My future husband and I are so perfect for each other, he is an amazing guy, I adore him he loves me,we trust each other completely, we have toI was just called to work abroad, we are totally honest with each other ..we are getting married...I know that whatever he did before we met is in the past likewise for me.I have had 2 other men in my life, both long term relationships, the other day he told me he didnt know how many women he had had but it was more then 20 and less then 50!!!!!!
Iam not naive I dont assume for a second that Iam his first! he is almost 30, great looking guy...but is 20-50 a normal number for a man of that age? And if I know its all in the past why does it bother me so?
2006-10-27 02:09:03 · 25 answers · asked by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it would bother me as well! cant explain the feeling but i bet you know exacly what im talking about! but if he had met you before all those other girls he wouldnt have slept with them... coz then he already found the right one.. remember you have to go throuhg all the wrong 1s to find the right one!
2006-10-27 02:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Think U R B othered b coz u truely loved him and have certain nice affection on him and it is also u thinks that he is chosen by u for whole life . I think ur thoughts are such that,,, "i never leave his relationship forever".... but think on u r decisions while once befor u r going to commit great steps........... it's quiet natural that every person wants his or her partner to be honestful .... thats y u r bothering about him..any way take a wise decision and proceed
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2006-10-27 09:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by gupta4world 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that's pretty normal. If you think about it, if either of you should be upset about the past relationships it should be him. The ones that you had were obviously meaningful, whereas his couldn't have lasted too long or meant too much to him. He has to compete with the 2 other men that you were very close to for a long time. That would be harder to deal with don't you think?
2006-10-27 09:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers you, because you're afraid he's gonna leve you for one of them one day. like you dont fulfill him. but dont worry if he wants to marry you, then that means you mean more to him than any of those other girls. who knows, maybe most of them were one night stands, when he got tipsy, drunk, or went to the club with his guy friends. It's in the past let it go, if you trust him and he trust you, then dont worry about it. but in answer to your question, yes 20-50 is normal for a guy that age, because i kno plenty who have had 150 women by the age of 29! So feel lucky that your man has only had 20-50. you love him and want to marry him, and he loves you and wants to marry you, so let it go, its the past.
2006-10-27 09:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by mrs. wright 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To give you the reassurance that your looking for, most men "mature out" of many lifestyles in favor of a more secure "grown up" lifestyle. so after about the age of 30 most people dont carry on the young adult lifestyle that they have enjoyed in the past because they understand that the responisiblities of the next phase in there life.
if you looking for a "loose" sign of how he might act look at how his father is/was at that age. if he is a 'respectible' man chances are his son has carried on many of the same qualities.
2006-10-27 21:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Fruheaded 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has had a lot of women in the past. He is a very good looking guy who was, is, and will continue to be attractive to other women. He picked YOU to marry! That can be construed as quite a compliment!(I have been in his position: my last lover was very threatened by the fact that I had been with a lot of men before him but none of them meant nearly as much to me as he did when I finally met him).
2006-10-27 09:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves you! he is comitting his life to you. I know that we do something stupid in our pasts but think of the present and the future. You Are Getting Married! I hope you have a wonderful time with your husband and remember he loves only you now! Out of all the women in the world he chose you!
2006-10-27 09:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by fallinpointegrl06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had had more than 50 by the time I was his age.
2006-10-27 09:13:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have had a few years where he was just meeting women for gratification and that made the number jump. I would proceed with your relationship but keep an eye on his behavior
2006-10-27 10:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure of quantity, being the problem. If he can commit then the number is a moot point. Ignore the past, and concentrate on the future.
2006-10-27 09:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by R. W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋