-10-27 02:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation is not right, leave him
TIME IS A GREAT HEALER! Trust me, its true
2006-10-27 02:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋